TTC getting me down

[bunni84]

Ok so i know its only been a few months of TTC for me but i'm already getting mum in law wondering why im not preg yet (bless her she never took pill nor did my sis in law..so both fell preg straight away, so they dont realise how badly the pill messes your body up), that completely got me down I feel like a failure that i cant even give my hubby a kid....plus missing my mum (been 6 months since she passed away...could that be affecting my body?)

And to top it off my bro in law told me i have to come for his wedding this November or he wont get married....what if i fall preg now? i cant go when pregnant....what to do!?

Plus i think all this stress has made me gain weight as well...so now i'm telling hubby i don't want to try anymore this year...he got a little upset as did I...its like do i lose weight and then try? or do we not try but not prevent (dont think i want to go back on the pill) so i can go to my bro in law's wedding...

im so confused

 

[silverbell]

It's not surprising you're feeling so confused - you're having people left, right and centre telling you what you should be doing.

It's your life and you can do whatever you choose to do with it. It's not up to anybody else to make those decisions for you.

If not trying any more this year is upsetting you both then why put yourselves through it? Don't - carry on TTC and it'll happen, I'm sure.

As for your brother - you'll have to deal with that situation if and when being pregnant at his wedding occurs. Don't worry about the 'what ifs'. Just go with the flow and see what happens and deal with any obstacles as they happen.

I'm sorry to hear your lost your mother recently. Yes, that could definitely affect your body due to the stress and emotional upheaval. 4 months really isn't very long - take a look at the statistics for getting pregnant and you'll see anything up to a year is normal. That's what I have to keep reminding myself too.

As for you being worried about your weight - you can still lose weight and TTC at the same time. Just stop once you get that , which I'm sure will be really soon.

PS I adore your user pic - is that your bunny?

 

[Freakycactus]

First of all

Why can't you go to your brother in law's wedding if you're pregnant? Is he getting married abroad?

Also, it's unreasonable of him to expect you to put your plans on hold for his wedding.

Stress and grief take their toll on your body, the best thing you can do is take care of yourself, eating properly, maybe doing some exercise, even if it's just going for a walk, making sure you have some 'me' time every day to relax and chill out.

Hope that helps.

 

[bunni84]

ah thank you my girlies!!

Yes lost mum 6 months ago and now TTC its sooo stressful, why is it i thought BAM i would be preg straight away?!

I hope my bro in law was joking about not marrying if i wasnt there...but i'm sure he'd understand why i couldnt go - yes wedding is in Pakistan and if im preg i do NOT want food poisoning, im sure that would affect the little one if i was preg (plus dont know if you can take malaria tabs if preg?!)...plus i haven't been there for 18 years! would in village area too - not very sanitary!

Silverbell - Really can take up to a year?! i so didnt know that thank you! Ah ok i will continue the weight loss programme then and i guess just TTC but not actively try or i stress myself out, if it happens, it happens right? And no..its not my bunny but if i did get one it would look exactly like that! its sooo cute! Bunnies are my fave animals, after kittens.

Freakycactus (love the name) - thank you..i got a week off next week - think that will definately be "me" time.and yeah now weather is warmer i may just go for more walks as well and even take the stairs more! thank youuu