TTC Blues

[baby4mepleaz]

My DH and I are currently on our 6th month of TTC and it just seems hopeless. I'm trying so hard not to overthink everything and stress myself out but it's difficult because having a baby is all I can think about. I want so badly to finally see that BFP and each month AF comes and absolutely crushes my spirit. I feel like every time I get on Facebook another person I know is announcing their pregnancy and while I'm happy for them it is such a blow to me and another reminder that I'm not pregnant. I also feel like I'm bumming DH out. I don't want to talk to my parents about this because I want to surprise them if/(hopefully) when we get a BFP. I also feel like I can't talk to my friends. A couple of them already have kids and had no problems ttc. A few of my other friends are still single and don't have babies on the brain so it feels like I'm alone on this journey.

I'm really trying to stay positive and remind myself that it can take a while for this to happen but it just feels like an impossible feat and I'm driving myself crazy any time I feel like I'm experiencing a certain symptom (nausea, sore BBs, fatigue).

I'm trying OPKs this month, taking a prenatal, and charting. I'm also considering using preseed. At this point, I'm open to anything that might help improve our chances. Any other suggestions on things to try?

 

[TnT2529]

I don't have any suggestions to offer, but I do know how you feel. It is so easy to become consumed, isn't it? I definitely know how it feels to have a hint of jealousy when others announce a pregnancy. DH and I have been trying for about a year now. I want a baby so badly . I can't help to feel like my body is failing me or like I'm failing my husband. I'm waiting for my clearblue fertility monitor to come in the mail so I'll have something new to obsess over ! I take vitamins and use preseed, but I'm taking a break from charting. My period has been irregular/nonexistent since my mom passed away 8 months ago. So this will be your first month using OPKs and charting? Do you have regular cycles?

 

[baby4mepleaz]

Thanks! I hope the fertility monitor helps you guys and so sorry to hear about your mom! I used OPKs once back in September but then decided to just try and let a few cycles run their course without getting too crazy. Since nothing has happened we decided to try using them again. I haven't been charting before this cycle but I've always been very regular so hopefully the combo of all of these efforts will finally yeild a positive result!

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

I understand how you're feeling, and totally agree with facebook. I've become so green with envy when I pop on there so I've written it off and don't go there anymore. All the things you're trying this cycle sound like great ideas OPKs and temping will really help you know exactly when you're O'ing. DH and I are trying preseed as well this cycle and we both enjoy it. It doesn't leave a funky feeling down below like a lot of lubes we've tried, and it's sperm friendly!

Just think, once we all have our bfp's and are holding LO in our arms - the struggle of ttc will have all been worth it.

 

[Lrowbie]

I'm feeling the same way right now. It's been just about a year of TTC an only heartbreak. We have had 3 miscarriages and I'm loosing hope. I don't know how to keep going. My best friend announced her pregnancy to me the day after I recently miscarried. I was 2 weeks behind her. We are so happy for them but it's a constant reminder of what we have lost and sometimes I have a hard time being around them. I can give you a few tricks on things I have done and used that May or may not have lead to positive tests... We use preseed, and love it, it's great! I have DH take zinc and vit c daily (good for the swimmers) I take prenatals and b6. I have flaxseed daily in a smoothie, also good for fertility. And around ovulation time I take a little bit of robitussin. Something with guicosoifine in it. Apperently it hps with thinning your cm, it has worked for me every month I took it except for this past one.

I hope some of this helps, I wish everyone the best of luck in our journey's!

 

[Kaychikan]

Yr 2 ttc for me my little sister is accidentally pregnant an my 2 friends are both planned pregnant after realising how long its taking me an not wanting to end up in my situation. Which really hurts btw. Using clomid vitex b complex prenatals and preseed. 2 chemicals in the last 2 yrs and next appointment not till the 14th. Completely losing hope and considering adoption etc but I dont think I can after seeing those bfps I just want a sticky one of my own. Im tired of the constant disappointment. An tryin to stay positive is so hard And takes so much effort
Hope u ladies get ur sticky bean soon and I hope this cd1 goes quickly as I cant cope with this negativity. Even though I know its af blues

 

[baby4mepleaz]

Thanks for the tips ladies! I've been taking prenatals but I'll definitely look into some vitamins for DH as well. Sending lots of good thoughts and positive baby vibes your way! Hopefully we'll all see that BFP soon and all of the frustration and heartache will be worth it!