What Do I Do ?? (long)

[BeccaBabesz1]

im 14 and its possible im pregnant ive been over tired sleeping during the day and still being tired at night it is possible i had unprotected sex around the time i ovulated however im not sure when i ovulated because my cycle has been irregular my last period was due on january 10th and it came on the 12/13th i usually have a 26 day cycle so my period should have come around the 7th and it hasnt come yet im really not stressing much because i dont know if i am pregnant so i dont think its late due to stress .. btw i am not "trying to get pregnant" at 14 i only know alot because i go to a centre and part of it is for teenage mums (im not one) so we learn alot about it ...

also me and my bf (also 14) broke up and i told him i might be pregnant and i know he will try and be there for the baby if i am but he has no intention of telling his mum and he'd preffer it if i aborted it because were so young but im not seeing abortion as a option because i couldnt do that but im scared if my mum finds out she'll force me to get a abortion or kick me out ecause when i started going to my centre she said if i ever got pregnant so young she would do that and knowing my dad and my brother they would probably try and kill my ex :S i know im probably tthinking to much and stressing but i only just started taking into consideration a may be pregnant ..

i know alot of people are going to say take a test but due to my situations its going to be really hard for me to get one i would rather not explain everything as to why and i dont want to tell anyone or go to the doctors but can people like tell me things i should look out for that would help me know like different things other than the usual fatigue missed period ect ..

Aslo ( Sorry I Know Its Really Long ) I Used to be a elite gymnast so my stomach has always been proper flat and ive noticed that its not flat and there is a tinyyy bump but i wouldnt say i look pregnant .. im probably only about 3-4 weeks if i am pregnant so is that normal to show any sign of a small bump that early ??

 

[Char&Bump-x]

Nobody can tell you if you are pregnant or not, the only way you can do that is to do a test. 3-4 weeks is way to early for a bump, baby would only be rice-grain sized.

Try your hardest to get a test, and i hope you manage to sort it out x

 

[Jkelmum]

You may have early pregnancy bloat .....the only way to tell is get a test isnt there anybody u trust that u can talk to ? you can talk to your school nurse in confidence or maybe go to ur local family planning centre x

 

[moosey]

Thats so strange, im 14 too and i really feel the same as you do i so worried if i am, my boyfriend said he would stay by me no matter what, i have been with him for about 6 months and i know he will always stay there for me, but im so worried if i am i really hope it turns out the best for you.

 

[BeccaBabesz1]

Thanks Hope It Turns Out Best For You Too Me And My Ex Was Going Out For 2 Years i Still Love Him Tho And He Still Loves Me But It Got Complicacted So We Had To Break Up But Were Still Really Close So He Said He'd Be There Too x

 

[AppleBlossom]

Hmm i remember that old line: i'll be there for you. I don't want to be negative but you are both so young, the chances of him sticking by you are quite slim. Boys mature much slower than girls and at 14 he will want to go out with his friends etc (i'm just saying this in general as I dont actually know your ex perosnally) you need to take a test though. Sore boobs and nausea are also a sign but you need to try your best to get a test

 

[moosey]

aww bless, love is such a strong thing in lifee, and being pregnant will really make things hard but hopefuly its something we get threw. concidering i really am not ready to be pregnant but my mum keeps giving hints and reading out things in books like, " i think my daughters in a sexual relationship how do i ask her" i think she knows, but i could never tell her.. we told him mum and she didnt take it too good at first but she fine now

 

[BeccaBabesz1]

Lool My Mum Does Things Like That Too ..x


Also Yeah I Know Being So Young I Would Expect Most Boys To Not Be There But He's Not Your Average Boy I Personally Think Hes Really Mature But Then Agen I Could Just Be Blinded By Love Lol

 

[moosey]

Lol, so im not the only one ^_^

 

[AppleBlossom]

My ex was the nicest most amazing boyfriend i'd ever had. now he's left me. i'm not saying all boys are the same but you have to bear in mind that people change and especially him being so young he has a lot more changing and growing up to do. But if you feel that, if you are pregnant, keeping it would be the right thing to do then do it. There are a lot of things to take into account such as finances etc it's a huge responsibility. I'm 19 and even I struggle sometimes and I have 5 years on you lol also to moosey, you will have to tell your mum sooner or later, sooner being a lot better. I was petrified of telling my parents but after the initial shock they were fine and they love grace to bits

 

[honey08]

ur family plannin clinic wud give u a free test uknow, also i wud sugest if ur not pregnant,14 is very young, u shud think about going on a form of the pill etc

 

[moosey]

Im just so worried about what my mother will think, she gets so scary sometimes but with something as big as this i would find it so hard to tell her, can you not, not have the baby without them not knowing ?

