Visitors right after section

[rjm09]

So the inlaws will be watching our 3 yr old for us during my few days stay in the hospital. I go in for my C this Monday at 6am. Baby will be here about 730am.

Dh got a text from his sis. She said his folks want to com Monday night to visit us in the hospital.Sis will be working. It's not uncommon for them to have her "text" and ask us to come over, or say they're popping over our house to visit. She said they wanted to bring our son to see the baby.

Now as much as I love my son, and am anxious for him to meet his little sis, I remember my Csect with him. After 12 hrs, I finally got up and was made to walk around. It was dreadfully painful and couldn't even walk that far. Every few hours I would have to get up again, the more I got around, the quicker I was told i'd heal. Even the 3rd day, and the day I left the hospital, It was a terrible walk around Walmart t pick up my pain meds prescription. If they came to visit that night, I don't know how i'll be feeling after the first "walk" around.

Now because dh remembers as well how things were my first C, he told his sis that we didn't want any visitors the first day, and suggested in the afternoon the next day, after he got back from his half day of work. Which they can't come until early evening as his mom works. It seems like they want to visit around their schedule, and not ours.

Is this wrong of me to of had dh tell them we don't want visitors the first day because of the pain i'll be in?

When did you have your first visitors after your Csect?

 

[jd11]

if u really dont want visitors let the staff know so that if they do turn up they will be turned away. it is entirely your choice when u want visitors and they will have to suck it up.

my last one i had in the afternoon and that night my DH, DD, mum and brother came to visit which didnt bother me but i didnt get out of bed and they didnt stay long. it will probably be the same this time but that is my personal preference

 

[babyblog]

Ni of course not! You do what you think is right. When I had my second I had section at 3pm and my parents bought my 2.5 year old in at 9pm, big mistake as I was still in recovery bleeding heavily hooked up to al the machines and my poor boy was so upset at seeing me. I wish he hadn't come in until the next day. I only had my parents come in th at night, I wouldn't have wanted my in laws or anyone else as I felt like shit! You do what you feel is right for your family

 

[Gemble]

I had visitors a few hours after my section which was at 8am and then more visitors in the afternoon I was a bit uncomfortable but I found it a good distraction from being sat on my backside and the pain

It's up to u though. No one can force themselves in if u don't want them

Xxx

 

[sg2011]

My daughter was born at 8:30am and I had visitors at 4:00pm because that was when visiting hours started. It was just my immediate family...mom, dad, brother, grandmother and that's it. I was super excited for them to meet my little girl but I couldn't have coped with anyone else.

It's up to you and don't feel pressured to allow visitors if you don't want any the first day!

 

[rjm09]

Ni of course not! You do what you think is right. When I had my second I had section at 3pm and my parents bought my 2.5 year old in at 9pm, big mistake as I was still in recovery bleeding heavily hooked up to al the machines and my poor boy was so upset at seeing me. I wish he hadn't come in until the next day. I only had my parents come in th at night, I wouldn't have wanted my in laws or anyone else as I felt like shit! You do what you feel is right for your family

Oh, my! Thanks for bringing that to my attention, I totally forgot i'll be hooked up to an IV and catheter too!

Something I def don't want my son seeing!!!

I'd think the second day in the evening, they'd be removed by then. I can handle everyone then.

Thanks ladies. Makes me more confident in my decision if they press the issue again!

 

[Banshee]

I only let MY family visit the hospital after my first c section and that wasn't til at least a day after ds1 was born. I was in pain and there was no way I wanted the world and his wife coming to visit and me have to put on a brave face. After my second c section when ds2 was born I was in a bad way so had no one but DH there for a while. Ds1 was staying with my in laws but they were an hour and a half away from the hospital so in the end I didn't see ds1 for nearly a week! It was hard but I think it was better than him seeing me in a complete state!
Anyway, enough about me (lol), I think it's entirely you prerogative to decide who comes to visit and when.

 

[Sproglet]

Robyn was born just before 5 pm, my parents popped in for half an hour that evening after I went on the ward, then I had in laws visit the next afternoon so almost a whole day later, by then I had IV and cath removed and had showered.

 

[Glowbug]

I had a c section last week at 12:45am. Didn't sleep a wink as I was so excited and had a brand new baby. Visitors started coming that morning.
If I have another c section. I'm going to have one to two days with no visitors.
It was exhausting. 4 days of visitors and nurses and tests. Couldn't establish breast feeding and bonding. And I literally felt jealous of the people holding her.
Bottom line. You are in pain and you should make the rules. I regret how things went with me.

 

[Mummythree]

My son was born at 11.57am and i wasn't allowed any visitors at all that day or night i was in recovery for 12hours after but i had complecations. my kids came to see us the next day.

 

[socitycourty]

My family had been there for like 2 days. So they didn't leave after my c section LOL. I saw my close family and my in laws and that was it. I also had to stay in the hosp for a week

 

[Annie77]

After my 2nd section at 9am my folks brought in my 2 year old at 3pm. I loved seeing her and glad she was first to meet her sister (although the sentiment was lost on her!)
Was your first section an emergency? I found my elective one much easier and I had loads of visitors which certainly relieved my boredom!

 

[Mummythree]

I had an elective was far from easy though.

 

[AmesLouise]

I went through this same thing with my last two girls! My nurse was awesome!! She took the initiative to enforce 30 minute visits max (thats the max I wanted). She came in when the visitors arrived and let them know. It was perfect! She also posted a sign on the door for me!

 

[Scuba]

Section at 9.45am, had visitors at 3pm as soon as they were allowed in! I was still catheterised and had to explain to my 4 year old daughter what it was, but it was lovely to have her visit my parents, sister and brother in law, and my in laws also visited - I was a bit cuckoo as was on morphine lol but never mind! We are a close family though!
Do what you and hubby want really!xx

 

[Islander]

i had my mum in a few hours after and then other visitors in the afternoon/evening (i had her at hakf 4 in the morning) but i think its up to u and others should respect that...

 

[rjm09]

UPDATE:

They respected our wishes and waited til the next day.
With having an umbilical hernia repair, i think the pain was a bit more than just the C from last time. At least the catheter and IV were out when they came, still made my son nervous about seeing mommy in a hospital bed :/

Even 8 days later, i'm still a bit sore. Glad we put our foot down when we did!

 

[mrswichman]

I had my c-section early in the morning LO was out at 8:56a.m...and the previous night i only got like 2 hrs of sleep...and there were ten people waiting in the waiting room by 7:30a.m...i wish i would have known how tired/sore i would have been. Next time which will also be a c-section...if you have one the next one usually is...I might tell everyone to not visit the first day as i would want rest...

 

[rjm09]

I had my c-section early in the morning LO was out at 8:56a.m...and the previous night i only got like 2 hrs of sleep...and there were ten people waiting in the waiting room by 7:30a.m...i wish i would have known how tired/sore i would have been. Next time which will also be a c-section...if you have one the next one usually is...I might tell everyone to not visit the first day as i would want rest...

They were there... before the baby came??? !!!

Glad we're done with kids!!

 

[mrswichman]

haha yeah. I was really only wanting my mom there with me...I'm such a mommies girl, i wanted to just talk to her...but i couldn't say no and hurt anyones feelings...but next time i might...and have people come after i am out of recovery at least.
I barely got anytime with baby myself at first...I was in recovery,they looked him over, i fed him,then OH went to get people to start coming in to see him, then they bathed him and everyone else got to hold him and look at him...lol