Unappreciated comments from others (a rant)

[Bevziibubble]

LOL!

 

[c1403]

It is frustrating and has bothered me so many times when people try and tell me how to parent or what I'm doing wrong....however I do think though that sometimes people just say things to perhaps lighten the situation. For example sometimes if I see another parent having a rough time, I would say don't worry been there. Not in a patronising way but sympathetic as I know how stressful a toddler tantrum can be.

 

[_Meep_]

Obviously the LAST thing ANYONE needs when their baby/toddler is playing up is some arse making a shitty comment, so I always do the same sort of thing.

Luckily, LO is generally with me in public and is fascinated by other children crying or making a scene etc. so when we see one and she pipes up 'That baby is crying!' or 'That boy is sad/angry!' I'll just say something slightly lame but with the best intentions, like 'Yes, you used to cry all the time when you were a baby, too!' or 'Yes, you feel sad and shout sometimes as well, don't you?' and hope that the other mum hears.

It means I don't have to make direct contact and potentially get my head ripped off lol, but hopefully makes her feel like she's not completely alone! We've all been there and should be supporting each other, whether we're new mums or old ladies. Unfortunately, I think we've all found old ladies to be the absolute worst!

 

[catty]

Old ladies are total c**ts honestly! (Never use that word ever just seemed appropriate)

Some old woman was shouting at me for allowing my son to have a toy in his mouth, a large toy, hes going to choke!!! I actually blanked her so she started to discuss it with him eughh leave me in peace to do my shopping hes not going to choke on a 12 inch spiderman

 

[_Meep_]

They really are. I think a lot of them are bitter about how their own children turned out, so they take it out on everyone else.

 

[Deleon63]

Good job mom on keeping firm on your response to Violet, and sorry you had to experience that negative comment.

Many times when people are not compassionate with their words I tend to justify their actions and think, maybe they're having a bad day. Maybe something is bother that person and don't know how to handle it so they jump on other people.

What's helped me is that I try my best not to take things personal and that helps me see people with love and not how they really are.

 

[Spudtastic]

I like this thread.

I hate it when people comment on my parenting techniques and then try to force me to do it their way. A couple examples are when we've been staying at a group holiday house and also when we had guests at our house. Both times I had put the kids to bed and I was downstairs with the baby monitor near me. First time my eldest daughter was 9 months old. Second time my youngest was also 9 months old. Both times I was told to turn the monitor off. One person even grabbed the monitor from me and turned it off and took it away telling me to just ignore the kids if they awake. I was so angry. I snatched the monitor back both times.

 

[Babybump87]

My mum is the worst at back handed comments although she doesn't give a fcuk and hardly comes to see them. She's always just watching and waiting to say or do something that will totally piss me off and I feel like screaming!!.

ooo thats really out of hand taking your baby monitor. I would go mental !!.

 

[Twag]

Love this I thought I was the only one suffering from every other person being so fecking perfect!

Rod for my own back = check had that one
You have made them needy =
Don't give them cuddles when they have hurt themselves as they are just playing for attention - NO they are my babies and have hurt themselves and need me END OF
Oh and when are you stopping breastfeeding that is sick = when I want too end of!


The ones I love best is when one of them is crying for whatever reason and we are food shopping or queuing to pay and an old busy body says Oh somebody isn't happy - NO really I didn't notice I must blacked out for a second - Nope I am trying to get this done quickly so I can leave - thanks tho

Oh and if someone took my monitor and turned it off I would have gone mental! How dare they!

 

[kazzzzy]

This drives me absolutely mad !! I've had my fair share of unwanted comments from people about Emily over her 5 years, my Mother does it sometimes but is not as bad as she was after a few heated discussions over the years! She was always commenting that we don't have a bath in the house, only a shower, anytime we visited she'd say - why don't u bath Emily here in our bath, babies needs baths etc etc!! We got on fine with the shower and a large baby bath!! There has been lots more comments on Emily's behavior etc and since she has been diagnosed on the milder end of the autism spectrum I've received many ignorant comments when Emily is having tantrums etc, its the last thing you want when you are all ready stressed dealing with tantrums!! Butt out with the comments please!!

 

[hayz_baby]

I keep my mouth shut but I'm kinda happy with the karma train. A friend a few years ago "of he keeps waking early why don't you keep him up later?" The other day on fb.. "why won't he sleep past 4am?!" Not the first one..

Same friend who criticised why we erf.. now has an erf...

 

[_Meep_]

 

[LoraLoo]

On the flip side, Nellie has just had a screaming fit in aldi and I had some really nice comments and a lady iffered to either hold her for me while I packed, or pack for me. I decline but thanked her for her offer, thought it was really thoughtful.

 

[Bevziibubble]

Aww that was sweet of the lady

 

[LoraLoo]

It was 😃 x

 

[catty]

Thats really nice of her! Iv also had some really lovely people in supermarkets, mostly the cashier.

 

[Twag]

That is nice of her I have had some nice comments from cashiers tbh like when my son was having a complete meltdown in a garden centre just before Christmas (laying on the floor) as he wanted to stay and watch the trains but we had already watched them for half an hour and it was now lunchtime and she was all awww it is so hard for them as they get all excited and don't know what to do with themselves - that helped as I was worrying about all the looks :eyes:

 

[_Meep_]

Aww, I bet she really wanted you to say yes so she could get a hold of a gorgeous little baby!