PJS1982
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So! My little sister found out she was pregnant about 2.5 weeks ago. She's 7w4d right now. I was super happy for her. More so excited that I'll have a baby niece or nephew to snuggle on in 9 months. Thing is, she knows I've been TTC since last Dec. She knows how hard it's been on DH and I and to be quite honest, she's always been a selfish immature person, but I love her anyway and try to be as supportive as I can. She's said to me before about my chemical pregnancies "You already have 3. you're fine" uh ouch. So, I don't talk to her about my TTC woes at all, needless to say.
Anyway, she tells me she's pregnant and I literally fly off my seat, jump and hug her crying like a fool. SO excited. At the same time, a little annoyed because of my TTC situation and she's in a relationship with a guy who smokes pot and doesn't have a job and basically lives off of her. But she looooooooves him. Oh well. That's fine. He's nice, but a loser. I fell into a woe is me, why her and not me phase. But I get so torn. I'm so excited to meet this baby and help my sister through her first pregnancy but I'm jealous and angry at my sister at the same time.
Well, to make it worse, I was chatting with her today talking about how hopeful I am that this is finally my month. Her response is "Are you still going to throw my shower?? I mean, Pammy, your due date will be RIGHT after mine. How is that even fair? Can't you just stop until my baby is born? You HAVE 3 already!" SERIOUSLY???? I've been trying and failing, trying and failing for a YEAR and I finally feel hopeful and that is what she says to me? She hasn't even told our mother yet, that is how afraid she is because she knows my mother will flip out because of her relationship situation. My sister is also a drama queen and everything bad happens to her and whine whine whine yadda yadda.
I put up with it more than my mom does. Mom just rolls her eyes at her "always nauseous, migraine, stomach ache, losing weight, gaining weight etc" So, my sister knows she's not in the best situation, which is totally ok and I understand that (was pregnant with DD at 17 and terrified) and I want to be there for her and support that. My DH has even offered his own ear to her BF if he has any concerns or questions or just needs a guy to chat to about his happiness and fears of becoming a daddy. But she's being all begrudging about me possibly being pregnant at the same time she is knowing how this has been for me. And she expects me to STOP ttc until she's ready for me to start...
I'm just really sad. I expected this, but I didn't at the same time. It's not like I will need a baby shower and all kinds of attention. I will still gladly throw her shower and take her registry shopping. I even told her this. Barring a high risk pregnancy and bed rest, I am SO there! I've been waiting to help her with this for years! I just wish she'd be more supportive of me.
Anyway, she tells me she's pregnant and I literally fly off my seat, jump and hug her crying like a fool. SO excited. At the same time, a little annoyed because of my TTC situation and she's in a relationship with a guy who smokes pot and doesn't have a job and basically lives off of her. But she looooooooves him. Oh well. That's fine. He's nice, but a loser. I fell into a woe is me, why her and not me phase. But I get so torn. I'm so excited to meet this baby and help my sister through her first pregnancy but I'm jealous and angry at my sister at the same time.
Well, to make it worse, I was chatting with her today talking about how hopeful I am that this is finally my month. Her response is "Are you still going to throw my shower?? I mean, Pammy, your due date will be RIGHT after mine. How is that even fair? Can't you just stop until my baby is born? You HAVE 3 already!" SERIOUSLY???? I've been trying and failing, trying and failing for a YEAR and I finally feel hopeful and that is what she says to me? She hasn't even told our mother yet, that is how afraid she is because she knows my mother will flip out because of her relationship situation. My sister is also a drama queen and everything bad happens to her and whine whine whine yadda yadda.
I put up with it more than my mom does. Mom just rolls her eyes at her "always nauseous, migraine, stomach ache, losing weight, gaining weight etc" So, my sister knows she's not in the best situation, which is totally ok and I understand that (was pregnant with DD at 17 and terrified) and I want to be there for her and support that. My DH has even offered his own ear to her BF if he has any concerns or questions or just needs a guy to chat to about his happiness and fears of becoming a daddy. But she's being all begrudging about me possibly being pregnant at the same time she is knowing how this has been for me. And she expects me to STOP ttc until she's ready for me to start...
I'm just really sad. I expected this, but I didn't at the same time. It's not like I will need a baby shower and all kinds of attention. I will still gladly throw her shower and take her registry shopping. I even told her this. Barring a high risk pregnancy and bed rest, I am SO there! I've been waiting to help her with this for years! I just wish she'd be more supportive of me.