 

[moosey]

I am going on the pill, when my next period starts im on the pill because my period likes to decide to come on when ever it feels like it, so its not for sexual reasons as my mother told the doctor but tbh, i think it will put my mind at rest

 

[BeccaBabesz1]

Well If I Am I'll Definatley Keep It Because I Cant Take A Life But Adoption May Be A Option But I Think Id Rather Take Responsibility And Keep The Baby However If I Couldnt Cope Id Consider Adoption .. As For Telling Mothers I Thiink Id Rather Let Her Figure Out For Herself If I Am And Just Keep Deniying It Because Once My Belly Gets Big I Think Its Obvious And She Will Realise And Ease Up A Bit So Then I Can Eventually Tell Her Id Be Too Scared Of Sitting Down And Telling Her Coz Her First Reaction Might Be To Kick Me Out And I Have No Where To Go ..

 

[moosey]

Aw bless yah, yeh i think i might go your way too, at least it would be like, theres nothing you can do about it at that point...

 

[moosey]

Tbh right, at the end of the day, your mother will probs be there for you no matter what, i mean first reaction is always the worst but you never it might be best to tell her no matter how scary it might be.

 

[BeccaBabesz1]

True .. My Mum Loves Babys Lol So I Know She'll Get Used To It Eventually But Its Jus Her First Reaction And Knowing My Mum She Will Probably Keep Mentioning Things Like You Know Them Condom Adverts Lol When She See's It She'll Be Like " Yeah Some People Need To Learn How To Use Them " Which Is Kinda Akward But I Suppose If I Am Preg Its My Own Fault So i Guess Ill Have To Deal With That ..

 

[AppleBlossom]

You'll both be surprised how understanding parents can be...

 

[Jemma_x]

I no it not what you want to hear but you do need to test, as you said if you are pregnant you would only be 3-4 weeks so maybe you could go to your local youth clinic (if you have one) or family planning clinic as they both do free tests but if you are so early on it may not be accurate so they may say go back after a couple of weeks for another test.

Also you would be so surprised at how understanding parents can be, i no your young and of course your mum would proberbly be mad but im sure if you are pregnant she would come round in the end but i wouldnt recommend leaving it until she figures it out because if you are you need as much support as you can get

 

[princess_x0]

im 14 and its possible im pregnant ive been over tired sleeping during the day and still being tired at night it is possible i had unprotected sex around the time i ovulated however im not sure when i ovulated because my cycle has been irregular my last period was due on january 10th and it came on the 12/13th i usually have a 26 day cycle so my period should have come around the 7th and it hasnt come yet im really not stressing much because i dont know if i am pregnant so i dont think its late due to stress .. btw i am not "trying to get pregnant" at 14 i only know alot because i go to a centre and part of it is for teenage mums (im not one) so we learn alot about it ...

also me and my bf (also 14) broke up and i told him i might be pregnant and i know he will try and be there for the baby if i am but he has no intention of telling his mum and he'd preffer it if i aborted it because were so young but im not seeing abortion as a option because i couldnt do that but im scared if my mum finds out she'll force me to get a abortion or kick me out ecause when i started going to my centre she said if i ever got pregnant so young she would do that and knowing my dad and my brother they would probably try and kill my ex :S i know im probably tthinking to much and stressing but i only just started taking into consideration a may be pregnant ..

i know alot of people are going to say take a test but due to my situations its going to be really hard for me to get one i would rather not explain everything as to why and i dont want to tell anyone or go to the doctors but can people like tell me things i should look out for that would help me know like different things other than the usual fatigue missed period ect ..

Aslo ( Sorry I Know Its Really Long ) I Used to be a elite gymnast so my stomach has always been proper flat and ive noticed that its not flat and there is a tinyyy bump but i wouldnt say i look pregnant .. im probably only about 3-4 weeks if i am pregnant so is that normal to show any sign of a small bump that early ??

Hey hun, firstly, that 'bump' could be bloating. Either AF or pregnancy.

All I'm going to say is get a test, you seem pretty clued up, is there a brook clinic near you? Or this centre that you go to, do they not offer pregnancy tests, seeing as they have a teen mum section?

If you do end up being pregnant, it is possible your mum may kick you out or try to talk you into getting rid of it.But she will probably come round before she does anything drastic. But it is your choice, if you do end up keeping it, there is help out there. If you do end up not being pregnant, I would say get on some kind of contraception hun, you are so young xxx