TTC and Beyond!

[morganwhite7]

Not sure on that one BB.. but I think it would be smart to wait a cycle, bc you may need to hop back on track like last time!

Amanda (and everyone else considering BC)- What is the best method? I HATED the pills bc of the hormone element.. made me a raging bitch at times, and my cycles took months to get back on track again. Is there a smarter/better method? I hear the DEPO shot is also a NO-NO.. Jw what my options are. IUDs scare me but might be the smartest and best for my body when we're ready to TTC again.

It took me ~6 months to get pregnant both times so I think when Marley is ~1.5 years old we'll start again. Adding in the 9 mos, they could be anywhere from 2-3 years apart which sounds alright (even though I'd prefer closer, but w/e, don't think hubby would agree lol).

 

[brunettebimbo]

Just spoke to the receptionist. She said 21 days from first day of miscarriage bleeding so I'm going in on 26th March which is 20 days because I can't get in on day 21. Will that matter?

 

[morganwhite7]

I just wouldn't be surprised if your progesterone isn't very high.. It could be because 1.) you actually have low prog.. or 2.) you haven't O'd yet since your cycle can be a bit off after MC. I would definitely temp and use OPKs so that you can see if you O this cycle (and report it to the doc what day) and then the prog test would be more reliable!

You know, you wouldn't want them to say well it's low you need supplements when you actually hadn't O'd yet and it was normal!

 

[wavescrash]

Not sure on that one BB.. but I think it would be smart to wait a cycle, bc you may need to hop back on track like last time!

Amanda (and everyone else considering BC)- What is the best method? I HATED the pills bc of the hormone element.. made me a raging bitch at times, and my cycles took months to get back on track again. Is there a smarter/better method? I hear the DEPO shot is also a NO-NO.. Jw what my options are. IUDs scare me but might be the smartest and best for my body when we're ready to TTC again.

It took me ~6 months to get pregnant both times so I think when Marley is ~1.5 years old we'll start again. Adding in the 9 mos, they could be anywhere from 2-3 years apart which sounds alright (even though I'd prefer closer, but w/e, don't think hubby would agree lol).

I thought about getting my tubes tied during the c/s but I'm glad I didn't because once Leah was born, OH & I decided we may consider another a few years down the road once we're much more financially stable and the girls are a little older.

However, I'm going with the implant again. It's what I had after Hannah was born. It's good for 3 years and you can keep having it replaced when you get the old one removed. The side-effects are usually pretty minimal although there are some stories of extreme side-effects but that's how it is with any BC method. The biggest plus side of the implant is that you can conceive immediately afterward.

I had mine removed April 10th of last year. We started trying before it was removed because you can ovulate within days of the implant being removed but that didn't happen with me. I waited roughly 6 weeks (maybe a week or two less? I forget) to get my first period after BC. I conceived that cycle but had a chemical pregnancy. Counted day 1 of my bleeding from that m/c as the first day of my next period and conceived Hannah that cycle, ovulating on CD 14 like I would normally do.

So many people I came across (when contemplating having it removed and TTC) said they conceived within 3-4 months of having the implant removed. Many people said it happened before they even got their first period.

So I think that's what I'm going with again this time. I would never remember to take a pill, not a fan of the concept of the IUD and would never got anywhere near the shot based on the horrible stories and side effects I've heard about.

 

[brunettebimbo]

I just wouldn't be surprised if your progesterone isn't very high.. It could be because 1.) you actually have low prog.. or 2.) you haven't O'd yet since your cycle can be a bit off after MC. I would definitely temp and use OPKs so that you can see if you O this cycle (and report it to the doc what day) and then the prog test would be more reliable!

You know, you wouldn't want them to say well it's low you need supplements when you actually hadn't O'd yet and it was normal!

I was going to have a month off temping but decided that I best keep track of things for this reason. At least then I know when I've ovulated.

