We need help!

[AriannasMama]

Hello everyone. My hubby has an almost 4 year old daughter with an ex, and he has ALWAYS been in his daughters life from day one, after she left him his daughter still came over for usually 4-5 days a week, 7 months ago his ex up and left with his daughter without telling us exactly where she was moving too and wont let him contact his daughter. They were never married so they didn't have a legal written out custody which is what makes this so hard. She was back in town a few months ago and my mother in law saw her and asked if she could see her grand daughter, she gave her promise that she would drop her off on a monday, monday came and went, we tried to call and she had had our number blocked. We have contacted the police about this and they have tried to contact his ex but because we have no address its almost impossible. He has always been a great father to her and when he does get to talk to her on the phone she just tells him how she wants to come back to her daddy's house. This is so painful on our family, I have known that little girl since she was 20 months old and I love her like my own. I know we need to contact lawyers but can we do that without an address? We know that she is out of state but have no other information. What else is there we can do...? He currently pays child support and one lawyer we spoke to said that he should petition to have the child support waived because that tends to make people come forward but he doesn't really want to do that. Thanks for advice ahead of time.

 

[purpledahlia]

Im not sure really tbh. If he pays money he should see her.. i agree with the lawyer.. if it would make her come forward then id stop the payments temporarily. then when she comes forward make a written agreement. is he on the birth cert? im not sure how it works over there but he could if he doesnt know wher she is.. claim shes been kidnapped. but its messy i think, and i think if the mother had no money then she would be in touch anyway. Im sure the police can track her down.. phone numbers and bank acc's - where her card has been used etc..... just get the police to look?

 

[AriannasMama]

Im not sure really tbh. If he pays money he should see her.. i agree with the lawyer.. if it would make her come forward then id stop the payments temporarily. then when she comes forward make a written agreement. is he on the birth cert? im not sure how it works over there but he could if he doesnt know wher she is.. claim shes been kidnapped. but its messy i think, and i think if the mother had no money then she would be in touch anyway. Im sure the police can track her down.. phone numbers and bank acc's - where her card has been used etc..... just get the police to look?

Yes he is on the birth certificate and while she was still living in the state she was under his insurance policy.

 

[xxannxx]

Am not really sure about the law there but would def say go to lawyer as soon as possible and get some proper advice. If he is still paying maintenence there must be a way of tracking her down, good luck.

 

[having#4]

Call the police anyways, if he is paying, then he should have some rights so you two need to lawyer up and get the police involved

 

[purpledahlia]

I dont know what if any diff the insurance makes really... I think you should just follow the advice of the lawyer.. if he is paying he should see her, the mother doesnt have the right to take off without telling him like that if hes paying AND on the birth cert, he has equal rights.

 

[AriannasMama]

Thanks everyone. I just hope we get to see her soon, I know its tearing him apart that he cant see his little princess

 

[purpledahlia]

The police should be able to track her down if shes using her acc and card and hes paying her he will have her acc details??

you could always say they are both missing.. since u dont knwo where they are.. she should get a warning for running off like that.. im sure the poloce will caution her and say in future she has to communicate with him at all times about where his child is.

 

[amazed]

I'm not sure i would prob stop paying it hun...x