What access do you allow?

[Aidedhoney]

Hiya Ladies

As above really, what kind of access do you allow FOB?, we are not married and he is named on the BC and He walked out.

Thanks x

 

[Monkeh]

I don't allow any, but fob is not named on birth certificate in my case. Hopefully someone else can help. I didn't want to read and run!

 

[Aidedhoney]

Thanks hun xx

 

[lou_w34]

When he asks to come down and see lo (about once every two weeks) i say yes... but he doesnt show up. So im at the point where i cant be bothered any more, so i dont no what to allow really!

xx

 

[purpledahlia]

Well avas nearly 7 weeks and he only mentioned visiting last night in an argument, apparently im meant to tell him when is a good time for him to come up.. even altho i didnt know he was wanting too since he didnt even ask.. but ok, whatever.

I reckon once every 6 weeks or so... when he can come up.. if he bothers to show up.. if his phone works.. and if the internet works.. and if the train isnt overbooked.. and any other excuse that may come up..

tbh if hes willing to come up REGULARLY and not be a dick then he can, but im not putting him up or anything. and only once CSA has arranged maintenence payments.

 

[Aidedhoney]

Men eh...............dont you just love them....................... lol

 

[purpledahlia]

I want to be re-incarnated as a big strong boxer man and go round and beat the shit out of all the no gooders!

 

[MissEfendi]

My ex is not on the birth cert, I would rather he never ever visits as he has terrible qualities that I hope our son never has, but I have told him he can visit every other saturday for an hour at the local library. Dreading having to look at his bloody face when I just want to punch him for all the lies, bullying, controlling, and threats he has dished out. He is a twat. My son is too good for him.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Same situation as you hun, not married, his name is on BC and he was the one that walked out. I allow 9.30 till 6.30 one day at the weekend as he works all week

 

[edinsam]

none for me (but my situ is waaaay different to yours as he has never seen her once) and its just the way I like it!

 

[Emma1980]

same situation as you hun and i give him whatever he wants, within reason, he's welcome in my house whenever, he has to give notice if he wants to take LO to his mums and thats the only place hes allowed to take him.... he calls round pretty much every other day to check on us, but this may change in the future, i know what he can be like!

I just dont ever want to give my son reason to hate me for keeping him away from his dad.... as ive been thru all that in my life x

 

[Aidedhoney]

Same situation as you hun, not married, his name is on BC and he was the one that walked out. I allow 9.30 till 6.30 one day at the weekend as he works all week

Thanks hun

How old was your lo when you started that?

 

[AppleBlossom]

Same situation as you hun, not married, his name is on BC and he was the one that walked out. I allow 9.30 till 6.30 one day at the weekend as he works all week

Thanks hun

How old was your lo when you started that?

My LO was almost 7 months old when he left so not until then

 

[sweetlullaby]

FOB has seen him once when he was just under 2 weeks old for an hour. Hasnt seen him since and if he contacts me he isnt getting to see him unless he has really wised up isnt going to threaten me is willing to provide for his son and will be there properly not when it suits him etc

 

[xXDonnaXx]

None! He's not on her birth certificate. And has never bat an eye lid. So I just let him do his own thing with his string of girls.

 

[Monkeh]

None! He's not on her birth certificate. And has never bat an eye lid. So I just let him do his own thing with his string of girls.

Sounds exactly like my situation!

 

[littlekitten8]

My FOB is supposed to see my LO every other Monday from 10am ish to 7pm ish. He has another son by another woman who he sees the other week from Sunday evening to Tuesday evening. He was supposed to come see LO on Monday but he had crashed his car and then all the excuses started, Oh I don't have money for the train, I don't want to sit on the train for half the day, blah blah blah. So he didn't come down. He is already making excuses for the next time he is due to see him. He says he wants me to drive up with LO to see him (85 miles each way) even after I've had to put 4 new tyres on the car cos he drove it so badly that it ruined them! I would be perfectly happy for him to see LO more often (but then I was the one who left) but he doesn't make the effort.

 

[Aidedhoney]

My FOB is supposed to see my LO every other Monday from 10am ish to 7pm ish. He has another son by another woman who he sees the other week from Sunday evening to Tuesday evening. He was supposed to come see LO on Monday but he had crashed his car and then all the excuses started, Oh I don't have money for the train, I don't want to sit on the train for half the day, blah blah blah. So he didn't come down. He is already making excuses for the next time he is due to see him. He says he wants me to drive up with LO to see him (85 miles each way) even after I've had to put 4 new tyres on the car cos he drove it so badly that it ruined them! I would be perfectly happy for him to see LO more often (but then I was the one who left) but he doesn't make the effort.

ATM he lives across the rd, but i have to move back in with my parents which will be 100 miles away. I can see the same happening with us.

 

[courtniesmum]

my little girls dad has had to have his contact sorted out throught the solicitors, he has her tue-wed an then sat-sun, the weekend was his choice, but it his mum that has her as his new gf is far more important but my solicitor said to just let him stop his contact rather than me stop it as if it goes to court then it will go in my favour xxx

 

[Pyrrhic]

we're starting with 2 nights a week and every other weekend I think.