 

[morganwhite7]

Waves- Thanks!!! There are horror stories with them all, it seems. May consider that though, sounds like it'd work perfect for me. And how exciting that #4 may be in future plans!!! That is something to look forward to, no matter how long down the road. You are young so it's doable!

BB- May be a good idea to keep keeping track. I know it sucks.. hard to keep your mind off things when you know exactly what's going on. Praying for you guys. I think the issue may be the prog (an easy fix!) and I am KMFX for your sticky bean love!

 

[RobertRedford]

Morgan, with BC I think its all really personal preference. I don't like hormonal BC but will use it if its the best option at the time. i worry about remembering to take it every day with a little one. I had a lot of pain with my IUD, but that was because I had not had kids and my uterus did not like it.

Doctor just called re: my lab results from yesterday. She said that my "hormone level was slightly elevated". Uhm, it was 20 times higher than a negative result. I think thats a bit more than slightly elevated. No wonder I was freaking out about it being low! They're not all that optimistic.

 

[brunettebimbo]

Waves- Thanks!!! There are horror stories with them all, it seems. May consider that though, sounds like it'd work perfect for me. And how exciting that #4 may be in future plans!!! That is something to look forward to, no matter how long down the road. You are young so it's doable!

BB- May be a good idea to keep keeping track. I know it sucks.. hard to keep your mind off things when you know exactly what's going on. Praying for you guys. I think the issue may be the prog (an easy fix!) and I am KMFX for your sticky bean love!

I've just rang back and moved it to CD21. Work will just have to let me out.

 

[wavescrash]

Waves- Thanks!!! There are horror stories with them all, it seems. May consider that though, sounds like it'd work perfect for me. And how exciting that #4 may be in future plans!!! That is something to look forward to, no matter how long down the road. You are young so it's doable!

You're welcome! The implant itself is painless. The only part of the process that hurt was the shot they give you before implantation to numb the area. It was like the worst bee sting of my life lol. You get the same shot when they remove it (which they do by make a super tiny incision and pulling it out. Cover it with a steri-strip and wrap it with a bandage to leave on for 24 hours.) It's literally so tiny, it's like a matchstick.

Thanks! It may not happen... we do want to be done raising kids at a reasonable age so we can enjoy life since I've had kids since I was 18 lol. But anything can happen and we don't want to rule it out yet. We were both dead set against another one up until the moment they removed Leah from my belly lol. That moment is so awesome (no matter if it's via c/s or vaginal delivery) that we couldn't imagine NOT going through it again. But it wouldn't be fair to our current children if we didn't wait until we were much more stable and my body definitely needs time to recover completely lol.

 

[wavescrash]

Morgan, with BC I think its all really personal preference. I don't like hormonal BC but will use it if its the best option at the time. i worry about remembering to take it every day with a little one. I had a lot of pain with my IUD, but that was because I had not had kids and my uterus did not like it.

Doctor just called re: my lab results from yesterday. She said that my "hormone level was slightly elevated". Uhm, it was 20 times higher than a negative result. I think thats a bit more than slightly elevated. No wonder I was freaking out about it being low! They're not all that optimistic.

To be honest, I think they're not supposed to be very optimistic because ANYTHING can happen in those early weeks so they don't want to give you a false hope. As much as it really sucks to not have their confidence, I think it's better for them to be debby downers and you surprise them with superb HCG numbers and a successful pregnancy than for them to fill you with hope over a high number and something winds up going wrong, because then you question it like "Why would you make it sound so promising only for something to go wrong?"

Does that make sense? Lol.

 

[RobertRedford]

Waves, totally! its just frustrating, lol.

 

[RobertRedford]

The numbers actually seem really good now that I think about it. If I implanted at 4/5 dpo, and assuming they're doubling pretty normally, theyre just low because its realllllly early.

hypothetically:
Implantation (5dpo): 3
7dpo : 6
9dpo: 13
11 dpo: 26
13 dpo: 54
15 dpo: 108

We'll see what tomorrows numbers are like!

