saharablue02
Husband and Dog-Dakota
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Hi everyone!
I am new here and this is the only site I've found that there are others who deal with the partner "not being ready" issue...I am completely open to any suggestions on dealing with my dilemma of sorts...
Super long story short-er:
My husband had a daughter from a HS relationship when he was 16...so he has a 10 year old and she doesn't live with us but comes to visit occasionally. Her mother is incarcerated for a few years (not going into details) and we went through a huge custody battle for her and ended up comprimising with the grandparents due to lack of finances and mainly due to them turning her against us. So I believe his daughter's birth was all negative memories. And that he thinks that it will be the same for us.
He alsways says he wants to be "ready." I keep telling him it's not going to be like a lightbulb switches on. Or is it??? How did your SO decide they were ready to try?
He now has a great job and we're finally able to start paying off some debt that we have. He wants to have this completely paid off (business line of credit), be "us" more, and have more "fun" before we try....
I am almost done with my masters in counseling (I am a high school teacher) and didn't want to try try until next year this time...but now he's saying he doesn't know if he will be ready that soon...
It's so frustrating though!!! He just doesn't feel the urge like I do. I don't want to be 30 and just getting pregnant with the first. And he told me when we first married (before all the baby mama drama lol) that he wanted to have them before he was 30-and I feel like he's changed all the sudden.
ANy thoughts??? Ideas/Advice???
I am new here and this is the only site I've found that there are others who deal with the partner "not being ready" issue...I am completely open to any suggestions on dealing with my dilemma of sorts...
Super long story short-er:
My husband had a daughter from a HS relationship when he was 16...so he has a 10 year old and she doesn't live with us but comes to visit occasionally. Her mother is incarcerated for a few years (not going into details) and we went through a huge custody battle for her and ended up comprimising with the grandparents due to lack of finances and mainly due to them turning her against us. So I believe his daughter's birth was all negative memories. And that he thinks that it will be the same for us.
He alsways says he wants to be "ready." I keep telling him it's not going to be like a lightbulb switches on. Or is it??? How did your SO decide they were ready to try?
He now has a great job and we're finally able to start paying off some debt that we have. He wants to have this completely paid off (business line of credit), be "us" more, and have more "fun" before we try....
I am almost done with my masters in counseling (I am a high school teacher) and didn't want to try try until next year this time...but now he's saying he doesn't know if he will be ready that soon...
It's so frustrating though!!! He just doesn't feel the urge like I do. I don't want to be 30 and just getting pregnant with the first. And he told me when we first married (before all the baby mama drama lol) that he wanted to have them before he was 30-and I feel like he's changed all the sudden.
ANy thoughts??? Ideas/Advice???