Uh oh...

[young-mummy]

for the people that dont know, me and FOB dont particually get along! altho he will be in LO's life and i still love him i do not want to get back with him due to the problems throught my pregnancy.
the only thing is, hes begging for me back and since january but still dfoes things to upset me. its been so easy to tell him no because he is in the army 5 hours away from me and hasnt been home, so i always say untill i see you face to face i dont really want to discuss things to deeply.
but now hes dropped the bomb shell that hes left the army and he will be moving home in 2 weeks :O
he only lives 5 mins away from me, its going to be soo hard and ill see him everywere now.
ughhhhh how would you go about this?
would you let him see LO whenever and just be a text away or would you set up dates and times? xxx

 

[chels24uk]

when my ex moved out, he moved less than 5 mins away to start with. We actually saw eachother almost daily (but i wasnt over him so thats prob why) after we briefly got back together and broke up again, I set days for him to see his son. He'd pick him up from school on a Wednesday and bring him home and stay until bedtime, then hed have him on a Saturday overnight at his and bring him home on the Sunday and be just a text away if I needed help with him. That worked well for us until he moved over 400 miles away.I think setting a schedule for access, regardless of distance, is best for child and mother.
x

 

[angelpkj]

i know how u feel can't really give any advice cause i'm gunna be in the same situation soon enough regarding how the whole arranging meetin works thing :/

 

[young-mummy]

Im dreading it though because i no if i tell him i want certain times and days but he can still text me about LO he will say no its not ment to be like that but i think if i just see him whenever then its no routine and then it may give him faulse hope to get back with him. like hes always tallking abour "family days out" because i will be BF but i think he sees it as me and him hand in hand on a summers day pushin LO.. but it wont be like that it will be walking side by side trying not to get too personal! its so hard, i think ill just have to wait untill hes come to mine and met LO a few times and then make a decision how we will do it from there. ANGELPKJ how do u thing ur going to do it? xx