awnmyown
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So when the DH and I decided we wanted to have kids, we set a date that we would start TTC. September 2015.
Now I'm a worried and a planner, and this is obviously THE least plan-able thing in your life. But hubby and I chose to make decisions and deadlines to help guide our TTC adventure.
I was wondering if anyone else did this, and if it actually made any difference? When you're actually living it, do these "deadlines" and decisions no longer matter? Does the heart trump? Desire? Or do they help because you made them when you were in a different mindspace?
For example, our deadlines are:
Start TTC: September 2015
If no conception, see physician by October 2016.
IVF: Max of 2 failed rounds; try for third if conceived.
Sperm donor: No
Egg donor: No
Surrogate with our own sperm/egg: Yes
Adoption: Pursue after 2 rounds of failed IVF
September 2018: Lastest date to being working towards adoption if TTC unsuccessful.
Now we know that our choices are just that, ours. And also that it's how we feel when discussing it right now, when everything is a giant question mark.
Has anyone else done this and found it helpful??
Now I'm a worried and a planner, and this is obviously THE least plan-able thing in your life. But hubby and I chose to make decisions and deadlines to help guide our TTC adventure.
I was wondering if anyone else did this, and if it actually made any difference? When you're actually living it, do these "deadlines" and decisions no longer matter? Does the heart trump? Desire? Or do they help because you made them when you were in a different mindspace?
For example, our deadlines are:
Start TTC: September 2015
If no conception, see physician by October 2016.
IVF: Max of 2 failed rounds; try for third if conceived.
Sperm donor: No
Egg donor: No
Surrogate with our own sperm/egg: Yes
Adoption: Pursue after 2 rounds of failed IVF
September 2018: Lastest date to being working towards adoption if TTC unsuccessful.
Now we know that our choices are just that, ours. And also that it's how we feel when discussing it right now, when everything is a giant question mark.
Has anyone else done this and found it helpful??