Well, I'm back from my dress fitting and I'm bawling my eyes out

[xpatchx]

My brothers had my dress for months, and I went over today cause he's taken it all in.
He's done a fabulous job, he really has. you couldn't tell it's been taken in or anything. He helped me into it, laced me up, we put the underskirt on, my shrug, and my veil. He almost cried and told me I looked gorgeous.
He helped me downstairs and took some photos... and I hate it.
I just look like a massive puffball, and it doesn't flatter my shape at all. It doesn't pull me in in the right places, and I just look terrible. I'm waiting on my brother emailing me the pics so I can take a better look, but I'm heartbroken.

I've told my OH that I hated it, and he said we can get a new one, a proper one, but after all the hard work my brothers put into this one, (and we can't REALLY afford another) I HAVE to wear this one.

I always hear people say "When I tried my dress on I felt like the most beautiful woman in the world"
I didn't.
I know my brother wouldn't lie, he's a very straight talking guy, but we have different views on beautiful.

Has anyone else had this? I don't know what to do, I'm just so upset. In my head I always thought I'd look beautiful.
Someone make me feel better before I break something?

 

[honeybee2]

lets see the pics hun, it cant be as bad as you think!

 

[Redfraggle]

Oh sweetheart. I bet your brother is right and you look stunning! Is there any chance this is just last minute wobbles about your dress? Or is there anything that can be done to improve it? You're right, everyone should feel like a princess on their wedding day.

Can we see pictures of it?

 

[xpatchx]

I've got the photos on my memory card but for some reason I can only see the damn things on my printer and not on the pc. Trying to figure out why.

I don't know I just didn't feel how I wanted to feel. I wanted to look stunning and feel it, and I felt horrible. I smiled and agreed with my brother and SIL so they didn't feel mad at me for all the work my brother's put into it.

OH keeps trying to phone me cause he wants me to buy another dress on our credit card, but I just can't do that. It's too much to put on our card again, and my brothers spent 3 days straight sewing!

 

[Tiff]

Definitely lets see the pictures hunny! There may be ideas that we can think of to either add/change so you feel more special in it

We will find a way!

 

[NuKe]

right. you need to feel gorgeous. that's it. end of. I'm sure your brother will totally understand! I'd like to think so anyway...

really want to see the pics!

 

[xpatchx]

https://i44.photobucket.com/albums/f31/xpatchx/Untitled-3.png

Bleurgh. It just looks horrid around the tummy/waist area..

 

[Tiff]

Are you wearing any sort of control things underneath it or just relying on the boning of the dress. Personally I don't think it looks bad but I know what its like when YOU don't see what the rest of us see.

Truthfully I didn't even look at the tummy area when looking at the picture! I looked at the flower detail on the boobs haha, the veil and your hair.... then the hem!

 

[xpatchx]

My hairs gonna be long and curly. I'm just relying on the corsetting in the dress, but my OH (who hasn't seen the pics but has heard me explain what I dont like) said he can pay out for some proper support underwear. Not sure where to get it though? Needs to be for my tummy.

Sometimes I look at it and go "Hmm, actually, when I look at the whole lot and not just my tummy, it looks lovely, then I look and think "Bleurgh, it's not what I imagined"

 

[booflebump]

I'm too busy looking at your fab boobs and gorgeous dress detailing to notice anything about your tummy. And when I do look, it's looks lovely and flat to me! If you feel self conscious, I'm sure it's nothing a bit of support underwear couldn't help with

xxx

 

[honeybee2]

personally, its not at all bad as you think. I can understand why your feeling like it though hun- I did before my last dress fitting. I only weighed like 7lb more than I do now but with the weight loss, my hair and make up trial done it made so much difference in how I felt and how the whole look was put together.

The bottom of the corset is very pronounced and it draws your attention to that area which is why your worrying about it so much.

Trust me, a good pair of pull in pants WILL work wonders and give a smooth silhouette.

I think the dress is very pretty and your gorgeous anyway. We are our worst critics but everyone will think you look beautiful on the day but if your upset they will sense it, so its important to feel happy and do what is needed to make you happy!

If I saw you walking through a church now- I would instantly think 'what a classy bride'. You do look every inch bridal in it!

 

[xpatchx]

Thanks everyone, and special thanks HB. I DO want some control undies. I've looked at (fitting name too... ) the superfit Amelia in Debenhams (£50 EEK... but OH wanted to buy a new dress so I think £50 is a good deal!)

https://www.debenhams.com/webapp/wc...ome~Lingerie~Shapewear+&+control+lingerie

Can it really make that much of a diff?

 

[azoebuddy]

U look beautiful maybe a lil underwear for support and piece of mind? My find wore long shorts,corset and dress corset at her wedding,pickle to get out of but its helped make her feel better u can get stuff from marks and spensors,bbs,loads of other underwear shop. xxx

 

[honeybee2]

yes they do! I'm wearing support undies- I'm not a small girl either but man do those babys work!

 

[xpatchx]

Hmm, I need to see before and after pics. I've seen them on Gok Wan and they really do seem to make a difference, but not sure what ones to get haha

 

[NuKe]

ok I'm just gonna say it. I DO think it makes your tummy look big. Probably a lot bigger than it actually is.

BUT... like the other girls have said- SHAPEWEAR SHAPEWEAR SHAPEWEAR!!! I'm wearing a one-piece that goes from my knees (like shorts) up to just under my bust and also had straps over my shoulders. I do have a pair of control pants but find that I get some serious over-hang at the top cuz they're so tight! I got mine from debenhams! I reckon it'll change the whole look! (you look stunning by the way!)

 

[xpatchx]

Hm, I've seen those ones Nuke, but I've got a strapless dress so can't have them =(

What do you think of this one?

https://www.debenhams.com/webapp/wc...ome~Lingerie~Shapewear+&+control+lingerie

 

[NuKe]

you'd need to try that on, i tried one of those on and cuz im a little taller than average it wasnt long enough and instead of just holding my boobs in place it pinned them to my waist

 

[xpatchx]

Yeah that's my issue too. I'm 6foot so thats not gonna work then. Wonder if I can get "tall" shapewear?

 

[NuKe]

thats like the one i have only mind was NOT that price
https://www.debenhams.com/webapp/wc...ome~Lingerie~Shapewear+&+control+lingerie


what about this?
https://www.debenhams.com/webapp/wc...ome~Lingerie~Shapewear+&+control+lingerie