What about the Father?

[Mommi2Be]

How many of you are currently single while pregnant, or had been single during your pregnancy?

When people asked about the father, what was or is your response? In my case, I want the father to have nothing to do with the baby. A lot of the people we both know already know it's his.

When they continue to ask questions, would should I say? Just a brief, "Doesn't matter?" And what about those who don't know and ask for the first time?

Just looking for opinions. Thanks!

 

[sophieee18]

If you're close to the people asking all the questions, explain that you don't wish to have the father involved and you do not wish to talk about him.
For anyone else being 'nosey' just tell them where to stick it, as really, it's none of their business.

I was single thoughout the end of my pregnancy and EVERYONE knew who the father was. Just IMO, that's the best thing to do.

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

I was pregnant with DS w/o his father being there. Everyone knew he was abusive so they didnt really ask why he wasnt around, but if they had asked, i would of said "we arent together anymore, it just didnt work out"

 

[anna matronic]

People I want to know know and people who are nosey don't. Generally very few people asked (except close friends/family)

Now no-one asks at all. People ask if I'm with his dad or if he see's he's dad and I'm straight with them

 

[billy2mm]

its no ones business imo.

if people ask i just say he doesnt see the kids and i leave it at that.

 

[lal]

My FOB and I are in the same group of friends, so everyone knew, and constantly was asking the situation (which was a disaster). They all knew he was dating other people and that I was doing everything by myself. When they asked "how things were w/ FOB" I'd say "we are both excited and even though we aren't together, we are working on raising the baby together". I didn't want them feeling sorry for me or to sound bitter. They didn't need any more to gossip about or to give him and his trashy skanks any more attention.

 

[whoops]

I just say that he's not involved and most people leave it at that.

 

[teal]

I was single from 4 weeks pregnant (when I told FOB) up until LO was 10 months old. I just told people who asked that he didn't want to know xx

 

[18singlemom2b]

fob wanted me to have an abortion and after i got pregnant i found out that he cheated on me the whole time and he has said numerous times over the past few months that he doesn't want to be in her life, and he doesn't want to pay, or he doesn't know what to do. he is very unrealiable and i have decided not to have him around when she's born. when people ask, i briefly explain that he doesn't want to be around and turned out to be a pathological liar and so forth. i just tell it like it is.

 

[angelpkj]

most people with me assumed i was still with FOB cause i never mentioned it and i'm so happy most of the time

i remember going to the hairdressers and the hairdresser asked if im still with FOB and it caught me abit off guard cause it was the first time someone had asked me

i just said no-he ended it when i was 5 and half months

if i say just no then they will be left wondering and judging so i like to polish it off with HE left ME so least they know we was together and it's him who chose to leave me

 

[chels24uk]

strangers dont ask me. Its usually just normally pregnancy questions like "how far gone are you?" "Do you know what your having?" etc etc. Friends and family know we split when i was 8 weeks pregnant and that he left to live nearer a girl in Scotland when i was 17 weeks gone. So now no-one asks about him because everyone is furious at him! including his family.