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[Jaimie2Eyes]

Aw, sorry about the BFN love...I hate those things! But glad that you are feeling ok about it. We must be pretty close to each other in terms of our cycle..I am 11/12 DPO today...am playing the waiting game too. Fingers crossed xx

Yes, I can see why you were freaked out by that image coming up when you googled 'pregnant images'! Is that for real? Is it someone who has had a sex change? Or is it just a digitally altered photo?

That is a bonified he/she pregnancy LuckyD! America produces some amazing things, right?! I forget his name but he was born a woman, had a sex change, and then decided to parent a child with his female partner. Here is the Oprah scoop on it: https://www.oprah.com/relationships/Unprecedented-Pregnancy/1#slide

Ok, I'm being a little insensitive here and I apologize, but MyTurn posting that pic yesterday amused me to no end! It helped me laugh at myself and my frustrations with TTC. I've been pretty bitter so far this cycle and I need to remind myself that miracles do happen, and if this ain't a miracle then I don't know what is!

 

[Moondance]

Moondance, have you ever got tested for PCOS I am not 100% but I think if you always get positive OPKS it can be a sign of it might be worth looking in to may be hopefully you wont need to though FX

I got tested for PCOS. One doctor years ago reckoned I had it without any blood tests being done, or anything. Just said "oh yeah you definitely had it" without ANY diagnostics being done.
But I've been blood tested for hormones (relatively normal), and I've been ultrasounded (normal, not polycystic in any way, no bad things, normal shape and size and all that stuff)....
I have mentioned all this stuff multiple times before, because I didn't have the ultrasound for PCOS until like, Cycle 2. Internal ultrasound and all. And I got AF the day after it.


It could just be I have bad eyes and stuff, I mean, most pictures of tests where people say they can see faint lines, I can't see anything. And I appear to have trouble distinguishing between dark and light lines. TO me personally, my OPK test line always looks exactly the same, even if I'm in the middle of AF. But it could just be that my eyes are craptastic.
It's also confusing because usually HALF the line will be very dark and half the line will be equal to, lighter or darker than the control line. But I don't know what the half dark side means.

 

[tryforbaby2]

Jaimie, you don't need to pay for them! I'll just send them out in the mail tomorrow morning or this afternoon for you! I have 5 softcups (actually 6 but I opened one the other day to show my sister in law what they look like! ). I bought them at a Rite Aid but I can't find them anywhere else. If you cannot find them I'll pick them up for you and mail them unless you find them cheaper online!

Moon, I agree with honeylove, maybe try the digi opks!!! The lines are tough to read, you are right!
P.S. I love your ovulation song!!

Anna,its hot where you are at? It's raining and cruddy where I am at! lol

Honey, I am sorry you had it out with DH I hope everything is ok now! Ooooh cool about your friends house!!! I bet it'll look Fab! So where in your cycle are you? How is your CBFM?
Oh yea, and if my job was willing to pay someone new more money than myself (who already works very hard) I would like a nice polite conversation with my boss as well! Good Luck!!!!

Niamh, when I have a chance I will try to ebay a digi hpt that gives the weeks on Ebay and I'll buy it and post it just for you!!!!

bbdreams, yes we are here to have fun HOWEVER we are all like sisters. If we can listen to jane doe's rant about something 3 weeks ago, jane doe #2's rant last week and jane doe #3's rant yesterday,we sure as hell can listen to yours. Thats what we are here for.....support and love. I hope everything is ok

 

[Ejay]

Hiya all

sorry I haven't popped by for a while. Was working late last night and never made it home till late.

I have had a read through everyones posts.

I can't remember who posted what but heres a list of a few things that stuck in my head:

1) where is the video of the masturbating bird, I have never heard of anything like that before!
2) love the bump idea, everyones avatars look great, need to get my arse in gear and find some pics.
3)Niamh love the pics of your bumps and your family, I think they are fantastic

BB - don't feel like you have to stay away, we are all here to support each other through the good and bad times. At any one time some of us are feeling fantastic and some of us are feeling low, we all help balance the ride for each other.

Lucky - so pleased the job has worked out.

