What Do I Do ?? (long)

[esther]

Take a test honey and know for sure, I have had symptoms similar to pregnancy before and not actually been pregnant. Hormones are funny things.

Go to your pharmacy and buy a test and if it is positive then book in to see your doctor straight away and have it confirmed.

Best of luck xo

 

[aidensxmomma]

Well If I Am I'll Definatley Keep It Because I Cant Take A Life But Adoption May Be A Option But I Think Id Rather Take Responsibility And Keep The Baby However If I Couldnt Cope Id Consider Adoption .. As For Telling Mothers I Thiink Id Rather Let Her Figure Out For Herself If I Am And Just Keep Deniying It Because Once My Belly Gets Big I Think Its Obvious And She Will Realise And Ease Up A Bit So Then I Can Eventually Tell Her Id Be Too Scared Of Sitting Down And Telling Her Coz Her First Reaction Might Be To Kick Me Out And I Have No Where To Go ..

Hey hun, I know this can be a really scary time, but you need to find out for sure before you jump to any conclusions.

I don't mean to sound like a total b*tch but make sure when you make the decision to keep the baby or give it up for adoption you think of everything that you will go through and you will need. You will need money and a home (once you leave ur parents). You'll have to figure out how to go to school and college (if that's what you plan on doing). All that stuff.

Also, you do not want your mom to just "find out" on her own. Not only will she be upset that you're pregnant, but she will also be upset because you didn't trust her enough to tell her and you kept this HUGE secret from here. Plus, rumors spread fast. Even a good friend might slip up and say something. Plus you need to get prenatal care and it's going to have to go through you're parents' insurance, so they will find out that way. It's better to just tell them. It'll be hard, but you'll feel better. It does take time for parents to come around tho.

On a brighter note (and so you don't think badly of me) there are girls who have had children at 14 or so and did fine. Yes, it was harder for them but they still made it through. I got pregnant when I was 16 and I'm still doing fine. My little boy is 10 months old (almost) and me, him, and his daddy couldn't be happier. We're now pregnant with our second surprise and still working through it. I'm going to be graduating with my class this May when I'm still 17. So it's a doable, just a bit more challenging.

Good luck hun. If you ever want to talk to me, just send me a message.

 

[Beth_18]

id take a test hun and put your mind at ease then you can deside wat it is that you are going to do x x x

 

[nikky0907]

You need to take a test. Atleast a cheap one from a supermarket if nothing...
It's possible that your cycle still isn't sorted out seeing as you are so young.

And if you are pregnant, don't let your mom figure it out on her own. Tell her. Be 100% mature about this and face the music... I'm not gonna lie, she is going to be shocked. Very shocked and upset but in the end of the day she is your mother and will help you out in this time of need.

And as Bexy said, do not rely on your boyfriend that much. He may feels this way now but he probably doesn't take it seriously (the pregnancy scare) and be prepared to his reaction if you truly are expecting...

Good luck!

 

[xBlackBeautyx]

It absolutely breaks my heart to read this.. You're such a young bubba yourself. I'm 20 in 2months time but I'm married and obviously live with my husband, but I still felt I had to tell my mum even though I know its not what she wanted. But you're so young you really have to tell her asap. Yea she might scream and shout but you're her baby and I cant imagine what would go through her mind, but ultimately she will help you through this no matter what you decide to do. My godson's mom got pregnant at 14 aswell and he's absolutely fine! Whatever you decide to do, at such a young age you need your mumsie's support and more importantly her advice (when she's calmed down and thought about things properly) I've been pregnant before and had an abortion and when my mum found out years later, she was heartbroken that I felt I couldnt tell her what I was going through. Don't block her out of such an important time in your life. Your mum is the best support a girl could ever have. Good luck x

 

[PeanutButter]

i know alot of people are going to say take a test but due to my situations its going to be really hard for me to get one i would rather not explain everything as to why and i dont want to tell anyone or go to the doctors but can people like tell me things i should look out for that would help me know like different things other than the usual fatigue missed period ect ..

