NYcountrygirl
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My friend lost her husband a few months ago. She is a mama of 3 boys. He died suddenly at age 42. She is 38.
She ended up hooking up with her high school sweethart recently. Her boys hate him. He lives out of state (we are in the USA). He made it very clear to her that he does not want any more children. Well, 2 weeks ago, he stayed at her house for a week. Her boys actually did damage to his car and everything because they really don't like him! I can't blame them. They just lost their daddy and mommy brought over a new guy.
Anyway, she told me she has some pelvic pains, so she went to the dr for a pap smear. She said it came back normal. I asked her if she is on birth control, and she told me she has to wait for her period to get on the depo. I asked her when she is due, and she told me she is due now, but didn't get it yet. She had 3 days of brown spotting, then nothing at all. I asked if she could be pregnant. She said she and her BF used condoms. I asked her if it was possible that 1 may have broke, and she started freaking out all nervous and upset.
She was upset because of being single and poss being preggo with #4, and that her BF would leave her if she was.
I told her maybe we are just jumping to conclusions. I told her we can take a test when she gets out of work this morning (she works overnights). I asked her if her boobs hurt. She said, "OMG, they do!!!" I asked her if she had other symptoms and she told me her lower back hurt, pelvic pain, missed period. By now, she is totally freaking out. I told her she really isn't late, but only a couple days. She's been under a lot of stress this month, so it could be that.
We will know shortly, but what can I do to help her if she is? I would like to be there for her. She really needs help. I can't offer her anything more than just being there for her. I don't believe in abortion, so it's not an option I will be laying out on the table for her. She needs a prayer. Thanks for reading.
I will update after she leaves today and when I get out of work myself.
She ended up hooking up with her high school sweethart recently. Her boys hate him. He lives out of state (we are in the USA). He made it very clear to her that he does not want any more children. Well, 2 weeks ago, he stayed at her house for a week. Her boys actually did damage to his car and everything because they really don't like him! I can't blame them. They just lost their daddy and mommy brought over a new guy.
Anyway, she told me she has some pelvic pains, so she went to the dr for a pap smear. She said it came back normal. I asked her if she is on birth control, and she told me she has to wait for her period to get on the depo. I asked her when she is due, and she told me she is due now, but didn't get it yet. She had 3 days of brown spotting, then nothing at all. I asked if she could be pregnant. She said she and her BF used condoms. I asked her if it was possible that 1 may have broke, and she started freaking out all nervous and upset.
She was upset because of being single and poss being preggo with #4, and that her BF would leave her if she was.
I told her maybe we are just jumping to conclusions. I told her we can take a test when she gets out of work this morning (she works overnights). I asked her if her boobs hurt. She said, "OMG, they do!!!" I asked her if she had other symptoms and she told me her lower back hurt, pelvic pain, missed period. By now, she is totally freaking out. I told her she really isn't late, but only a couple days. She's been under a lot of stress this month, so it could be that.
We will know shortly, but what can I do to help her if she is? I would like to be there for her. She really needs help. I can't offer her anything more than just being there for her. I don't believe in abortion, so it's not an option I will be laying out on the table for her. She needs a prayer. Thanks for reading.
I will update after she leaves today and when I get out of work myself.
