What a pointless appointment!!!

[MrsH1984]

I apologise in advance for the moan...

After having long cycles (6-6.5wks) since coming off BCP, and this cycle being 8weeks, I decided to make an appointment with the doctors to see if there's anything they can do to check/ regulate my cycles.

I know most healthy and "in-working-order" couples take upto 12 months to conceive, but with irregular cycles, I'm worried that means 2 years for me and DH. I also started tracking this cycle, which now proves I didn't in fact ovulate. There was a hint of O, but then temps went AWOL, and AF showed today, so obviously I didn't!

The doc basically said that after being on BCP for so long, your ovaries have to re-learn how to work, and how to get the rest of your body/ hormones working together/ properly in order to ovulate. He said I need to wait for my cycles to regulate before I should start worrying/ before they do anything about it! He also said that tracking any fertility hormone is pointless, as my body is trying to sort itself out and will be eratic!

He said this could take anything upto a year. I expressed my frustration that that could mean a 2 year roller-coaster of a journey, due to waiting a year to regulate, THEN start TTC properly... he just said "you have to give these things time".

I don't blame those of you who have got bored half way through, and sorry for the moan! Feeling a bit lost at the minute, not really sure what the best route to take would be for my sanity. xxx

 

[MrsH1984]

Please don't anyone think that I am be-littling the TTC journey you have gone through so far. I know this may seem minor to anyone who has known fertility issues or who has been TTC for a lot longer. I do feel guilty moaning, knowing there are people in worse situations. My heart and hugs goes out to anyone with any TTC issues. Please don't take this post the wrong way xxx

 

[sianyld]

hey hun,

i agree with u hun, id b annoyed too! im moaning that i've been ttc 15 months and nothing, so now i have got diagnosed with pcos, from a scan tues, been off bcp for 15 months and this cycle im in cd49!! my cycles have been between 38-45 really! BUT... i had a scan tues and there was a big follicle there and the doc said i was about to O this wk and today i have got a fab dark line on an OPK so hoping this is my O!!! No meds either!!!

things do take time but it would help if they put u in for bloods and a scan maybe. how long have u been ttc? xxx

 

[croydongirl]

It is a hard journey for everyone that has the desire for a baby but can't make it happen easily. Sorry this news was not what you wanted, but stress will not help your cycles sort themselves out. Take a deep breath, and try to think of some adventures you and your OH can pursue in the next year to make it not seem so long. I am sorry this is not easy for you, but you are justified to have your moan and be sad.
Thinking of you and hoping that things sort themselves out more quickly than the docs expect and that you and your OH continue to play together and make wonderful memories and stories to share with your baby in the future!

 

[MrsH1984]

hey hun,

i agree with u hun, id b annoyed too! im moaning that i've been ttc 15 months and nothing, so now i have got diagnosed with pcos, from a scan tues, been off bcp for 15 months and this cycle im in cd49!! my cycles have been between 38-45 really! BUT... i had a scan tues and there was a big follicle there and the doc said i was about to O this wk and today i have got a fab dark line on an OPK so hoping this is my O!!! No meds either!!!

things do take time but it would help if they put u in for bloods and a scan maybe. how long have u been ttc? xxx

I just commented on your post about your O, great news!!

I only came off BCP Feb, so I know it's not long at all really n comparison to some people, but doesn't make it any easier

The thing is, when we got married 5 years ago I said I wanted to change from the Depo to something a little less permanent incase we decide to TTC. They put me on Microgynon30. Then about 18mths ago at a BCP prescription appointment, the doc asked if there was a baby on the horizon as if not, we should think about somethign a bit more long-term. I said it was in the pipeline, but it wasn'te going to be in a couple of months, he didn't advise to come off BCP a year before wanting to start trying!

Oh well, nothing I can do but wait and hope my cycle regulates soon xxx

 

[MrsH1984]

It is a hard journey for everyone that has the desire for a baby but can't make it happen easily. Sorry this news was not what you wanted, but stress will not help your cycles sort themselves out. Take a deep breath, and try to think of some adventures you and your OH can pursue in the next year to make it not seem so long. I am sorry this is not easy for you, but you are justified to have your moan and be sad.
Thinking of you and hoping that things sort themselves out more quickly than the docs expect and that you and your OH continue to play together and make wonderful memories and stories to share with your baby in the future!

I know worrying is not going to help, but I just feel a bit in limbo at the minute. Do I wait to be regular to try, or do I just persevere with trying and hope for the best (and be disappointed easch month it doesn't happen)!?

It's the not knowing that's the problem. It means trying, not really knowing what/ when things are going on inside.

I know I should just look at enjoying time with DH, and I do really love him and enjoy our time together. I am happy with my life, I just really want a baby too. I have always been one for being organised. We've been been married 5 years (I don't judge anyone not married with kids, this is just the way round I prefer/ wanted), I've done my studying and got my career, we've got our own house and done alterations etc, been on holidays, partied, started a saving plan so I can avoid mortgage etc when on mat leave. It just seems like after I've organised when I want to do things in life, they may now not happen to plan for some time!

Thanks for the listen though, and your comments. Support on here means alot xxx

 

[sianyld]

no hun, no matter how long ur ttc it doesnt make things easier when u know ur so ready for the next step!

some people catch the eggy stright afta bcp hun some dont like me lol! its just the luck of the drawer i guess. hun u could always see another gp and say its been longer if u really are worried, i wish i had now as my issues could have been identified alot sooner if i had! its been a gd 6 months for u and if ur cyckes r long it can sumtimes cause issues not always tho but def keep a check on them xxx

 

[Tanya8]

Hi, I know exactly how you feel. I am new to this site (and to TTC). I wanted to share my story with you and maybe provide you with some hope. I have always had very irregular cycles. I was on BC for many years. In 2005 I decided to get off BC. I did not have my AF for close to six months when I finally went to the doctor. We were not trying to conceive...we were using the pull and pray method. I had taken numerous pregnancy tests which were all BFN. Of course the doctor also did a test (urine), which turned out BFN. She put me on BC to regulate my cycles and told me to come back if AF didn't show up in three months. Well, AF did not show up. Imagine my shock when I discovered that I was 18 weeks pregnant! That means that I was 4 weeks pregnant when she tested me. Luckily, my little guy hung in there through all those crazy hormones and I have a healthy 4 1/2 year old boy. I felt horrible those three months...had all the pregnancy symptoms, but when I called the doctor, she told me it was BC and that my body would get used to it. Ha! My husband and I only had one night (our 3-year anniversary) when he did not pull out. It took that one time and some crazy perfect timing.

After my pregnancy I went back on BC b/c I thought I wanted an only. I got off BC in November just because...I just didn't want chemicals in my body. I did not have AF until June and then again in August (56 CD). About two weeks ago my hubby and I decided we want another. I've been doing so much research and have come to realize how difficult and long this process will likely be. So, I'm here with you now! I started charting last week and watching for signs of O. Like you, I have no idea when that may be...it could be any time. We've been BDing every other day. Hopefully we'll catch it. I'm just not sure if I O at all...hence the temping. Good luck!