Uk scan question

[shelleyzeus]

Does anyone know if the dads are allowed payed time off to go to the scans?
Ive got mine on wednesday and my partner has been told he can have it off but hes got to make the time up to get payed

 

[Serenyx]

No - father's do not get paid time off to attend any antenatal appointments (we checked).

My DH has had to take all of our appointments as annual leave.

Here is the page from the government website which explains what they are entitled to:

Paternity Pay and Leave

Scroll down to the bottom for the part about antenatal appointments Technically they don't even have to let them take the time off, let alone pay them for it However you will find that most companies are pretty good about letting them have the time off if they make up the time later or take it as leave.

 

[Mrsturner]

Annoyingly, no, employers aren't obliged to pay partners for time off for scans. X

 

[Julz27]

No, it's only us that get paid.

My work cheat the system though. They give me my appointment day as my day off that week (as I work Saturdays too) so they don't have to pay me at all. It's rubbish.

 

[MrsPear]

As the others have said, it's at the discretion of the employer. My OH's boss let him out of work for the scan but she's not obliged. If there was too much work on that day he just wouldn't be able to come.

 

[vickyandchick]

They're not obliged to but my FOB's manager said he didn't have a problem with him taking an hour or two to go see his baby as he always gets to work earlier and leaves later than he has to. Think in most places he'd have to take it as leave or make up an hour extra.

 

[DocMcStuffins]

Like the others have said, no the partner has no rights to time off for antenatal appointments or scans.

Luckily my oh's employers are brilliant and allow him to start late, finish early or take a couple hours out in the middle of the day in order to attend scans etc, and they don't expect him to make up the time. But my oh always has worked more than his fair share of late evenings and early starts so I don't think they mind at all.

X

 

[smurfette85]

What happens at 20 week scan do u see midwife too ?? I have my 20 week scan on wed too xx

 

[shelleyzeus]

Yes you see the midwife but i dont think they take anymore bloods.
My hospital wont let my partner come in to see the midwife at first which i dont think is fair

 

[Rickles]

Yes you see the midwife but i dont think they take anymore bloods.
My hospital wont let my partner come in to see the midwife at first which i dont think is fair

That's probably because they ask you a few questions about domestic violence/abuse / homelife (which increases significantly in pregnant women) - They don't like your partner to be there for obvious reasons!!

xx

 

[Unexpected212]

Nope my husband taken them all as annual leave

 

[shelleyzeus]

Yes you see the midwife but i dont think they take anymore bloods.
My hospital wont let my partner come in to see the midwife at first which i dont think is fair

That's probably because they ask you a few questions about domestic violence/abuse / homelife (which increases significantly in pregnant women) - They don't like your partner to be there for obvious reasons!!

xx

It should be my choice if i want him in there or not.
Dads dont feel included enough as it is x

 

[burrr]

Yes you see the midwife but i dont think they take anymore bloods.
My hospital wont let my partner come in to see the midwife at first which i dont think is fair

That's probably because they ask you a few questions about domestic violence/abuse / homelife (which increases significantly in pregnant women) - They don't like your partner to be there for obvious reasons!!

xx

It should be my choice if i want him in there or not.
Dads dont feel included enough as it is x

But if they did that they wouldn't be less likely to get accurate information about any problems in the relationship. If a woman was being abused she's less likely to say so if the abuser is sitting next to her.

It might not seem fair on your partner but it's about protecting women and babies as much as possible.

 

[RosieRosieP]

Like the pp have said his employers are not obliged to. Having said that hubby employers have been very good about him attending midwife, scan and consultant appts with me. Luckily they have all been first or last thing in the day so far x

 

[shelleyzeus]

They didnt ask me any questions when i went on my own for my 12wk scan.
I can see why they do it tho x

 

[burrr]

No, they didn't ask me at 12 weeks either, 20 weeks must be when they schedule that one for. In fact, at my 12 week scan all talks with the midwife were held in the corridor in front of other waiting patients, not very confidential!

I also read of some hospitals not letting fathers into the scan until abnormalities have been ruled out, because sometimes they've highlighted an abnormality that is genetic, only to find out that it doesn't run in the father's family and it turns out that the father is not the bio dad and he didn't know that was a possibility. So by doing all that without the father present, the mother has the choice about what to say to her partner. I don't think most places do that though. I haven't heard of it happening in my area and I'd be quite put out if my partner couldn't come in to the actual scan as she's female and therefore we've blatantly used donor sperm!