Waiting for AF after M/C, anyone else? OCBM

[Aleeah]

Hello Ladies,

Just been stalking, do you mind if I join too please? I'm at CD45 since natural miscarriage in May, was 8 wks pregnant but baby was only measuring 7 wks. I only bled for a week and passed everything intact, so we got onto bd straight away. We've stuck to every other day bar a few days. No sign of AF or a BFP so, trying to relax and not symptom spot.

It's so sad we're all here but like Welsh Girl has said, we're lucky we've got eachother for support xxx

 

[Nat0609]

Hello Ladies,

Just been stalking, do you mind if I join too please? I'm at CD45 since natural miscarriage in May, was 8 wks pregnant but baby was only measuring 7 wks. I only bled for a week and passed everything intact, so we got onto bd straight away. We've stuck to every other day bar a few days. No sign of AF or a BFP so, trying to relax and not symptom spot.

It's so sad we're all here but like Welsh Girl has said, we're lucky we've got eachother for support xxx

Hi and welcome.

Sorry for your losses.

Bless you, you've had quite a wait.

Are you planning on seeing your GP or just waiting it out? Xx

 

[Aleeah]

Hello Ladies,

Just been stalking, do you mind if I join too please? I'm at CD45 since natural miscarriage in May, was 8 wks pregnant but baby was only measuring 7 wks. I only bled for a week and passed everything intact, so we got onto bd straight away. We've stuck to every other day bar a few days. No sign of AF or a BFP so, trying to relax and not symptom spot.

It's so sad we're all here but like Welsh Girl has said, we're lucky we've got eachother for support xxx

Hi and welcome.

Sorry for your losses.

Bless you, you've had quite a wait.

Are you planning on seeing your GP or just waiting it out? Xx

I went to see my GP on Friday and she said there's nothing they can test for etc on the NHS until its been 12 weeks, so just need to sit it out. Would love to just start a new cycle, but apparently worrying about it is probably stopping it from coming?!

Could you imagine if men had to go through this!!?

Xx

 

[Nat0609]

12 weeks??? Are they having a laugh?

I'm surprised she didn't suggest a couple of weeks on the pill to kick start your cycle again. Provided of course you've not caught already.

If men had babies/AF we'd be extinct

Xx

 

[Aleeah]

12 weeks??? Are they having a laugh?

I'm surprised she didn't suggest a couple of weeks on the pill to kick start your cycle again. Provided of course you've not caught already.

If men had babies/AF we'd be extinct

Xx

Well she said going on the pill will just make me have a period and not ovulate, and will mess my cycles up when I come off it!

12 weeks is crazy isn't it! In my head I'm thinking it might take 8 weeks as the baby was 8 weeks too, so hoping it's this week Nobody said it was easy, no-one ever said it would be this hard.

Xxx

 

[Lindsay109]

Hi Welsh Girl and Aleeah - so sorry to hear of your losses Such a hard thing to go though, but it is nice to be able to talk to other people who understand.

Nina - did you get any info from your doctor?

AF got me yesterday, 31 days after D&C - I've got way more cramps than I normally do...maybe that's normal after M/C? In any case, there were some tears, but feeling much more positive today and trying to look at this as a fresh start.

 

[Lindsay109]

If men had babies/AF we'd be extinct

Xx

Nat, you're probably right!

 

[Nat0609]

Everyone is different but being on the pill never messed me up. I got pregnant 2 weeks after coming off the pill with both my kids. I think it's the dip in progesterone that causes the bleeding to start and then the cycle starts again.

It seems strange to be hoping for AF lol but I'll keep my fX for you or better still a new BFP for us both.

It strange how it works sometimes, my period came back on time after DD but took 9 weeks after DS. I guess the body prevents you from falling pregnant again until its ready which is a reassuring way of looking at it I think

Xx

 

[bluestars]

Hey ladies.

I actually attended my doctors today. (Was for something else but brought the subject up while i was there). I was a little concerned that i might not have ovulated since loosing my boys as i havent had a possitive opk test. He says that he isnt worried at all as my body may still be "recovering" and also due to the stress. (Its been 4 and a half months), He wasnt keen on doing anything except taking hormone levels at cd 21. Didnt think after that long my body would still be recovering! I am getting a regular period. Just soo frustrating!!

So sorry for all of your losses and hope those of you waiting on AF get it soon! (Or not and get a !!)

xxx

 

[Nat0609]

Hi Welsh Girl and Aleeah - so sorry to hear of your losses Such a hard thing to go though, but it is nice to be able to talk to other people who understand.

Nina - did you get any info from your doctor?

AF got me yesterday, 31 days after D&C - I've got way more cramps than I normally do...maybe that's normal after M/C? In any case, there were some tears, but feeling much more positive today and trying to look at this as a fresh start.

My friend said her first AF after MC was terrible and really painful.

On the plus side, here's to a new cycle for you xx

 

[Nina83]

Nina - did you get any info from your doctor?

Lindsay, I didn't really get anything from him.
He was very sympathetic and warm. He assured me it wasn't because we tried again so soon. He also told me that at least three times a week a patient of his has a MC. I wanted to ask him how he continues what he does.
He gave me blood tests for clotting, and "try not to get pregnant until next cycle". Hmm..
He asked why I'm so anxious and unhappy and I just told him that this shouldn't be happening. I do like him, he really makes it feel like it will be OK.
I left crying, and cried for about an hour at home. But afterwards I just felt that this is it- the third time will be better. I didn't feel that previously, or before the second loss. I can't describe it. I'm just totally ready for this. I can feel it will be different.

