Dh and I have been trying to conceive for a while now and he finally came to me and told me that we need to stop "trying so hard".
With DD she was a very wanted surprise. We were very welcoming of course, but we were not actively trying. I was not paying attention to my cycle. I was young and not exactly paying attention to my cycle. 6 years later, now that we are actively trying, it seems impossible.
My cycles are pretty irregular and I was on BC for quite sometime to try ad regulate my cycle. It didn't work so of course I stopped using it. So when we started actively trying we started using OPKS. Which I was excited about because I would finally know for sure when I was about to ovulate. Maybe I was wrong. Although, DH came to me recently and told me that we should just not try so hard. He doesn't want me to "rely on a stick that you pee on and believe that it's time to BD".. He just wants to go with the flow. Seriously? I don't think he understands that there is only a few days out of each cycle that it's a great possibility of conceiving.
I mean, I understand that if I don't use OPK's there may be less stress. I wont be so anxious. But the thing is that I told DH is we don't BD as much anyway. Even when it's not those best days. We are always busy with work and other things.. or he's tired or i'm tired. So when we started trying and actually using the OPKS, we knew there was a certain time and that whole fertile window we would BD every other day. I don't think if we stop using them we will do the same thing. But he just keeps reassuring me that we just need to go with the flow, do it when we want, no stress. I don't think we will ever get pregnant that way.
Now, someone suggested checking cervical mucus and tempting. That may be less stressful. But in all honesty, the whole tempting thing is confusing to me. Checking cervical mucus, yeah it changes but, I don't know. Just venting.
I just recently switched doctors in seek of help because my doctor just refused to help me for some reason, but this new doctor seems about he same. DH says lets try for a few more months and do it the way he wants and if nothing then I can seek another doc. Doctors said DH and I are both fine and shouldn't have any trouble conceiving.. 14 months later.
Just feel like it's going to be a dead end like it's always been. Okay, so I'm rambling now. Anyone have any insight on any of this or any advice?
With DD she was a very wanted surprise. We were very welcoming of course, but we were not actively trying. I was not paying attention to my cycle. I was young and not exactly paying attention to my cycle. 6 years later, now that we are actively trying, it seems impossible.
My cycles are pretty irregular and I was on BC for quite sometime to try ad regulate my cycle. It didn't work so of course I stopped using it. So when we started actively trying we started using OPKS. Which I was excited about because I would finally know for sure when I was about to ovulate. Maybe I was wrong. Although, DH came to me recently and told me that we should just not try so hard. He doesn't want me to "rely on a stick that you pee on and believe that it's time to BD".. He just wants to go with the flow. Seriously? I don't think he understands that there is only a few days out of each cycle that it's a great possibility of conceiving.
I mean, I understand that if I don't use OPK's there may be less stress. I wont be so anxious. But the thing is that I told DH is we don't BD as much anyway. Even when it's not those best days. We are always busy with work and other things.. or he's tired or i'm tired. So when we started trying and actually using the OPKS, we knew there was a certain time and that whole fertile window we would BD every other day. I don't think if we stop using them we will do the same thing. But he just keeps reassuring me that we just need to go with the flow, do it when we want, no stress. I don't think we will ever get pregnant that way.
Now, someone suggested checking cervical mucus and tempting. That may be less stressful. But in all honesty, the whole tempting thing is confusing to me. Checking cervical mucus, yeah it changes but, I don't know. Just venting.
I just recently switched doctors in seek of help because my doctor just refused to help me for some reason, but this new doctor seems about he same. DH says lets try for a few more months and do it the way he wants and if nothing then I can seek another doc. Doctors said DH and I are both fine and shouldn't have any trouble conceiving.. 14 months later.
Just feel like it's going to be a dead end like it's always been. Okay, so I'm rambling now. Anyone have any insight on any of this or any advice?
