upset and husband wont talk.....

[jack79]

Hi ladies

I'm feeling really upset and emotional right now as my friend has just had a baby and I am really struggling seeing her and her husband so happy with their newborn. I am really happy for them but so so sad for myself and my husband who have been trying for 2.5 years. Tried to speak to my husband today and all he could say was "i dont know what to say" and has left me to cry on my own. It feels so much more painful trying to cope without his support...dont know what to do to get him to talk.....any advice/ understanding words would be really appreciated.. thanks x

 

[macca197831]

Hey jack sorry to hear your upset!!!

I have the same problem with my husband. In the last month alone 6 of my friends and family have fallen pregnant within months of trying. Each announcement has left me in tears because I feel so sad and frustrated for us. My husband doesn't understand and thinks I'm trying to compete with them and that im upset because they are pregnant before me when that isn't the case at all.

I have been going to therapy for a while which has helped with my own emotions but it hasn't helped improve the communication with my husband. Today he told me that he is upset and frustrated but deals with it in other ways like going to the gym or for a run as he finds it hard to talk about how he is feeling. We have decided to go to counselling together to try and get ou how we are feeling without it ending up in a screaming match or one of us getting upset!

 

[jack79]

Thanks macca : ) its a rollercoaster ride thats for sure... we just had a big argument which was followed by talking and crying- this is what i needed first time around!- and am now feeling a bit better. I reckon men just dont think and feel the same as us women. My husband isnt a talker but i suppose he is trying- i just wish it didnt take a big fight to get his support! Im on clomid just now...thinking that might be whats making me more emotional than normal. Thanks again for replying

 

[tamithomas]

So sorry to hear about this. I don't understand how DH's can be so insensitive themselves but at the same time, men are known for that. They deal with their emotions differently from women, they like to let it out differently besides talking so when confronted when actual verbal way of release,they get confused and walk away. I would but wouldn't take it so personally. At least you still got us to talk to