I also am pretty sure I'm ovulating. EWCM throughout the day, and O cramps. I never had EWCM like this before. (it's really cool, sorry to be gross) and when it wasn't eggy- it was definitely wet. BD yesterday and today. I don't know if I should temp or not, or just "let go" and not worry. Old habits are hard to quit!

 

[Nina83]

It strange how it works sometimes, my period came back on time after DD but took 9 weeks after DS. I guess the body prevents you from falling pregnant again until its ready which is a reassuring way of looking at it I think

Nat, I believe that as well. As much as I'm feeling my body is failing me right now, I know it's just been doing it's job the best it could, which on some level is comforting.
I'm surprised at how quick it bounced back, it has been forgiving. I've neglected it for too many years.

 

[Lindsay109]

Yep, on to a new cycle. Hubby admitted yesterday that he was glad AF came and that "my body has had a chance to get back to normal". Apparently he was really worried that something would happen to me if I got pregnant before my first cycle... poor guy. Anyway, he said he's really excited now to ttc again.

Nina, I'm glad to hear your doctor was sympathetic and caring. That really makes a difference doesn't it? Hopefully the 3rd time will be a charm for you

I saw my doctor a couple weeks ago and she said that she had 10 patients who got pregnant around the same time I did, and only 3 of them are still pregnant... I don't know how they do it!

 

[Aleeah]

Yep, on to a new cycle. Hubby admitted yesterday that he was glad AF came and that "my body has had a chance to get back to normal". Apparently he was really worried that something would happen to me if I got pregnant before my first cycle... poor guy. Anyway, he said he's really excited now to ttc again.

Nina, I'm glad to hear your doctor was sympathetic and caring. That really makes a difference doesn't it? Hopefully the 3rd time will be a charm for you

I saw my doctor a couple weeks ago and she said that she had 10 patients who got pregnant around the same time I did, and only 3 of them are still pregnant... I don't know how they do it!

You should look at like this, this could be the cycle you get your rainbow BFP! Xx

 

[Aleeah]

Nina - did you get any info from your doctor?

Lindsay, I didn't really get anything from him.
He was very sympathetic and warm. He assured me it wasn't because we tried again so soon. He also told me that at least three times a week a patient of his has a MC. I wanted to ask him how he continues what he does.
He gave me blood tests for clotting, and "try not to get pregnant until next cycle". Hmm..
He asked why I'm so anxious and unhappy and I just told him that this shouldn't be happening. I do like him, he really makes it feel like it will be OK.
I left crying, and cried for about an hour at home. But afterwards I just felt that this is it- the third time will be better. I didn't feel that previously, or before the second loss. I can't describe it. I'm just totally ready for this. I can feel it will be different.

I also am pretty sure I'm ovulating. EWCM throughout the day, and O cramps. I never had EWCM like this before. (it's really cool, sorry to be gross) and when it wasn't eggy- it was definitely wet. BD yesterday and today. I don't know if I should temp or not, or just "let go" and not worry. Old habits are hard to quit!

Good luck, good luck! Baby dance your butt off!xx

 

[Lindsay109]

You should look at like this, this could be the cycle you get your rainbow BFP! Xx

Thanks Aleeah, I sure hope so Hopefully your AF will arrive soon... or better yet, a rainbow BFP

 

[x_WelshGirl_x]

I know it's just under a week since my mc but every time I think the bleeding is stopping it comes back! Frustrating, if I'm lucky it will stop for my holiday next week so I can go swimming with my little man.

Good luck nina, I'd just let go, not worry and just enjoy it.

 

[Nat0609]

It strange how it works sometimes, my period came back on time after DD but took 9 weeks after DS. I guess the body prevents you from falling pregnant again until its ready which is a reassuring way of looking at it I think

Nat, I believe that as well. As much as I'm feeling my body is failing me right now, I know it's just been doing it's job the best it could, which on some level is comforting.
I'm surprised at how quick it bounced back, it has been forgiving. I've neglected it for too many years.

It's not failing you hun, it's preventing you from more heartache!

Our bodies are very good at bouncing back, it's our minds that aren't!

 

[Nat0609]

Well here's today's news report.

No AF and no sign of her either.

A little nausea.

OPKs turning dark again.

HPTs bfn although fmu test has dried with a strange shadow/indent/evap which I've never had before xx

 

[Aleeah]

I know it's just under a week since my mc but every time I think the bleeding is stopping it comes back! Frustrating, if I'm lucky it will stop for my holiday next week so I can go swimming with my little man.

Good luck nina, I'd just let go, not worry and just enjoy it.

That is sod's law there Welsh Girl! I said on another forum I won't get AF for months and months and as soon as I put a bikini on it'll be BAAM there it is!! I hope the bleeding stops for you, mine lasted exactly 7 days and then it was gone completely, fx'd xx

Well here's today's news report.

No AF and no sign of her either.

A little nausea.

OPKs turning dark again.

HPTs bfn although fmu test has dried with a strange shadow/indent/evap which I've never had before xx

Oh pic, can you show us?

I got stark white BFN FRER tests after 3 weeks, at 2 weeks the line was very faint and I only tested twice after the m/c, until recently. I've had so many false signs of AF that I've decided my bodies obviously just not ready for it. I asked the doctor if that's a problem, so if I conceive now will it matter that my lining is 'old' and she said not at all, if the lining isn't good enough the egg won't implant anyway.

It's like all you girls say, our bodies are amazing, they do things when they do them because that's the best time. It is horrendous waiting for your AF especially, if like me you didn't expect to wait for so long. But the witch could be just around the corner for us, just try and relax (easier said than done I know!).

xxx