UGH! Why can't people just listen before saying crap?!

[LeaArr]

So, I understand people are just trying to be helpful, but I just wish that SOMEONE would LISTEN to me before they open thier mouths.
I just ordered flowers for my Grandma and Mother for Mother's Day (coming up this Sunday in North America) and it reminded me that this was supposed to be my last childless mother's day. On top of that, who makes Mother's Day cards for Angel Mommies. NO ONE! I guess if you don't have a child in your arms, you aren't really a mother? Horseshit!
I have tried talking to people about how I'm feeling, and the response is pretty much the same from everyone, "Oh well. Next year hopefully" Uh, excuse me, a new child can't replace my angel. Saying that to me is not helpful at all.
Sorry for venting anger, it's just really hurtful at a rather sensitive time.

 

[bklove]

 

[babytots]

oh hunni i too wonder why they dont make cards for angel mummys at mothers day. do you know anyone who does handmade ones that could make you one or even if you get your dh to get some things from a craft shop and make one and it will be extra special as your dh put effort into it iykwim.

grrrr at the people who say that to you too. some people just dont know that these type of comments hurt. we want the baby we lost here with us x

 

[hayley x]

Maybe your partner could make you your own special personalised card?? Your still a mummy xx

 

[CarCam]

 

[todteach]

I'm so sorry hun. Big . Here is a poem that I love:

A Mother's Day Wish From Heaven



Dear Mr. Hallmark,



I am writing to you from heaven,

and though it must appear



A rather strange idea,

I see everything from here.



I just popped in to visit,

your stores to find a card



A card of love for my mother,

as this day for her is hard.



There must be some mistake I thought,

every card you could imagine



Except I could not find a card,

from a child who lives in heaven.



She is still a mother too,

no matter where I reside



I had to leave, she understands,

but oh the tears she's cried.



I thought that if I wrote you,

that you would come to know



That though I live in heaven now,

I still love my mother so.



She talks with me, and dreams with me;

we still share laughter too,



Memories our way of speaking now,

would you see what you could do?



My mother carries me in her heart,

her tears she hides from sight.



She writes poems to honor me,

sometimes far into the night



She plants flowers in my garden,

there my living memory dwells



She writes to other grieving parents,

trying to ease their pain as well.



So you see Mr. Hallmark,

though I no longer live on earth



I must find a way,

to remind her of her wondrous worth



She needs to be honored,

and remembered too



Just as the children of earth will do.



Thank you Mr. Hallmark,

I know you'll do your best



I have done all I can do;

to you I'll leave the rest.



Find a way to tell her,

how much she means to me



Until I can do it for myself,

when she joins me in eternity.

 

[CarCam]

Oh, I am so, so sorry. I can't imagine how painful this must be for you. I remember my "first" real Mother's Day- I was still pregnant. I felt that I was already a Mommy and I wanted to do something a little special that day, but people basically laughed at me.

So, people can be very rude and completely clueless.

Try not to let it get to you. You know you are a Mommy, and your baby knows also. That is all that matters. Maybe you can have some quiet time and do something with just the "two" of you. Maybe go for a walk and pick some flowers, or just close your eyes and talk to your baby.

 

[BlackBerry25]

I work at Carlton Cards, I am on mat leave right now, but I am gonna email my regional manager and ask her about it. They may have some cards, I know they often try to do cards like that.

 

[orange-sox]

I've emailed Hallmark etc about this before, as there are 17 still births a day in the uk, there is most definately not a lack of demand for this type of product... I imagine it would bring great comfort to a lot of people.

I'm sorry that people respond that way, it happens to me too and it makes me so frickin mad I could scream

 

[LeaArr]

Thanks ladies. You guys are wonderful