 

[Kiamaria83]

Amanda they are always so negative like amanda said they have to cover their back. It is so early still. When's your next scan? After about 6 weeks you can see so much more. I have another scan next tues.
Amanda she's gorgeous.
Bb I'm glad you're getting tests done. I waited a couple of months for my uterus to heal before getting preg again. The counselling will help you and you will have a bean in there soon. Hugs.
Its definitely a struggle dealing ms with a 2 year old. I feel so guilty because I dont have the energy to do lots of activities with him. I tried to explain about a baby in mummys tummy but he thinks it's in his. Its so cute watching him get his tummy out and saying" baby me tummy. "
I'm not taking any bc again. I haven't had any for 7 years. I think hubby is going for the snip after this baby.

 

[RobertRedford]

i have a scan again tomorrow which makes no sense to me. more undue stress but I also get more lab work back tomorrow which will hopefully ease my mind.

 

[Kiamaria83]

Just dont panic if they cant see much. Your numbers look good

 

[RobertRedford]

Kara, how did your appointment go?

Rachel, how is Miss Ellie today?

Thanks, Collette.

 

[frsttimemama]

My goodness, Chatty Cathy's! I just caught up and after reading all that, I forgot half!

Bb, glad you are getting some answers and some help! FX!

Waves, she's gorgeous! Sorry you are having a tough time!

Rachel, glad Ellie is doing great! Hope she gets out soon. Loves the book idea!

Katrina, yay for it only being $10! Hope you won't need it!

Collette, that sounds adorable!

Mirolee, so excited for your scan!

How are you feeling Morgan?

Is Harper moving more today, Britt?

Amanda, I think it's in their job description to be negative. I think that # is great though!


I don't think I am going to have anymore babies after this one.. I'm not sure what we will want down the road or what BC method we will take though. I almost kinda blame BCP for my PCOS though..

The weather sucks here. We have been out of power since 5 am. It's down to 53 in our house. Brr! Hopefully it comes back on. I just want my heating pad, bed and a steaming hot shower ALONE! Lol. Hubby is so sick and had a GIANT nosebleed (it bled and then seeped for 4 hours I found out when I got home) so we are at ER checking his nose out which finally stopped bleeding and for pneumonia and influenza.. bleh! Hopefully he gets better and something for this cough! He called me to bring him some lunch because we have no power so we can't cook.. so I did and fell down on my way in. Stupid ice and snow! Luckily I turned and landed on my butt/hip and hands kinda sitting up right on the cement side walk. Thankful for that! However, my pride and right hip and butt cheek are sore. Haha.

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Sandy- Still no BIG kicks.. I got a couple last night but today it's just been back to the squirmy feelings again.

RR- I wouldn't worry. I think you are fine. Just know going into your scan tomorrow that they could say something negative. I don't even think doctor's and nurses know that much about EARLY pregnancy. Just take what they say with a grain of salt. =]

As far as birth control after baby? We will just go back to condoms. I was on hormonal BC for 10 years and it really messed with me and I was starting to get stroke symptoms which is why I stopped taking it. Only thing is hubby gets "adventourous" with the timing in when he chooses to put on the condom.. that lead to some some scares before we were TTC. LOL. I think towards the end, we were just doing pull out. He hates condoms..

 

[morganwhite7]

^They're def the easiest but I just CAN'T fathom using condoms in marriage.. they're so dang expensive. And would make me feel like a teenager again lol. No fun either. Maybe avoiding O day? I dunno how effective that would be, but I guess we'll see.

Maybe I should just be enjoying my last month of no-worry sex. With Jaxon I bled for 3 months straight. hoping it's not that long this time but still.. life with periods blows.. Lol.

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

So true Morgan.. I hate them too (but enjoy no mess!) Now that I think back, we weren't even using them that much, he would just pull out but bleck. I kind of hate that. LOL. I have no idea what we we will do, but hormonal BC is not an option. Maybe I should consider Mirena or something?