What a refreshing change

[special_kala]

There is a difference between a 3 year old running riot and being out of control and a baby who is just a bit grumpy.

River has always been really good in restaurants but she can make alot of noise squealing and chatting. weve had some foul looks from people but tbh i really couldn't care less. We go to normal family places so it would be different if we went to some right fancy place (well we just wouldnt take River to a place like that)

If a baby is crying I would expect the parents to try and soothe it but if it didnt work im not about to get assy about it or expect them to leave

 

[mrsthomas623]

I am kind of mixed on this one, after having a colicky baby I had to adopt the "my kid cries, get over it" attitude or I would have had to lock myself in the house for 2 1/2 months. However I do think it is better on the baby to remove them from the situation to calm them down. But I do it for their comfort and not for others

I think it also depends on age, a newborn crying.. no big deal but when its a 2 year old having a fit I do get irritated!

 

[jojo2605]

Yeah I too agree that someone else's screaming child isn't so great on the ears, BUT I wouldn't be offended if the parents' didn't take them outside. We went for a meal on friday with Sam (who is 1) and he was getting grumpy and whingy as he was tired, but I calmed him down inside, he's not old enough to know what a 'tantrum' for the sake of it is. We were successful, however if he'd have gone into a full blown melt down then yes either one of us would have gone outside for everyone's sakes! hehe.

 

[mummy3]

Toddlers have tempers though, and sometimes very regularly. Thankfully my son rarely does but I wouldn't judge if someone elses child did!

I really think it goes with the territory of kids, and those of us with more than one just don't have the option of upping and leaving if our toddler had a tantrum or our baby cries. Of course I would discipline my toddler/calm my baby!!

 

[AFC84]

If I knew it was going to be a quick cry then I would soothe her down inside but if that didn't work or it was clear she was going to have a tantrum, I'd take her outside and have done.

Yup same as. It's not nice for everyone else to have to sit and listen to a full meltdown! Also agree it depends on the age...if it's a toddler running around the place, screaming and throwing stuff etc then it would piss me off if I'm honest....a baby having a bit of a grumble isn't so bad.

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

There is a difference between a 3 year old running riot and being out of control and a baby who is just a bit grumpy.

River has always been really good in restaurants but she can make alot of noise squealing and chatting. weve had some foul looks from people but tbh i really couldn't care less. We go to normal family places so it would be different if we went to some right fancy place (well we just wouldnt take River to a place like that)

If a baby is crying I would expect the parents to try and soothe it but if it didnt work im not about to get assy about it or expect them to leave

Agreed. I try and calm aidan down if that fails now he is older I take him outside. Once he wad screaming on a coach and I couldn't calm him down and I got dirty looks. People need too be a little more accepting sometimes and allowaces should be made for a childs noise to a certain extent
xx

 

[special_kala]

There is a difference between a 3 year old running riot and being out of control and a baby who is just a bit grumpy.

River has always been really good in restaurants but she can make alot of noise squealing and chatting. weve had some foul looks from people but tbh i really couldn't care less. We go to normal family places so it would be different if we went to some right fancy place (well we just wouldnt take River to a place like that)

If a baby is crying I would expect the parents to try and soothe it but if it didnt work im not about to get assy about it or expect them to leave

Agreed. I try and calm aidan down if that fails now he is older I take him outside. Once he wad screaming on a coach and I couldn't calm him down and I got dirty looks. People need too be a little more accepting sometimes and allowaces should be made for a childs noise to a certain extent
xx

exactly.

 

[Poppeteer]

Wow, I am surprised by some of these responses....
My little girl is 19 months old and has full on tantrums.... they normally last a good 10 minutes, but they can be pretty intense and frequent. When she was a young baby it was pretty easy to calm her down by whipping out a boob, but now she's older, I don't feel as comfortable getting them out and it doesn't always work.
Some of her tantrums are because she doesn't want to be in a certain place, for example we went to a restaurant the other day and she really wanted to go outside and feed the ducks at the pond outside instead. What am I supposed to do in that instance? Take her outside and teach her that by crying and throwing a wobbly she gets what she wants?? No chance.
And please don't say I shouldn't take her to a restaurant or out anywhere.... I need a life with my daughter too.
We were all kids once, and to be honest it saddens me to read that other mothers would find a crying toddler unacceptable.

 

[xbabybumpx]

Crying babies/toddlers dont bother me,unless their being ignored or screamed at to shut up,which pisses me off no end. I hate hearing parents shouting at their child to shut up x

 

[charliebear]

There is a difference between a 3 year old running riot and being out of control and a baby who is just a bit grumpy.

