University...or gap year?

[happy-evie]

i want to try my best and still go to university this september...i feel like i can do it and i do drive if i dont wanna take the train or bus....but then i keep thinking weather or not it will be more sensible for me to take a gap year?...i still want to continue with things like normal and (want mum to be proud)......any opinions are welcome guys..x

 

[divershona]

i can't tell you what to do hun ... ive got my own similar worries on the subject lol

only thing i can suggest is talking to the uni that your planning on going to, see what the options are for childcare? see whether you are still able to do the course (some courses you can't do when your pregnant ... i imagine something like micro-biology or chemistry ... radiology too i would of thought because of the risks to the baby) definately worth asking or speaking to a career's advisor at your college or school if thats possible or maybe talk to connexions who might be able to offer more advice on the subject.

hope this is of some use?

 

[Sophiiie]

Same as Shona said, it's worth talking to the uni you're going to and see what they suggest/can offer x

 

[blinkybaby]

Hey hunny, I was approaching the end of my first year at uni when I found out I was pregnant, and I have spoken to my uni and they will be letting me intermit a year until September 2011. Lots of people to take gap years to go travelling etc, in my opinion if you did take a gap year you would be doing something much more worthwhile, being a mummy! Plus if you decided to go in September, you would pretty much be heavily pregnant or about to give birth in the middle of your exams and essay deadlines etc. Having been there myself this year it is very stressful and I could not have done it being 8-9 months pregnant. Just something to think about. If I were you I would intermit, it will give you some real quality time with your baby when it gets here and you would be in a good routine by the time you do decide to go to uni.

Good luck! and congrats! xx

 

[pinkribbon]

I finished my second year in June/July ish and I've decided to take a gap year. Personally I want to just enjoy the year with my son and then go back next year in September when he'll be about 1 and the uni can help me with childcare. It is up to you, but it'll be hard work when you're feeling tired and sluggish, trust me I've been there.

 

[Eabha'sMum]

depends what you are hoping to do, facilites available and just how you feel yourself.

if you have long hours, or if it is a lot of independant study.

personally before things happened, I had planned on going back until October.

I am studying nursing, and I am in class until Decmeber, and bacause we have to go to all classes, I had to take a year off, no choice. So I would have been about 35/36 weeks when I was going of, and my little girl would be 11 months when I go back... but now I have to take from September off, and go back 2011, when she is 10 months... if she gets to full term...

It may be best just to get in touch with the course leader and see what advice and guidance they can offer

xx​

 

[mayb_baby]

I agree with what everyone else said all situations differ.
Me I'm deferring my entery until Sept 2011 to do my English degree then I plan on doing a PGCE for the first 3years my course is only 9hours a week 3days so my LO will be 9 months f'xd and OHs mum want's to do the baby sitting so I'm sorted xxxx

 

[space-game-91]

I'm due in January, I'll be going into my second year in September, I'm doing a computing course, so a lot of our work is independant and web based, so I'm leaving uni at Christmas and I plan on going back to uni in February/March and doing the work at home in between.
I'm not lucky enough to live by mine or my OH's parents and my OH is a full time student too, but my university has brilliant childcare facilities and I'll get some help from Student Finance for childcare costs, so it'll hopefully all go well
I have to have it all finalised with my tutors, but it seems as though I can have it all the way I want it.
I've got an appointment with my university's financial counsellor on Friday to see what would be the best financial option for me and my OH.
If you're determined then you'll be able to do it, I think having a baby will make me even more determined to get a good classification at the end of my degree, I know it'll be difficult, but it'll all be worth it in the end

Feel free to message me if you want to chat about anything, i'm 19 too and I'm a little bit further along than you, but we're in a similar situation x

 

[happy-evie]

thanks girls...yh it is alot of independant study and the uni isnt far from me at all....but them knowing me it willl be very hard....ill give my uni a ring and see what options they give me....i thought because im ony 4weeks starting in september wouldnt be so bad and if i wanted to take a gap in 2011 then that would have been a good opotunity for me to bond with baby...something to think about....i never knew unis offer childcare facilities, great stuff.

 

[fantastica]

Guess you need to think about when you're due..will it clash with exams etc? or would you be able to concentrate on everything if bubs comes before exams? (sorry too late to work it out ).

i started uni in 2007...then in sept. 2008 fell pregnant..went until dec but decided to take 2 years out! Although I would have to fly to uni (live in channel islands) and don't really have any support there so different situation! Going back this year though

Looking back...uni with a young baby would've been so much easier than with a toddler now...but it's so nice to just be able to bond with your baby without needing to worry too much about anything else !

Definitely talk to the uni and to your family etc. and try and make the best decision possible for you x

 

[happy-evie]

thanks hun....yeah i guess ur right...have u finished uni now then, hows it goiing for u now?

 

[xCookieDough]

Hey happy-evie.
Im in the same situation as you basically, I have finished my first year at Uni, then found out I was pregnant, now I don't know what to do, it's a hard decision, carry on with my education until Im to big to walk? lol or just stop now for the time being ...
All I know is, I have been blessed with this baby and Im sure in the end everything will just fall into place

xxx

 

[rockys-mumma]

I'd say gap year. I was due beginning of march, and i though i'd be fine as i only had assignments and no exams this year! Well i was wrong. I just wanted to spend all my time with my baby, and my spare time relaxing (rare in the early days lol), and then when the newborn phase is over you want to take your baby out and get some normality back, you dont want to be stuck in like you had been heavily pregnant and then with your newborn.

I didnt think for a minute i would struggle to do my work as i work well under pressure but here i am doing my year 2 essays at the last possible minute as i got an extension for mitigating circumstances but i soooo don't want to do it but i've got to.

Take a year out, its better to do that than to pay all your fees and not do as good or fail!! In hindsight i would have most definitely deffered!!