Well as for me, AF arrived in full on sunday night, but I am not too down about it. OH and I went to see the docs tonight. He said what I expected which is that we need to be trying for 18 months before they will do anything (we have been trying for nearly 9). However, he was the freakiest doctor I have ever met: a few choice quotes of the 20 minute appointment:

When i raised the issue of spotting before AF - "well thats interesting, humm, I don't know"

"do you have ammenoria?" - me "what the hell is that?" doc - "period pains" me "yes on the first day or so of my period" doc "that means you have ovulated" me "really I have never heard that"

to OH - "if you have been trying for a while and nothing has happened, then we normally start by testing the man. You have to go to the hospital and either give your sample then or do it just before and drive it to the hospital, thats not normally the best option as the little swimmers don't like being stuck in a jam jar, they tend to die"

"you don't have any funny problems down there do you?" "everything is normal" - OH - "well I think so" doc - "well sometimes the urethra on men comes out underneath instead of at the end" OH "nope I don't have that problem"


Overall comments:

"Well I don't know what to do for you really"
"try having sex on day 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19 and 20" " every day or every other day it doesn't make any difference"

Final comments:

"just keep banging away"

"any questions"


I don't think OH have ever laughed so much when we got out, I am not sure if this doctor was just bonkers or was trying to make light of the situation, either way it gave OH and I quite a bit to talk about!!!

 

[CelticNiamh]

Ejay what a freak LOL he hadnt a clue really had it bless !! talk about telling you what you already know crap he is making you wait though. GRRR go to another doctor and tell a big lie may be! Thanks glad you like them

tryforbaby2 here if you cant get one I will buy one and post it over to you so bad LOL I so can not wait to use one and see that PREGNANT 1-2 weeks sigh some day, some day LOL

Moondance soor hun I have such a bad memory I asked you that before and you told me didn't you. glad they checked you out and nothing was wrong. just damn mother nature taking her sweet ass time. I haven't a clue about OPKs as I have never used them may be a digi one is the way to go that that was it Jaimie and tryfor suggested!

Jaimie2Eyes thanks hun Yea that doctor assumption and not testing to confirm just annoyed me

here is BBdreams journal if any one wants to visit https://www.babyandbump.com/ttc-journals/332339-waiting-two-pink-lines.html#post5435402

Ive posted in the MACA thread about my funny super light AF and now spotting mixed with loads of EWCM that if I was OV and BD Ild be over the moon to see.

Oh and think when my Swab comes back I will need something stronger to shift my Thrush I think I still have it!!! annoying cause MACA has made me whats that song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRR721YpBWc
Or when I was on a boat trip in Cyprus the girl sang orney in stead of horney PML
My DS is sitting beside me with a tube of candy floss!!! I must resit!

 

[Ejay]

Oh by the way, I have started temp charting on FF, but In have no idea how to link it to this site, can anyone help?

 

[Ejay]

Ha Ha done it, only got 2 points on the chart so far but ya all can have a nosey. Thanksxx

 

[Tanikit]

Ejay that doctor is freaky - clearly knew nothing! Made me laugh though, but seriously get another doctor - does that one even have a degree?

Honeybee sorry you and DH had an argument - that always sucks, at the same time sometimes it is needed. Hope you can make up soon and that having it out with him does accomplish something.

Moondance gald the tests came back ok - that must be a relief.

BBdreams sorry you have been down - know the feeling, but we are not only here to have fun but also to support each other - I think a combination of tears and laughter is pretty healthy.

As for me I am feeling much better today - got some hope back. I have decided to start a sticker chart (care of my daughter) My thyroid tests came back bad (TSH high and T4 low) despite taking Eltroxin, so I need to sort that out and also I have decided to try exceptionally hard to get my sugars under control - I started today and while I know I will go low many times before it is better, it didn't go too badly today. So I decided for 6 different things that I will get "stickers" and when I have 30 I can buy a pregnancy test - when I have enough pregnancy tests then I'll switch to something a little more exciting perhaps, but then when I get my BFP I know I will have done my absolute best to achieve a healthy pregnancy and I'll get to pee on sticks as much as I like

DH and I are in therapy now and the women says that we will work to be able to conceive next cycle, so that gives me a lot of hope - at least I won't have tp put it on hold like I thought I might. And to be honest I am feeling very in love with my DH right now - not many men would agree to therapy for this.

