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If nothing else it may convince af to come out of hiding. But maybe you will have a surprise.
 
I'm sorry to rain on everyone's parade but I gotta vent...


So yesterday was obviously Mother's Day but it was also my first day back to work, bright and early at 6am. OH was home with the girls so I was half expecting maybe a handmade card or something, but there was nothing. We can't really afford gifts and it's not a big deal to me to get one or not but you know... helping my 2 year old make me a card or color me a picture would have been nice. I do that for Father's Day every year, his birthday, etc. He's not a crafting type so I can understand it wouldn't be his first thought but it's not a rocket science-type idea, you know? So not only that but I wound up spending my evening making dinner and doing the dishes which took like 2-3 hours of my time. I was also very annoyed to come home and see he didn't even bother doing a load of dishes when the sink was overflowing. I was doing dishes and just stewing the whole time, trying not to flip out because I knew it wouldn't get us anywhere. But honestly how hard is it for a guy to think "Oh, it's mother's day... maybe I should show her how much we appreciate her and help out and maybe do some cleaning?" Especially after the day before I asked him to change the cat's litter box but he jokingly told me to do it. I flipped out saying I do all the cleaning and just ask him to take out the garbage and do the litter box. Reminded him how long it's been since he did a load of dishes, etc. So the litter box STILL hasn't been cleaned and he didn't even take note from that conversation and do any cleaning to help out yesterday on top of no handmade card from my toddler. As I was doing the dishes I was thinking about how I only ask him to do the litter and garbage but I have to remind him a hundred times, sometimes even nag before it gets done. I do his laundry, I fold his laundry, I put his laundry away. When it comes to making dinner (aside from mac & cheese or spaghetti or takeout) I do all the cooking. He's never made me a meal aside from pasta. I'm the only one who bathes the kids. The only one who makes sure bills are paid, make sure groceries are bought, etc. I literally run the show around here and sometimes I'd just like some help other than nighttime feedings and diaper changes. I mean he's great in many other ways - when I was pregnant, he let me nap all day if I needed to, did so much for me (aside from cleaning, bill paying, etc.) but I just wish every once in awhile he'd do a little more or be more thoughtful, you know?

Oh and he took the time out to call his mom, grandma AND aunt to wish them all a happy mother's day (which he should, not complaining that he did) but couldn't even think to help my daughter make me some silly homemade gift or card.

My 28th birthday is this Thursday and I was going to see if my mom would watch the girls Friday (she's babysitting until 5:30 but was going to see if she'd keep them awhile longer) so we could go to an Indians baseball game (one of my favorite things) for my bday. We don't have a ton of wiggle room with the budget this month but have more extra than we have in quite awhile. It would be a splurge but we haven't been able to do anything like that in a long time and it'd be for my birthday. Well he text me today and said his favorite band is coming to town in October and he wanted to know if I'd be ok with him going. I said that's fine seeing as I just went to a concert with friends two weeks ago. He asked if I could get online and buy his ticket plus this particular VIP package they have going. Ticket + VIP package is going to be just over $50 total and while we can swing it, it would mean absolutely no baseball game for my birthday. He let me go to my concert and has put up with me going over our friend's house a few nights a week for a few hours to go tanning (they have a tanning bed at their apartment complex) while he's only gone out for "fun" twice since the baby is born. Plus the concert is 3 weeks before HIS birthday and it's been a long time since he's seen them. So on one hand I want to just buy the ticket/VIP package for him but at the same time, I hate that it means giving up MY birthday plans (assuming my mom would agree to watch the girls longer on Friday) especially with how shitty my Mother's Day was and how much I do around the household. Ugh. Oh and to make Mother's Day suck a little more, my 8 year old (who lives with my parents) didn't even call me to say "hi" or "happy mother's day". I even called my mom last night and she didn't even get put on the phone. So Mother's Day sucked and my birthday is going to suck and I just really feel like nobody even cares.
 
Ugh Amanda! That would REALLY piss me off. Is there any way you could bring it up without it turning into a fight? I think it's kind of the father's deal to do Mother's Day when the child is pretty young, and the fact that he called his mother would make me even more mad.

That is the kind of stuff I worry about in my relationship. He really should have stepped up and done some cleaning for you, if nothing else!
 
Forgot to update. I'm seeing my consultant at 8.30 in the morning at the early pregnancy assessment unit.
 
Yeah, the game was a mutual decision. He has been saying he wanted to go out and do something just us for a few days now. He decided to hold off on me ordering the concert ticket for now. As for bringing everything else up, it won't turn into a fight because we really don't fight (just bicker or disagree and move on with it) but I don't think it'd make any difference because he'll forget by next Mother's Day and definitely won't do any cleaning without me nagging regardless. He's just a lazy guy lol.
 
I'm sorry Amanda. That really stinks! I would probably at least mention it. Maybe it will help you feel better.
 
ugh Amanda I'm so sorry, that's really frustrating. I feel like I've had those moments with my DH and I end up throwing all his clean clothes on the floor bc I'm so frustrated. We have been doing counselling with our Pastor, and that has really helped open our eyes to the different ways we think. I was totally expecting Marcos to brush off yesterday because we just have the dog but it was very important to me that he recognize me for one day with everything I do...he surprised me so that gives me hope that your DH will surprise you one of these days. That's really sad about your daughter though...you would think your mom would say something to her :hugs:
 
Sorry Amanda that really sucks. I was seething mad at DH bc he slept in and I thought he forgot Mother's Day bc he didn't give me a card or anything. I even cried in the shower for the same reasons you listed...all the housework, baby care, taking care of DHs rx refills and all the other little things he needs to live. Well he was leaving for work last night and I finally said, did you even get me a card?! He just smiled, said yes and gave Ellie and I kisses goodbye. I laid Ellie down in her pack n play and went upstairs. When I came down there was a card and jewelry box next to her. So I cried some more. He's such a nerd. He gave it to my stepmom to place in her pack n play the next time I put her down. Sometimes when you think they don't remember they surprise you. I hope your DH does something special for you. Even if it's late.
 
Rachel, how sweet! :) Glad Ellie is feeling better, too!

I was craving fresh pineapple so I cut one up, but I only had about 4 little pieces because I am afraid of what it will do to my blood sugar in the morning. And also, this hot weather sucks. 85 with 95% humidity in early May? I am SO miserable, and I'm not even big yet. Ugh. Fun stuff! Nonetheless, I am thankful. We were at Walmart tonight so I wandered thru the baby section, but it felt so weird. Maybe because I didn't love sny of it and I don't know what to buy and Hubby wasn't there with me ay the moment. Idk. Hopefully that gets better, although we don't need much.
 
Seen the hospital. I have anti phospholipid syndrome. During pregnancy I have to take 75mg aspirin, 5mg folic acid and an injection every day up to 6 weeks after birth. I will be seen every 6 weeks for blood tests. I will have 5-6 scans. I've just had some more bloods done and go back tonight to start the injections.
 
Bb- glad u have answers. This is your take home baby. Sorry it seems like alot of work, but totally worth it. What exactly is it ?
 
I googled it. It's an autoimmune hypercoaguable state caused by antiphospholipid antibodies that can cause clotting in veins and pregnancy related issues such as loss. It's treated with anticoagulation, usually heparin because that doesnt cross the placenta.
 
The injection is something beginning with C.
I've had a google and it looks like it can be triggered by something.
I don't know much yet. I was in shock so didn't ask much.
 
I didn't read much, just a glance. I'm just really glad you got some answers! And it's treatable! Praying BB.
 
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