Ugh, why do I do it to myself?

[xAmiixLouisex]

I swore I wouldn't. I've been SO good for so long. But.. I text him

Reason being.. I don't think he knows Jayden's due date. I've never told him. Probably because he's never cared but yeah..

I sent a text saying "Are you ready to discuss things yet? I just thought I'd at least ask because it's getting a little close now.. Jay's due in 10 weeks."

And of course, nothing! No reply. Because he DOES not care. But once again, I held on to that little bit hope that my son will have a dad that actually wants him.

I feel so stupid right now. I do so well, then days like this I just throw it out the window and let this stupid asshole get to me.

 

[Laura2919]

There comes a point where you just have to let things go. you cant make someone be involved, you can only ask them to be if he then turns and says no there is nothing you can do.
It's going to hurt but you can do this just you and your boy. He is missing out not you.

 

[BadassMom]

It'll get easier and easier with time. But don't be too hard on yourself for slipping up. It happens to the best of us.... and at least you'll be able to say you tried to get him involved.

 

[Dezireey]

Don't worry hun, I've done this loads of times with good long breaks in between and then bam , I gave in and texted him. If I was being nasty and asking him what he was going to do?, he, of course would ignore me. Recently I have texted and been nice, surprise, surprise he responds immediately. If I talk about the baby, he goes quiet again.

I don't beat myself up about it now and I haven't contacted him and don't particularly want to anymore, as I can't be bothered to make any more effort. I've said my bit, I've done all I can and that is that. There is no more you can do really. Men are strange creatures and the more you push and demand things from a lot of them, the more they hide away in their cave.

Best thing is to have him not interested or come around in the end of his own accord than force anything on him. I'd rather my FOB show up in 12 years time desperate to get involved than make a man be a father now when he obviously doesn't want to. Best thing really is to leave them to it and let them live now with their decision.

 

[dustbunny]

I think it was a natural response to try and get in contact with him, a maternal response. Try and not beat yourself up too badly about it. Even with my FOB [and we all know how much I rant about him] I still get my hopes up he'll be in contact and he never is... but my point is it does get easier.
You have to remind yourself you have tried to include him in everything and he has just not been bothered which is his fault, not yours.

 

[teal]

As the other lovely ladies have said it does get easier. I promise you, it will.

He'll be the one who misses out on being a part of your wonderful little boys life xx