 

[Jaimie2Eyes]

Aw Tanikit! I'm so happy you've got such a great game plan for your health! The stickers and rewards are a fantastic idea. It will really help to get your T4 adjusted - that throws everything off imho. I'm so glad you are grateful for your DH and his attitude towards therapy.

Ejay - your chart link works great! Glad you could share so many quotes from that doc - he was pretty darned funny! But he does not come across as a fertility expert - is that what you were hoping for or is he just a general practitioner?

 

[honeybee28]

thanks everyone.xxx

julia, i got my peak on saturday and sunday when dh was away - typical, so i guess im 2 dpo.

gonna go make up with dh now, so gotta dash. have a good eve.xxx

 

[Ejay]

Jaimie - your right he was definitely no fertility expert, he is my local GP but I have to get past him first as he would have to refer me and OH to a fertility specialist. Good old NHS

great my link works, I only have two points on my chart so far, but I thought it might give me peace of mind if I could see that I was ovulating normally.

OH and I are still laughing, the doctor decided to try and explain that for some people it doesn't work because they are just not compatable, and that if they go with different partners then they manage to get pregnant. I wasn't sure if he was trying to advocate an open relationship. OH says he's not keen on polygamy!!

 

[Ejay]

Tanikit - I hope he is qualified although "do you have any funny problems" doesn't appear to come from any medical basis that I know

 

[Jaimie2Eyes]

OH and I are still laughing, the doctor decided to try and explain that for some people it doesn't work because they are just not compatable, and that if they go with different partners then they manage to get pregnant. I wasn't sure if he was trying to advocate an open relationship. OH says he's not keen on polygamy!!

Oh good golly! That is friggin' ridiculous. Hope you get your BFP before you need a referral - more so I hope that nothing else happens where you need to see him for help again. He might suggest that you get a different body because some bodies just aren't compatible with your head !

 

[Ejay]

I hope we do too Jaimie.

I hate going to the doctors at the best of times, but I am sure I won't be going back any time soon, am terrified as to what the advice and treatment might be.

 

[Ejay]

Quote for the day:

"when the world says give up, Hope whispers "try one more time"" - Anon

 

[Annamumof2]

Anna hun thats pants, what is with that telling you she assums your hormones are prob all over the place yet does not take bloods to check did she mention it was prob the depo at all. hope you get some answers but it looks to me she is ruling out an infection or may be something else by doing the swab and smear. but to get a full picture she should have taken bloods I hate that your still in limbo land so fustrating!!! hey what or who is Skye LOL

LuckyD I know it was mad I was a little shocked really mental how things can get out of hand! the diet is a very basic bland diet so I need to eat foods low in carbs and sugars and saturated fats and more food high in protein. so swap all bread to brown rice, pasta, bread no sauces clean healthy living no sweeteners or fizzy drinks either I have to put my hand up and say I drink way to much Pespi Max my only vice. Yep Im very lucky she was very good I feel I will have some answers now.

Tanikit may be you have some advice for me on diet or do you have to watch yours that much

Tryfor thanks hun, I have to check your thread did you do a digi yet, I was thinking you might get the ones we have with the how many weeks you are off ebay may be! oh and it worked for you LOL

Moondance, have you ever got tested for PCOS I am not 100% but I think if you always get positive OPKS it can be a sign of it might be worth looking in to may be hopefully you wont need to though FX


bbdreams oh Hun we are here for you, I for one do not mind if you are feeling down and need to share Im am going to look for your journal if you want just post a link in your post I'm not sure how to link it to your sig! Im sorry your feeling so down

my daughter lol

 

[Annamumof2]

Jaimie, you don't need to pay for them! I'll just send them out in the mail tomorrow morning or this afternoon for you! I have 5 softcups (actually 6 but I opened one the other day to show my sister in law what they look like! ). I bought them at a Rite Aid but I can't find them anywhere else. If you cannot find them I'll pick them up for you and mail them unless you find them cheaper online!

Moon, I agree with honeylove, maybe try the digi opks!!! The lines are tough to read, you are right!
P.S. I love your ovulation song!!

Anna,its hot where you are at? It's raining and cruddy where I am at! lol

Honey, I am sorry you had it out with DH I hope everything is ok now! Ooooh cool about your friends house!!! I bet it'll look Fab! So where in your cycle are you? How is your CBFM?
Oh yea, and if my job was willing to pay someone new more money than myself (who already works very hard) I would like a nice polite conversation with my boss as well! Good Luck!!!!