River has always been really good in restaurants but she can make alot of noise squealing and chatting. weve had some foul looks from people but tbh i really couldn't care less. We go to normal family places so it would be different if we went to some right fancy place (well we just wouldnt take River to a place like that)

If a baby is crying I would expect the parents to try and soothe it but if it didnt work im not about to get assy about it or expect them to leave

Agreed. I try and calm aidan down if that fails now he is older I take him outside. Once he wad screaming on a coach and I couldn't calm him down and I got dirty looks. People need too be a little more accepting sometimes and allowaces should be made for a childs noise to a certain extent
xx

exactly.

Compleatly agree.

 

[Jolinar]

I used to think "take them out" before I came a mother, now I'm slightly more sympathetic It's not always so simple is it?

 

[winegums]

as someone else said if they have an immediate reaction they know all i have to do is scream and i'll get what i want.

luckily for me my son is usually fine out, and has his tantrums at home as he wants to GO out lol

 

[Sam9kids]

Babies crying doesnt bother me at all

But kids running riot round a place really winds me up!! If i can get all of mine to sit and behave in an eating place, then so can everyone else. That does grate on me lol!

As for tantrums, only one of my children has ever thrown them and thats my 4yr old Rachel. She is very strongwilled, and even though she doesnt win (im just as strongwilled!), she will still try it. An example today, i went out with her and 2 of my older girls. We went into a shop and i knew that she was tired and over excited about starting school tomorrow, but she wanted a toy and i said no. Well she started crying and being a monkey. By the time we got to ASDA it was full blown tantrum. I dragged(not literally) her out of Asda and put her in the car with my older daughter and went and got my bits i needed. When i got home, i put her on the naughty corner and when i went back to her, she was curled up in a ball fast asleep!!!!

My point is, a crying baby isnt a problem, but a tantrum should be removed from the place!!

 

[WW1]

Babies crying doesnt bother me at all

But kids running riot round a place really winds me up!! If i can get all of mine to sit and behave in an eating place, then so can everyone else. That does grate on me lol!

As for tantrums, only one of my children has ever thrown them and thats my 4yr old Rachel. She is very strongwilled, and even though she doesnt win (im just as strongwilled!), she will still try it. An example today, i went out with her and 2 of my older girls. We went into a shop and i knew that she was tired and over excited about starting school tomorrow, but she wanted a toy and i said no. Well she started crying and being a monkey. By the time we got to ASDA it was full blown tantrum. I dragged(not literally) her out of Asda and put her in the car with my older daughter and went and got my bits i needed. When i got home, i put her on the naughty corner and when i went back to her, she was curled up in a ball fast asleep!!!!

My point is, a crying baby isnt a problem, but a tantrum should be removed from the place!!

I agree with this. A crying baby I can cope with; an unruly child who's old enough to sit down sensibly - I can't bear it!!

Edit: Just re-read this - I wasn't implying that your LO was unruly, Sam!!

 

[xbabybumpx]

Babies crying doesnt bother me at all

But kids running riot round a place really winds me up!! If i can get all of mine to sit and behave in an eating place, then so can everyone else. That does grate on me lol!

As for tantrums, only one of my children has ever thrown them and thats my 4yr old Rachel. She is very strongwilled, and even though she doesnt win (im just as strongwilled!), she will still try it. An example today, i went out with her and 2 of my older girls. We went into a shop and i knew that she was tired and over excited about starting school tomorrow, but she wanted a toy and i said no. Well she started crying and being a monkey. By the time we got to ASDA it was full blown tantrum. I dragged(not literally) her out of Asda and put her in the car with my older daughter and went and got my bits i needed. When i got home, i put her on the naughty corner and when i went back to her, she was curled up in a ball fast asleep!!!!

My point is, a crying baby isnt a problem, but a tantrum should be removed from the place!!

Out of 9 kids only one of them has tantrums? THats bloody fantastic. You could give super nanny a run for her money! XX

 

[Bingo]

Take 'em outside. I don't have my own...yet, so we shall see how I cope when she arrives and has a tantrum in public.

I will be flying long haul with my new baby and hubby and we will do everything in our power to make sure baby is quiet and settled so we don't disturb other passengers. I know how annoyed it would make me if the parent wasn't doing anything to calm their baby or child.

 

[Sam9kids]

Babies crying doesnt bother me at all

But kids running riot round a place really winds me up!! If i can get all of mine to sit and behave in an eating place, then so can everyone else. That does grate on me lol!