I'm sorry hun, but there's no special circumstance, or situation that will make it excusable for you not to take a test. There's no way around it, you absolutely have to take one. The sooner you find out you're pregnant, the quicker you can start making arrangements to get medical care for your pregnancy. You need to be an adult about this and start taking action.

If money is an issue, i know that England (or Canada, America etc where ever you're from) has facilities that give free pregnancy tests to teens, without a parents consent. I would go online and find one that is closest to you, and make arrangements to go see someone asap. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck.

 

[Incubator7309]

Take a test hun! It's the only way to know for sure.
I don't know where you are from but, here in the US there is a place called "planned parenthood" they will give you a test for free. I wish the best of luck to you. If it is a positive, tell your parents right away don't hide it. I hid it from my Mother, and she was more upset about me hiding it and missing precious prenatal care, than anything. Just be responsible and truthful. You can't do it on your own.

Take Care hun.

 

[BeccaBabesz1]

Aidensxmomma Thanks Your Advice Helps Alot
Although Even Though Im Only 14 I Have A Good Paying Job Because I Used To Be A Elite Gymnast I Qualify To Be A Coach And Due To My Circumstances ( Going To A Centre ) I Have A Weekend Job Too So Money Wouldnt Really Be A Issue Although I Realise It Would Be Very Difficult And I May Struggle A Bit If I Am Pregnant , And As For School I Suppose Im Lucky Because I Go To A Centre Joint To A College And Although The Centre Is For Other Things Its Mainly For Teenage Mums So ThereFore If I Am I Have All The Support From There And Won't Be Judged And I Will Get A Placment In The College And They Also Have A Nusery For The School And College Students Which Is Open Until 6Pm EveryNight So I Guess If I Am Pregnant I Wont Have It Too Bad Compared To Some ..

And To Everyone Else If My Period Doesnt Come In The Next Couple Of Days I Will Try My Hardest To Get A Test But Thankyou For All Of Your Comments

 

[aidensxmomma]

Thanks for not thinking I was a total b*tch. lol. It's good that you have all the helpful services and all that around you. That will be really helpful if you are pregnant. And like someone else said, if you live in the states, there are the planned parenthood places and some other places. All it takes is a quick internet search. Good luck with everything. Keep us updated, okay?

 

[belicious86]

I couldnt help but go through and read this entire thing. I also got pregnant when I was 14. I am now 22 and my son Thomas is 7 years old. I totally understand what you are going through. This is a super tough thing to do and especially being so young. I know telling my mom was the best decision I made through the whole thing. She freaked out for like a week but then after she got over it she was my best friend and helped me through everything. I am really not trying to be harsh but as far as the boyfriend goes I have learned now that i have 2 children and am a single mother STILL that when you get pregnant and you are not married it is best to just imagine yourself being a single parent. That way when the reality of everything does hit you it isnt so hard to adjust. But really think about the consequences of everything and what is best for you and your baby, and for babies daddy too. I didnt do that with my sons father, and I didnt really care too much about what he felt or thought we should do with our baby. I pretty much only thought about myself, and he ended up commiting suicide a month and a half after our son was born, because he couldnt handle the stress and financial burden and incredible responsibility of being a young parent. That is a very extreme case, but you never know what could happen I never thought that would happen to me either. And let me tell you being a mother and going to school and working and taking care of a home is the hardest thing you will ever probably do in your life, but so very rewarding!!! And I know for me it was SO hard to adjust to having this whining needy lil baby that I had to drag with me EVERYWHERE!!! Its rough but it does get better after you get used to it, but you are still forced to grow up WAY before your time. If you are not pregnant though get some birth control, and enjoy being young and care free, dont make yourself grow up too fast it really isnt that fun!!! So do what ya need to do hun! I hope everything turns out well for you!!! Good Luck!