Niamh, when I have a chance I will try to ebay a digi hpt that gives the weeks on Ebay and I'll buy it and post it just for you!!!!

bbdreams, yes we are here to have fun HOWEVER we are all like sisters. If we can listen to jane doe's rant about something 3 weeks ago, jane doe #2's rant last week and jane doe #3's rant yesterday,we sure as hell can listen to yours. Thats what we are here for.....support and love. I hope everything is ok

yep been roasting here

 

[LuckyD]

LuckyD Yay! for the longer LP! Maybe if us gals hold hands in a small circle and chant for the witch to stay away, maybe she will?......I really don't want her to show for you... I like to check in on my friends in ttc even though I haven't even fully ventured into the pg threads. I want to walk in first tri with my girls, hand in hand. I don't want to make new friends again. I'll quietly wait for you gals. I only will talk about pg in my hpt thread for now until I move my butt to first tri. Last week of not working - enjoy!!! And again,HUGE Congrats on your new job!!!!

Thanks lovely xx yep, am trying to enjoy this last week of freedom! I am so glad that you are still sticking around, I would miss you if you weren't here! And I like being able to see how you are doing xx

here i am!!! Sorry, me and dh had a huge row last night that carried on to this morning, didnt have time to check bnb. rubbish. i feel really shitty. i know it'll be ok, but i hate feeling like this and i know he's hurting too. blaaaaah. im just so highly strung sometimes, and he can get so moody, and we're both jealous people grrrrrr. We just need to spend a bit more quality time together i think.

so i had a mars bar and a can of fizzy pop for breakfast to cheer myself up lol.

ive had 5 phone backs about jobs, need to go and ring them all back, thank you for your good wishes everyone, fx it helps me! and work is so stressful gaaaah.
oh and get this, i saw a job on a website, doing what i do now, that pays £5k-£10k pa more than im on now. i contacted the consultant about it, it's only with my fecking company!! The cheek of it. Will talk to my boss when ive calmed down.

aw crap, honeybee - I hate the rows with OH, especially those that don't get resolved then carry on the next day. Hope that you two have managed to sort things out and that you are feeling better Also, that is rubbish about your company! Totally talk to your boss about it - I will be interested in what they have to say! Five phone backs already - woo hoo! Good luck x

Okay, so I have been avoiding this thread... I do not want to spread the sadness and depression that I am feeling amongst those tthf that don't want to hear about it. If someone could tell me how to link my journal to my sig I would link it, so that those who want to can read it.

Oh sweetie, I totally about to go and read your journal, but I just wanted to reiterate what the others have said - please feel free to talk about whatever you want in this thread, we are all here to support each other in the ups and the downs - big huge hugs to you

LuckyD I know it was mad I was a little shocked really mental how things can get out of hand! the diet is a very basic bland diet so I need to eat foods low in carbs and sugars and saturated fats and more food high in protein. so swap all bread to brown rice, pasta, bread no sauces clean healthy living no sweeteners or fizzy drinks either I have to put my hand up and say I drink way to much Pespi Max my only vice. Yep Im very lucky she was very good I feel I will have some answers now.

Yep, I was shocked too! I guess these things happen on forums, especially with a topic so sensitive as TTC - but still! The diet sounds very healthy! Do you get to have any sort of treat or anything? I always find that I am way better at being healthy when I can have a little treat now and then! Glad that you are feeling positive about your Drs visit - hope you do get those answers really soon x

That is a bonified he/she pregnancy LuckyD! America produces some amazing things, right?! I forget his name but he was born a woman, had a sex change, and then decided to parent a child with his female partner. Here is the Oprah scoop on it: https://www.oprah.com/relationships/Unprecedented-Pregnancy/1#slide

Ok, I'm being a little insensitive here and I apologize, but MyTurn posting that pic yesterday amused me to no end! It helped me laugh at myself and my frustrations with TTC. I've been pretty bitter so far this cycle and I need to remind myself that miracles do happen, and if this ain't a miracle then I don't know what is!

Wowzer! Actually, now you mention it I think I remember that! Pretty amazing story. Well, if he can do it, we can do it!

It's also confusing because usually HALF the line will be very dark and half the line will be equal to, lighter or darker than the control line. But I don't know what the half dark side means.

