urgent advice needed!

[stevon111]

Hello Everyone

I really dont know where else to turn to with the problems ive experienced over the past month which are getting majorly worse, something has gone really wrong with my little girl i feel.

1. shes petrified of sleeping i used to be able to get her down to sleep at half 7 and now its around 10pm when she will finally go to sleep. she just cannot be left alone or she will go totally hysterical to a point where she is going to climb out of her cot lyterally or hurt herself by falling down in her cot and hitting her head off the wall. my X is having the same problem but now lets her stay up till she actually falls asleep on the chair downstairs. (its a losing battle)

2. her behavior (which is probably due to her not sleeping properly) is getting way out of hand where shes hitting out and throwing huge tantrums when she doesnt get what she wants (terrible twos on the way) i understand, she keeps on using the word sh*te which is not coming from me or my family as we dont use that language to start with and im not happy with that nether as shes only 2 and her coming out with things like that scares me.

3. her eating since august is just none existant..i have her saturday and sunday day and night and she will not eat anything offered exept things like jaffa cakes and sweet things and crisps and even them she doesnt eat much of...ived tryed everything you can think of to try and make her eat something. again i tie this up with both her sleeping and behavior as this is surely not helping.

im really getting more and more worried as ive mentioned my concerns to my X for 4 weeks now to get us both some help as im determined to work with her to help support our daughter to make sure she is going the right way and not unhappy. but each time ive asked nothing ever gets done... im at a point where ived asked and asked and asked i just dont know what else to do?

in all honestly im at a point where i feel like getting advice myself from a health visitor to try and improve things but i know they will look at things and try to help my X as she has LO the 5 days a week but wether she is willing to work with a HV and myself is another story. if she doesnt then i must admit things are going to get much much worse its not something our daughter is going through at the moment...especially at night time where all my daughter sees is fear and its a scary time when bed time comes

 

[sweetbuthyper]

I don't really have any advise but i didn't want to read and run.
maybe try reading to her and making bedtime something non scary again. I would seek help from a health visitor, or someone who can give experienced advise as your right if it isn't sorted its likly to get worse.

good luck and i hope you get help and have a happy little girl soon.

 

[Shezza84uk]

I think her routine needs a drastic overhaul, a child will snack on crisp and sweets or cakes if that is what she is given her sleeping pattern is due to lack of bedtime routine.

I speak from first hand experience my daughter only eats stuff she has at home regardless of where she is, it is to the point I have to make her food and pack if when her dad takes her out because she doesn't like cakes, sweets etc i do not keep them at home and if offered she refuses because she isn't the type to try anything new. I suggest removing sweets etc from her diet in between meals offer her fruits, smoothies, yogurt and so on try not to give her anything up to an hour before her actual meal so she won't be full...

My daughter was a nightmare sleeper always was from birth I eventually had to gradually amend her routine, as she got older I made sure she had dinner early with enough time to digest and have a bit of play time.

Maybe try a schedule like this..

Dinner at 18:00

Soft play, colouring or tv time at 18:30 maximum an hour

Bath at 19:30

Story time at 20:00 and hopefully she will be sleeping by 20:30

This is just a rough idea bathing her just before bed should relax her and the story time after should just help to settle her.

As for the bad language if she doesn't hear it she wouldn't know it so this is something to speak to her mum about! I would encourage you to ask her mum to practise the same routine at her house as well so your daughter will not be confused and refuse to conform.

Good luck x