VTS And/Or Selective Reduction

[afmommy14]

Hello there! I need some unbiased thoughts here... I currently have a beautiful daughter turning 3 in a few weeks, and wonderful identical twin boys that are 20 months old and somehow I've managed to get pregnant again.... with twins, again... They told me at my 6 week ultrasound a week ago that the 2nd gestational sac was measuring much smaller and they do not detect a fetal pole, but that it could be too early to tell. I go back this Friday to see. Here is my dilemma however- if the second baby does indeed show up and begin to catch up, how on earth do I come to terms with the fact that I want to choose selective reduction?! My husband is entirely against it despite the fact that he didn't even want a 4th child, and I never thought I'd ever consider something like that, but I really feel that it would be the best option for me and my other children. HELP!