Hey Moondance, totally get your frustration with OPKs. Just thought I would add that if half the line is as dark or darker than the control line, it is still a positive - even if the other half is lighter. I know, confusing right!

Well as for me, AF arrived in full on sunday night, but I am not too down about it. OH and I went to see the docs tonight. He said what I expected which is that we need to be trying for 18 months before they will do anything (we have been trying for nearly 9). However, he was the freakiest doctor I have ever met: a few choice quotes of the 20 minute appointment:

When i raised the issue of spotting before AF - "well thats interesting, humm, I don't know"

"do you have ammenoria?" - me "what the hell is that?" doc - "period pains" me "yes on the first day or so of my period" doc "that means you have ovulated" me "really I have never heard that"

to OH - "if you have been trying for a while and nothing has happened, then we normally start by testing the man. You have to go to the hospital and either give your sample then or do it just before and drive it to the hospital, thats not normally the best option as the little swimmers don't like being stuck in a jam jar, they tend to die"

"you don't have any funny problems down there do you?" "everything is normal" - OH - "well I think so" doc - "well sometimes the urethra on men comes out underneath instead of at the end" OH "nope I don't have that problem"


Overall comments:

"Well I don't know what to do for you really"
"try having sex on day 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19 and 20" " every day or every other day it doesn't make any difference"

Final comments:

"just keep banging away"

"any questions"


I don't think OH have ever laughed so much when we got out, I am not sure if this doctor was just bonkers or was trying to make light of the situation, either way it gave OH and I quite a bit to talk about!!!

Oh my god! I am glad that you are OH had a laugh about it! It is pretty funny - but kind of freaky too! Do you have another Dr you can go to? I can't believe he said things like 'down there' - if a Dr can't use the proper medical terms for parts of the body, who can? And what's the deal about cramping on the first day of your period meaning you have ovulated? I don't think that's the way it works! Yikes!

As for me I am feeling much better today - got some hope back. I have decided to start a sticker chart (care of my daughter) My thyroid tests came back bad (TSH high and T4 low) despite taking Eltroxin, so I need to sort that out and also I have decided to try exceptionally hard to get my sugars under control - I started today and while I know I will go low many times before it is better, it didn't go too badly today. So I decided for 6 different things that I will get "stickers" and when I have 30 I can buy a pregnancy test - when I have enough pregnancy tests then I'll switch to something a little more exciting perhaps, but then when I get my BFP I know I will have done my absolute best to achieve a healthy pregnancy and I'll get to pee on sticks as much as I like

DH and I are in therapy now and the women says that we will work to be able to conceive next cycle, so that gives me a lot of hope - at least I won't have tp put it on hold like I thought I might. And to be honest I am feeling very in love with my DH right now - not many men would agree to therapy for this.

Aw Tanikit, this made me truly happy to read. I am so glad that you are feeing better about things. Love the sticker chart idea! And am so glad that you are having a positive experience in therapy so far. I really, really hope things continue to go well love


Well, I tested this morning and BFN. So that is me out. I am 12/13 dpo and it was an early detection test, so it would have shown up. Am expecting AF today, although hasn't arrived yet. I am ok. Disappointed, but ok, and trying to focus on the positives. I had a big rant about it all in my journal, so feel free to visit if you want the whole run down. Thanks for all your support lovely ladies!!

 

[SquirrelGirl]

everyone!!! So I was going to try to respond to all the stuff that I just got caught up on, but multi-quotes of quotes with multiquotes in it gets waaaaaaaaaaay too complicated....

So, what is the deal with some post that made Celtic worry about posting her pics here? Celtic, never worry about it here!!! Besides we asked you to post them!

And BB -- same as everyone else for me. We all go through the ups and downs. By sharing the downs, we'll have more "ups" I say! Get it off your chest and let us help you through it!

I know there were other things I wanted to comment on, just don't have the mental capacity to recall it all right now! It was a long day at work, and I need to get off my rear and take my doggie for a walk! oh, and get some yoga in! Hey, if it helped Tryfor get hers, I'm all about it all over again!

 

[SquirrelGirl]

Where is everybody??? I"m starting to feel like I've stepped into some alternate BnB universe where I'm the only one left or something! It's like no one is posting on any of the threads I'm subscribed to!!