what do i do now?

[princessellie]

me and leylas dad are breaking up, basically we had a big row in the middle of the night last night and he told me he was glad that my ex killed himself and that he probably did it to get away from me, and i told him that hed never ever compare and basically we both said things theres no going back from and now i just want out, he knows how much my ex dying has affected me, he said to me ''come on ellie, its been fucking NINE YEARS!!!!!'' proper smug like, yeh first of all, its been 7.....and so what, im entitled to grieve for as long as i need to!!!

im going to leave tomorrow but i dont know where to bloody go, my mam and dad live in turkey and i have no one round here to go to, i dont want to end up in a b&b but its looking likely

what do i do? what can i claim? usual questions

x

 

[Novbaby08]

Sorry to hear that. Not sure what your claims, etc are I live in the US.
Maybe you have some friends you and Leyla can stay with?
Not sure, but didn't want to just read and run

 

[Ash_P]

Sorry to hear ur going thru this. Can u not ask him to leave? U have a baby to think of and the comfort and stability is more important for ur LO. Even if its til u find somewhere else? Have u`s spoken this morning?
If its def what u want, u are entitled to help as a single mum, I moved out of our home when I was 12 weeks preg and got a private rented house, I get housing benefit to help me pay as theres no way I could afford to pay it on my own.
They pay half my rent at the minute, but as soon as baby is born I`m entitled to Full rent payment.
If u go to CAB they will give u all the info u need on the best way forward legally.
hope everything works out for u hun x

 

[purpledahlia]

sorry to hear that, he sounds very jelous of your ex, horrible to say what he said tho.

Do you have a friend you can go with? or any other family? I would go to CAB first thing tomorrow morning and also ring the jobcentre to put in claims for Income Support for single parent and the tax credits that go with, (im assuming your not working)Also get hold of some council housing forms for housing, that will take a bit of time tho, you could go to a bnb or ask him to leave? is it joint house?you could just have the locks changec but im not sure how that relates to your situ/if its his hosue etc... x

 

[lou_w34]

I agree with the others, if its possible, can you not ask him to leave??

If not go down to you local cab and they should help you out with regards to telling you what your entitled too, and what not.

Sorry i dont have much advice! But good luck, and i hope it works out!

 

[AnnaBanana9]

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through Ellie - but I would definitely agree with the others; CAB is a good place to start to find out what you're entitled to.

Here if you need anyone.
x

 

[xxxjacxxx]

awww ellie

you need the stability for Leyla, get him to go hun.. x

Thinking of you x

 

[pinkmummy]

So sorry to hear that Ellie hun Why don't you come up to your gran's for a few days and stay there for a few days and come to ours for a few days if you like xx