As for tantrums, only one of my children has ever thrown them and thats my 4yr old Rachel. She is very strongwilled, and even though she doesnt win (im just as strongwilled!), she will still try it. An example today, i went out with her and 2 of my older girls. We went into a shop and i knew that she was tired and over excited about starting school tomorrow, but she wanted a toy and i said no. Well she started crying and being a monkey. By the time we got to ASDA it was full blown tantrum. I dragged(not literally) her out of Asda and put her in the car with my older daughter and went and got my bits i needed. When i got home, i put her on the naughty corner and when i went back to her, she was curled up in a ball fast asleep!!!!

My point is, a crying baby isnt a problem, but a tantrum should be removed from the place!!

I agree with this. A crying baby I can cope with; an unruly child who's old enough to sit down sensibly - I can't bear it!!

Edit: Just re-read this - I wasn't implying that your LO was unruly, Sam!!

Ha ha ok i'll let you off!!!

 

[Sam9kids]

Babies crying doesnt bother me at all

But kids running riot round a place really winds me up!! If i can get all of mine to sit and behave in an eating place, then so can everyone else. That does grate on me lol!

As for tantrums, only one of my children has ever thrown them and thats my 4yr old Rachel. She is very strongwilled, and even though she doesnt win (im just as strongwilled!), she will still try it. An example today, i went out with her and 2 of my older girls. We went into a shop and i knew that she was tired and over excited about starting school tomorrow, but she wanted a toy and i said no. Well she started crying and being a monkey. By the time we got to ASDA it was full blown tantrum. I dragged(not literally) her out of Asda and put her in the car with my older daughter and went and got my bits i needed. When i got home, i put her on the naughty corner and when i went back to her, she was curled up in a ball fast asleep!!!!

My point is, a crying baby isnt a problem, but a tantrum should be removed from the place!!

Out of 9 kids only one of them has tantrums? THats bloody fantastic. You could give super nanny a run for her money! XX

Thanks! I am quite a tough mummy, but i suppose i have to be with my lot! x

 

[dani_tinks]

A young baby crying wouldn't bother me, but a toddler having a full blown tantrum and their parents doing very little about it is one of my pet hates.

Jacob is NORMALLY very good in public places but when he crys one of us will take him outside to calm him down.

 

[redpoppy]

Opposite end of the spectrum story (and please bear with me as I am pretty convinced that i'm going to not cope well with toddlerhood and terrible twos/threes and will porbably be doing EXACTLY the same in two years time )

In the doctors surgery and a very cute 3 year old boy with his parents comes in. They have a baby girl too (maybe aorund my LO's age SUPER CUTE) and the boy starts making a noise but not crying or throwing a tantrum just not realising that being in a public place means that volume control is sometimes appreciated. I found this very funny as my LO (only 8 months) can babble VERY loudly on the tube which is obviously VERY out of place especially in London. He then sits on the chair with his legs all akimbo and sprawled limbs. His mother and then his father get more and more wound up and are speking to him in restrained hushed tones. I'm sure its from knowing that he loses it in public all the time but poor little boy seemed so chuffed and they slowly just kept telling him not to do this and not to do that and on and on and on and I honestly don't think his loud talking and exclamations should warrant a telling off. They then keep telling him to do this and do that and not do this or that and it all seems so much for such a young child. But I dunno. But obviously his parents were trying to do their best and it ended in a tantrum with him crying and then taking turns to tell him off and take him to the outer waiting area and leave him there till he behaved himself etc. I just felt so bad for him. I tried talking to him softly but he was in tears (i was in the outside bit where he was just before leaving) and it just made me think that I hope I can pick my battles when my baby reaches that age and that that little boy is VERY unlikely to be shouting in the doctors surgery or sitting with his arms and legs sprawled all over the place when he's 35.

In that circumstance I just thought, maybe instead of caring if there were people in the surgery who didn't like kids being noisy, I'd rather foster a good relationship with my kid and either take him for a walk or sit with him as a family in the outer bit. In his mind he wasn't misbehaving and didn't understand why he was being reprimanded.

Sorry to go off topic a bit but I've been thinking about this for a few days now. I don't blame the parents as being a parent is tough and you could tell they meant the best and just wanted to teach their little boy good manners etc.

Before I had or wanted kids I would have been annoyed at crying tantrum kids but now I'm a hypocrite and now think as long as the mum is trying and not being abusive or neglectful then it's enough for me.

Although after a while on this forum I've decided sam9kids is the queen of all parenting knowledge and if she disagrees with me then I'm obviously wrong.