hayz_baby
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Eta I used wedding breakfast in the wrong context! I didn't know that meal was wedding breakfast and it's caused some confusion in my post! I don't mean the actual main wedding meal. I mean breakfast in itself the next morning. I would never dream of oh not going to the main wedding meal or the wedding breakfast. Sorry!!!
My oh is best man at a wedding we are going to on Friday. When the wedding was originally planned we thought we would stay in the hotel and said that to them. Then when I fell pregnant we said we would probably not stay now (I know slightly messing about) due to money. We never booked the room nor did we say 100% definite we were staying there either. It didn't seem like a big deal at the time. The wedding breakfast has now been brought up a couple of times. Last night it was mentioned about going. The thing is we don't drive and they are getting married on the other side of town. On the day of the wedding I have to get a taxi there, and I will b getting a taxi back (if lo has had enough) and leaving oh money for a taxi to go back in his own time. That journey is going to cost around the £10 mark. So that night is costing us £30 just to get there and back. We also paid for the majority of oh suit (£160+) plus the cost of drinks as well (luckily oh isn't a big drinker but will have a few and again I'm not going to stop and I obviously won't b drinking) this wedding breakfast would mean paying an additional £20 to get there and back plus whatever it costs to have the breakfast. I just don't think we can afford it. Money is really tight right now as we have just moved (we rent and our tenancy ended the same week) I know some people might think its a little selfish but we had to move for a variety of reasons that suited our family!
Last night I was literally going to say I don't think we can afford it when the guy (the groom) says it's annoying coz blah blah isn't going and it's annoying as it's still part of the wedding. Oh then going well as best man I really need to go then.
I mentioned money afterwards when he had gone and oh was like I know... He said he will talk to him tomorrow when we see them again.
Are we being unfair by saying no considerig oh is best man. Should we have stayed at the hotel/ should we be going to the breakfast and put up with the cost? At the cost of putting us with no money? Spending about £50 just to get there and back over a course of 2 days?
I'm not able to get a lift there (tried and it's a fri which limits me) and oh may b able to split taxi back on way home but won't save huge amount of money. No one is able to give us a lift on the sat either so that makes it that it's taxi or nothing.
Opinions please? Thanks! C
My oh is best man at a wedding we are going to on Friday. When the wedding was originally planned we thought we would stay in the hotel and said that to them. Then when I fell pregnant we said we would probably not stay now (I know slightly messing about) due to money. We never booked the room nor did we say 100% definite we were staying there either. It didn't seem like a big deal at the time. The wedding breakfast has now been brought up a couple of times. Last night it was mentioned about going. The thing is we don't drive and they are getting married on the other side of town. On the day of the wedding I have to get a taxi there, and I will b getting a taxi back (if lo has had enough) and leaving oh money for a taxi to go back in his own time. That journey is going to cost around the £10 mark. So that night is costing us £30 just to get there and back. We also paid for the majority of oh suit (£160+) plus the cost of drinks as well (luckily oh isn't a big drinker but will have a few and again I'm not going to stop and I obviously won't b drinking) this wedding breakfast would mean paying an additional £20 to get there and back plus whatever it costs to have the breakfast. I just don't think we can afford it. Money is really tight right now as we have just moved (we rent and our tenancy ended the same week) I know some people might think its a little selfish but we had to move for a variety of reasons that suited our family!
Last night I was literally going to say I don't think we can afford it when the guy (the groom) says it's annoying coz blah blah isn't going and it's annoying as it's still part of the wedding. Oh then going well as best man I really need to go then.
I mentioned money afterwards when he had gone and oh was like I know... He said he will talk to him tomorrow when we see them again.
Are we being unfair by saying no considerig oh is best man. Should we have stayed at the hotel/ should we be going to the breakfast and put up with the cost? At the cost of putting us with no money? Spending about £50 just to get there and back over a course of 2 days?
I'm not able to get a lift there (tried and it's a fri which limits me) and oh may b able to split taxi back on way home but won't save huge amount of money. No one is able to give us a lift on the sat either so that makes it that it's taxi or nothing.
Opinions please? Thanks! C