Wasn't sure where to post this thread...

[JASMAK]

But, since this is also "loss support"...and well, I guess it is a loss in ways, I figure that this is the best place??? Please feel free to move it, if need be.

I had a very bitter sweet Christmas this year. The kids got spoiled rotten, I got nice gifts...my husband was there. But, I do have a loss. My brother has been missing since 2002. I just chuckled out loud, because when I say that, people say "where is he?". We don't know. No word. No phone call. We have searched-everywhere, and by every means. Our phone numbers are listed, so he could contact us if he wanted. It is like he dissapeared from the face of the earth. The last time I saw him was at my Nana's funeral in March 2002. That was it. Gone. My heart is sad. Where is he? Is he alright? What is he doing? Does he think of me? Is he gone forever??? I always find Christmas so hard. I think it is because it reminds me of when I was a kid. My brother, who had discovered the truth about Santa, would play along with my sister and I who still believed. "Do you hear the reindeer?" We would look with searching eyes into the dark sky. I miss him. Merry Christmas Albert, wherever you are. I love you.

 

[Smiler]

Didn't want to read and run, but just wanted to give big to you at this time. I guess the mixture of emotions must be overwhelming and the not knowing where he is.

 

[WelshRose]

Just wanted to send big hun, I can't begin to imagine what you and your family must be going through hun

 

[Hevz]

babe....I can't imagine the pain, confusion etc that you must be going through and I guess it's the "not knowing" that makes it almost the hardest. My brother has emigrated to Oz and that's bad enough but at least I know he's ok. Thinking of you honey

 

[KKSARAH]

Dont really know what to say so am going to give you a big

 

[becky77]

how awful for you and yours,it must be hard on these occasions.
cant help but wanted to offer

 

[Drazic<3]

OH thats terrible. The not knowing must be excruciating, especially at christmas when people want to be around their loved ones. Im wishing you get the answers and see him again very soon

 

[lola]

 

[massacubano]

to all you strong ladies, I am out for protecting each and every single one of you. When I find that posts are causing my friends on here to be sick with sadness and worry (that may be fake).

 

[wantababybump]

How truly awful xx

 

[JASMAK]

Thanks everyone. I feel a bit better today. I think that I just needed a good cry about it all last night. Today, my sister and I looked at childhood pics, which made me more sad, but it was good too. I guess I just worry that he think I don't want to see him??? My mother is sick with worry too. Or worse of all, what if he has died.

 

[Alexas Mommy]

 

[todteach]

 

[massacubano]

Thanks everyone. I feel a bit better today. I think that I just needed a good cry about it all last night. Today, my sister and I looked at childhood pics, which made me more sad, but it was good too. I guess I just worry that he think I don't want to see him??? My mother is sick with worry too. Or worse of all, what if he has died.

big hugs!

 

[susan_1981]

Was there any indication or signs before he went missing? I'm sure he's fine. Some people just need to be on their own or just have various reasons that they don't discuss. And maybe it's slightly worse with men because they don't always discuss their problems or feelings with anyone Thousands of people go missing every year who eventually turn up fine. It must be awful for you though. I can't imagine what it must feel like. I hope he contacts you soon xxx

 

[FEDup1981]

thats so sad. Big hugs to u xxx

 

[maddiwatts19]

oh sweetie, i'm so sorry. big to you and all your family. i pray that he returns safetly to you all... xx

 

[JASMAK]

Was there any indication or signs before he went missing? I'm sure he's fine. Some people just need to be on their own or just have various reasons that they don't discuss. And maybe it's slightly worse with men because they don't always discuss their problems or feelings with anyone Thousands of people go missing every year who eventually turn up fine. It must be awful for you though. I can't imagine what it must feel like. I hope he contacts you soon xxx

No, nothing. And he has a son (was an infant at the time) and they haven't heard from him either. No one has. Not his friends, any of his family. No one. He didn't come to work. His clothes were in his house, and nothing was packed.

 

[susan_1981]

Was there any indication or signs before he went missing? I'm sure he's fine. Some people just need to be on their own or just have various reasons that they don't discuss. And maybe it's slightly worse with men because they don't always discuss their problems or feelings with anyone Thousands of people go missing every year who eventually turn up fine. It must be awful for you though. I can't imagine what it must feel like. I hope he contacts you soon xxx

No, nothing. And he has a son (was an infant at the time) and they haven't heard from him either. No one has. Not his friends, any of his family. No one. He didn't come to work. His clothes were in his house, and nothing was packed.

I so hope he is ok. It must be so awful for you and your family. Hopefully he'll turn up one day soon. Can't imagine what you are going through and I can imagine xmas is the worst time xxx