Urgently need opinions pls ladies

[sambucababy]

I ve a really long thread on here but the short version of my story is partner of 17 yrs left 8 wks ago. He had been cheating on me for approx 10 years in an on off relationship with another girl who knew all about me. They have a 3 yr old son whom i didnt know about and we have an 18 month daughter.

As I said he left 8 wks ago and moved in with her he txts on average twice a week asking about our daughter but has only been to see her once since he left - he choosing not mine.
He told me initially his entire family had known about the other girl and kept it from me all these years, he later admitted that was a lie - however non of his family have made contact with me since he left - i facebooked his brother via PM and he ignored me & i KNOW he has read ,which was odd as we had always gotten on really well

OK my dilema - I am friends with my ex sis in law and she buys for my daughter xmas/bday and I buy for hers not forgetting my daughter is also their cousins.

Now my ex is a compulsive serial liar ,and he has told me that he has told is parents the full truth but he is not sure whether the rest of the nieces and nephews know.

Now do I buy bday/xmas gifts for the nieces and nephews on behalf of my daughter their cousin? Or do I steer well clear?

I ve asked friends and family and had mixed opinions, the next bday is this weekend so i have to decide fast, if I do I would be postin to my ex inlaws house as I have no other addresses as coincidently they all moved and I just never got around to noting them down, obviously I would include a short note asking to pass the presents on from my daughter and also tell them I have no issues with them making contact to see my daughter, then another part of me thinks why shud I bother?

Pls answer on what you think is best long term in my daughters interests, I am an only child & have tons of cousins, aunts etc that I never see or dont like and it doesnt & has never botherred me but my daughter is and will likely be an only child so should I make an attempt for her ?

Helllllllllllp !! x

 

[jessrabbit]

If its something you have always done, then go ahead and do it. At the end of the day you can hold your head up high and know you havent done anything wrong, regardless of the lies he feeds them.

Lies have a habit of catching up with people.

Do it, if you get no response, dont do it again, at least you took the high road and tried xx

 

[sambucababy]

cheers for that im so 50/50 on this - any more opinions greatly appreciated xx

 

[jessrabbit]

Go with your gut instinct xx

 

[Laura2919]

I am still buying gifts for FOB nephew. I will keep doing so.

 

[truthbtold]

I would send a gift. I wouldnt isolate his whole family over his mistakes.

 

[sambucababy]

Thanks ladies have decided to send it and see what happens, He told me he has told his parents the full truth but im not sure if he has told his famo the full truth, complete lies or bits and pieces, however am enclosing a small note asking if they will pass the presents on on my behalf, given the circumstances & telling them they are welcome to see their grandchild/niece/ cousin if they wish and see what if anything happens from there wish me luck !!