I said no visitors for a couple of weeks. I was quite down and emotional after the birth and people broke that rule and no one really stood up and made it count for anything. On my day home from hospital, my husband said he wanted to take her for an hour to meet his mum - that hour was great as I'd been in some stage of labour for 4 days and not slept properly for 5 days. I wasn't that happy about it at the time, especially as I'd laid down this rule and they'd been the only ones to kick up a huge fuss about it, but it was better than her forcing her way into our home. My best friend came round when she was 4 days old and that was too much. I said she could pop in if she wished and she was here hours and when she held my baby she wouldn't give her back! I ended up upstairs crying because I didn't feel I could demand my baby back - I felt I was being unreasonable - and all I could see was my baby snuggled up on her chest! Then when she was 5 or 6 days old my family came down from Wales! At 2 weeks my brother and his gf came from London and stayed a few hours. Then a couple of friends with children came within a couple of days of each other (found that hard as on one of the times my baby was really worked up and I couldn't settle her, felt self-conscious about feeding in front of them, and the woman took her for a hold and baby calmed down straight away, upon which the room fell silent :'( ).
Anyway, what I knew before I had my baby and what was reaffirmed during these visits which seemed forced on me and went on for hours at a time, was that people come and are only interested in the baby, not mum and definitely not dad! They aren't interested in helping with anything and they just want you to wait on them as you would normally! My mum, gran, brother and his partner came and my husband did a bbq for them!! My mum jumped in my seat on the sofa which I had set up for breastfeeding and thenmoaned when I asked to sit back there! No one ONCE offered to make ME a drink or something to eat; most of them waited expectantly for me to wait on them and I was glad to get rid of them. I think it is pretty intrusive to come into a new family's home days after the birth of a baby and stay for 4 or 5 hours!
Next time there will be NO visitors. If I had not had such an emotionally and physically exhausting time this time (what with it being first baby too), I'd have felt strong enough to stand my ground on rules I made before my baby was born. My husband weakened and didn't stand up for those 'rules' and next time he is going to have to because I am NOT entertaining people again. I will be doing what the HV at my antenatal class said to do, and that is to do a pre-recorded answerphone message ('mum and baby doing well, settling in at home, we will let you know when we are ready for visitors bla bla bla'; a note on the door 'please do not disturb - new baby' or something like that; a facebook announcement and make clear when visitors will be welcome). Having said all of that; I was rather lucky in that my in-laws respected my wish not to have them here every day (they didn't come at all haha!) and my mum lives in Wales so it wasn't an issue. Once people had seen her once, that was that and we spent some lovely time as a family going out and about.
I would recommend any new mum does not have visitors who are not extremely close (I am not close to my mum) for at LEAST a week after the birth. This is bonding and recovery time for all of you as a new family. Visitors who come should be prepared to play by YOUR guidelines (ie, stay for an hour then GO!) and maybe be polite enough to make you a drink (but don't make that a rule haha!). It is so tiring in those days after the birth and to be honest I just didn't want to see people! Just say to people you know everyone is so keen to meet baby and you will let them know when you are recovered and ready for visitors. There may be some people you need to be firm with (for me it was my in-laws), but others will understand without you even saying anything, that you just want time alone as a family. I will actually go against what the majority would say, here, and say that I actually think hospital is underrated (my hospital was good anyway) as it protects you from all of these visitors who you feel you can't say no to, and you also get the rest you really WILL need.
Good luck with it! I think your due date is not long after mine was last year (April 20th) and my baby came on due date!