Emma1980
Mummy to Finley
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Just need to get this out of my system...
FOB has really been pushin it with me lately, not turnin up when he says he will, not even letting me know so we sit in, not turnin up with maintenance til days after agreed, visits just seem to be getting less and less...
then he pulled himself back by saying he wanted a set day to see his son, so i agreed wednesdays, mornings when hes on lates, night when hes on earlies... gives me a break so i arranged with a friend to go swimming wednesday nights and the gym on the wednesday mornings... sooooo wednesday night arrives and my friend had called off so i arranged to go bingo... he calls me in the afternoon asking what time he should come round, i told him 530, but if he was feeling nice to make it 430 so i could have a bath in peace... not a problem he says.... so he comes round and i'm telling him the bedtime routine, hes not really listening i can tell... then he blurts "i cant really do that, we're going to lisas for tea" whyyyyyyyyy did he make arrangements, can he not just spend time with his son?? why does he have to take him out at his bedtime?? so Fin kicked off the whole time he was out, hes not been well so where does he want to be? at home in BED! i think by the time he got home and got him in bed he understood why i was mad and i told him - its not about whos house he took him too ( i cant stand her!) i wouldnt want him taking him to his mums or anywhere at his bed time! 430 pm we start to chill out and he goes to bed at 630, earlier than that sometimes!
Yesterday Fin really wasnt well, at first i thought - that lil fucker has lied to me, hes sleeping so much that he must of put him to bed really late, he told me it was 7.20pm - Fin sleeps for 10 hours, he didnt wake up til 6.40am - that tells me he put him to bed at 8.40pm, just before the time i told him i would be home at! so now hes lying to me aswell...
Then in the afternoon Fin stops breathing... i shit myself of course, i got him breathing again and he started laughing at me and was really content, i phoned gotodoc to see what they recommended i do, they advised to go see the emergency doctor, that i do - i call FOB on the way out and told him what had gone on...
he hasnt called or texted me once to see if his sons okay.. its really fucked me off - at 7pm he texts and says "hows mr finley? xxxxxxx can i bring your money tomorrow xxxxxxxxx"
so i just put "no i'm not in, he's ill" he says "why whats up with him" "what the fuck do you think is wrong with him? he stopped breathing because he's ill, i'm waiting for my appointment at the paediatrics critical care unit! well done for texting to see if hes okay AT 7PM!" he says "i aint stopped since this morning i'm doing me best emma" my reply "it aint good enough, i dont know why you bother" he puts "ok" i didnt respond - he then sends "i have more than one child you know" so i replied "lol" 20 mins later another text "ive posted your money"
I'm not arsed about the money, its not MY money anyway, its Finleys and it goes in his account - am i right to be pissed off? i'm fucking seething at him.
I gave him the option 11 months ago to have nothing to do with this, but it was his choice to be involved, so why the fuck cant he make an effort for his son? how can he not check hes okay after yesterday?!
sorry - i know some of y ou have arseholes who dont see their kids at all but i'm just so mad right now
FOB has really been pushin it with me lately, not turnin up when he says he will, not even letting me know so we sit in, not turnin up with maintenance til days after agreed, visits just seem to be getting less and less...
then he pulled himself back by saying he wanted a set day to see his son, so i agreed wednesdays, mornings when hes on lates, night when hes on earlies... gives me a break so i arranged with a friend to go swimming wednesday nights and the gym on the wednesday mornings... sooooo wednesday night arrives and my friend had called off so i arranged to go bingo... he calls me in the afternoon asking what time he should come round, i told him 530, but if he was feeling nice to make it 430 so i could have a bath in peace... not a problem he says.... so he comes round and i'm telling him the bedtime routine, hes not really listening i can tell... then he blurts "i cant really do that, we're going to lisas for tea" whyyyyyyyyy did he make arrangements, can he not just spend time with his son?? why does he have to take him out at his bedtime?? so Fin kicked off the whole time he was out, hes not been well so where does he want to be? at home in BED! i think by the time he got home and got him in bed he understood why i was mad and i told him - its not about whos house he took him too ( i cant stand her!) i wouldnt want him taking him to his mums or anywhere at his bed time! 430 pm we start to chill out and he goes to bed at 630, earlier than that sometimes!
Yesterday Fin really wasnt well, at first i thought - that lil fucker has lied to me, hes sleeping so much that he must of put him to bed really late, he told me it was 7.20pm - Fin sleeps for 10 hours, he didnt wake up til 6.40am - that tells me he put him to bed at 8.40pm, just before the time i told him i would be home at! so now hes lying to me aswell...
Then in the afternoon Fin stops breathing... i shit myself of course, i got him breathing again and he started laughing at me and was really content, i phoned gotodoc to see what they recommended i do, they advised to go see the emergency doctor, that i do - i call FOB on the way out and told him what had gone on...
he hasnt called or texted me once to see if his sons okay.. its really fucked me off - at 7pm he texts and says "hows mr finley? xxxxxxx can i bring your money tomorrow xxxxxxxxx"
so i just put "no i'm not in, he's ill" he says "why whats up with him" "what the fuck do you think is wrong with him? he stopped breathing because he's ill, i'm waiting for my appointment at the paediatrics critical care unit! well done for texting to see if hes okay AT 7PM!" he says "i aint stopped since this morning i'm doing me best emma" my reply "it aint good enough, i dont know why you bother" he puts "ok" i didnt respond - he then sends "i have more than one child you know" so i replied "lol" 20 mins later another text "ive posted your money"
I'm not arsed about the money, its not MY money anyway, its Finleys and it goes in his account - am i right to be pissed off? i'm fucking seething at him.
I gave him the option 11 months ago to have nothing to do with this, but it was his choice to be involved, so why the fuck cant he make an effort for his son? how can he not check hes okay after yesterday?!
sorry - i know some of y ou have arseholes who dont see their kids at all but i'm just so mad right now
