Upset & stressed out

[Mrsmilf]

Hello I'm a 28 year old female with a 29 year old husband - we have been ttc for 3 years now. We both have a child with a previous partner but it isn't happening for us. We have had all of the tests at the hospital - laparoscopy, dye in the tubes, ovulation blood tests, sperm tests, post coiltal tests etc and all were absolutely normal. I gave up smoking and we have tried monitoring ovulation and holding off sex for atleast 5 days before I ovulate, I've tried a basal thermometer to keep track of my body temperature, I've been taking pregnacare vitamins for people ttc & nothing. I'm a normal weight, I eat plenty of fruit and veg & drink lots of green and ginger tea ! We are not eligible for free ivf as we both have a child of our own and we can't afford the £5,000 to try it everyone around me is having babies and I'm so so down. Medically everything is fine but it's just not happening. Does anyone have any positive advice for us ? Many thanks

 

[dontworry]

Didn't want to read and run, but welcome and good luck! I hope your journey to parenthood isn't that much further away.

 

[tulip1975]

If everything is coming back normal, a doc would likely tell you that it's just really terrible luck.

I wish I had some sort of advice - it must be so frustrating to hear that nothing is wrong but you still have no baby after 3 years.

Good luck to you!

 

[Mrsmilf]

Thank you ! It is frustrating but more upsetting. Yes the doctor has said we are unlucky and have recommended ivf but it's a lot of money that we do not have. I'm considering egg share ?!

Have you not had any answers to your problem ?

 

[Tink86]

Hi Mrsmilf

I just wanted to say, you are not alone in feeling this way. Me and my husband have been trying for 3 years. We are 27 and 28 years old, healthy and active and all of our investigations have come back normal. We dont have any children, and will be starting IVF soon. Its upsetting when you are doing everything right, and at the right time, but it just isnt happening. I found myself getting really upset and depressed when friends announced their pregnancies and, as bad as it sounds, became very critical about people who dont even try and manage to get pregnant. I even didnt go to my friends christening because i wasnt emotionally strong enough. I wont tell you to relax (as if one more person said that to me i would have screamed) but i hope and pray you get some good news soon!! xx

 

[tulip1975]

Thank you ! It is frustrating but more upsetting. Yes the doctor has said we are unlucky and have recommended ivf but it's a lot of money that we do not have. I'm considering egg share ?!

Have you not had any answers to your problem ?

I have a bit of mild endometriosis and maybe PCOS. I'm just older, and it's harder.

Have you tried IUI, maybe with Clomid/Femara or injections? Based on your testing, it seems like you wouldn't need IVF at 28.

 

[Molly123456]

Thank you ! It is frustrating but more upsetting. Yes the doctor has said we are unlucky and have recommended ivf but it's a lot of money that we do not have. I'm considering egg share ?!

Have you not had any answers to your problem ?

I have a bit of mild endometriosis and maybe PCOS. I'm just older, and it's harder.

Have you tried IUI, maybe with Clomid/Femara or injections? Based on your testing, it seems like you wouldn't need IVF at 28.

I was also going to suggest IUI as a cheaper alternative. It would help the timing and is way cheaper than ivf! Good luck and I hope it happens for you soon!!

 

[Mrsmilf]

Sorry I don't know what IUI means ?! Please can you explain to me ? I've decided to give it 6 more months trying naturally and being very strict with myself eg - no alchohol, dieting, cutting out sugar and caffeine and if still no joy I will look into other help medically. Thanks for the lovely replies. Sorry to hear that some of you are in the same situation and some worse off than myself. It's devastating.

 

[JJKCB]

Sorry I don't know what IUI means ?! Please can you explain to me ? I've decided to give it 6 more months trying naturally and being very strict with myself eg - no alchohol, dieting, cutting out sugar and caffeine and if still no joy I will look into other help medically. Thanks for the lovely replies. Sorry to hear that some of you are in the same situation and some worse off than myself. It's devastating.

IUI = Inter Uterine Insemination

in the crudest way possible its the turkey basting idea (what most people imagine of lesbian pregnancies) its quite common for people of all sexualities that struggle to get pregnant naturally though as it helps place the sperm directly into the correct location

 

[Mrsmilf]

Thank you for your reply. Would I enquire about this to my gp ? Any idea on a cost ? Never heard of it but would be willing to give it a go

Thanks again

 

[Molly123456]

We are going through IUI right now and the cost has been about $700 per cycle. This includes the procedure itself and also the sperm washing. But my insurance won't cover this. A lot of insurance will cover at least a few rounds of IUI. I had to see a specialist in order to have this procedure. My regular doctor put me on clomid for a few cycles and then did an HSG and once that showed I had problems I was referred to a specialist. The specialist first did surgery to take a look at my tubes and then recommended IUI. First cycle wasn't successful but hopefully next month is our month!!