Unplanned BFP - how to tell DH?? UPDATE POST #9

[SazzleB]

I got my BFP today, I was on the pill and I am not sure how it happened but I am delighted.
We aren't in the best place financially just now and I am scared to tell my husband incase he tells me he doesn't want it
What's the best way to tell him? Please help!
I thought about saying over the weekend hmm AF is late and I'm feeling sick, he'll buy me a test and then he can find out. Or should I write him a letter? Or just come out with it? It's so hard, I want him to be supportive.
Any idea welcome

 

[Jemma0717]

IMO, I would write a letter. Good luck and let us know how it goes!

Congrats BTW!

 

[SazzleB]

Thanks and good luck ttc!

 

[fumbles]

Congratulations! I sorry I have no idea what you should do! But when you do tell him maybe put a positive spin on things, I see you already have a toddler so maybe all the big expensive cots and things are already sorted?

 

[lady_V]

I am in exactly the same position as you SazzleB I thought 'How did that happen?'

I just came out with it and told my husband and he was shocked and just said 'let me finish reading my paper'.

I do like your letter idea, I think if I had done that my husband might have taken it all in slowly without me watching him. I was disappointed when his reaction wasn't 'hooray' it was 'let me finish reading my paper.' But he is very pleased and being supportive now.

Please don't worry, just let him know in the way you think is best.

 

[Jemma0717]

This is the reason why I am done TTC after this month. It happens when you are not planning it! You 2 ladies are proof

 

[SazzleB]

I think I might write a letter then. I'll tell him I am pregnant and also put a positive spin on things. I'll tell him that I'd like his support too. We'll see how it goes I suppose! Argh I am scared. I was at the doctors today for something else and he said don't make any rash decisions, I have a few weeks to consider my options. So I suppose even if DH says he doesn't want the baby he might come round to the idea

Jemma0717 - it took me 6 months to conceive my first and I was always symptom spotting, the tww felt like 2 years and i peed on a stick so many times lol. How different this time is!

 

[TwilightAgain]

Huge congrats hun!

If it was unplanned and you're worried of his reaction i'd announce it in a way which would let him know that you're super excited about it and it is a good thing. Maybe get him a t-shirt saying World's Best Daddy or something?

 

[SazzleB]

I was going to wait until tomorrow but he just phoned me from work and he sounded in a good mood. I told him I was feeling sick and he said ohhh not pregnant are you? I just said yes. He was so happy! He said obviously its not great timing but he is really happy. Phew Gives him even more motivation to find a better job now!
Thanks for the support girls!

 

[TwilightAgain]

Aw thats fantastic news. Really happy for you

 

[kiki04]

Awwww Im so happy he was elated like that!!! I smiled so big when I read your update

 

[Jemma0717]

Yay! So glad he was happy!!

 

[jamhs]

Men surprise us sometimes don't they! I'm glad he was happy and supportive! Hope you have a h&h 9 months!

 

[quaizer]

Congratulations!!! xx

 

[greeneyes0279]

Congrats!

 

[Mypreciouskid]

You didn't conceive the baby alone, so while he might be a bit shocked, I think he should be fine with the news. I would just come right out with it, and not waste money on another test. . Congrats!!! Babies are blessings!

 

[future_numan]

That wonderful news..
congratulations x

 

[JadeEmChar]

Congrats!!! And its good to hear your oh is happy about the pregnancy too

 

[CuddleBunny]

Many congratulations! Wishing you a happy & healthy 9 months!

 

[mwaah]

Congratulations, glad he is happy too xx