What do i do?

[tone]

Hi girls, im new to babyandbump. I'm 17 and just recently found out im pregnant.
I knew there was no way i could tell my mum and straight away booked an abortion. But on saturday i really felt it was right to tell her and i did, she was angry as hell at first and then cried and said she'd support me whatever i decide to do.
And now i'm so confused on what to do!! There is part of me that really wants it, i could live next to my mum (we own a farmhouse with lets) and i could have the end let which is lovely and big. My boyfriends still with me and not going anywhere soon, he wanted it at first and now is really confused too.
Is there anyone else who is or was 17 and pregnant?! If you decided to keep the baby, why was that? and if u decided for an abortion, why was that?
Im just woried i wont be able to live my life and enjoy being young, thats all thats stopping me. I have till friday till my consultation so i really have to decide soon. I think im about 3 months gone already. Please help i really dont know what to do!!

 

[Vickie]

This really is something that will have to be decided for yourself. It's a hard choice

 

[alice&bump]

All I can say whatever you decide, dont do anything unless you're completely sure. I cant imagine what its like to be in your shoes, I knew straight away that I wanted my baby, a friend of mine however found out on the same day as me and she decided the best option for her was to have an abortion. Talk to your mum, talk to your boyfriend and they'll help you decide whats best. but remember, only you can make the decision at the end of the day.

Feel free to private message me if needs be. Good Luck *hugs* xx

 

[nikky0907]

Well,I'm 18 and pregnant.

I was always for abortion,but then when I got pregnant,it just didn't felt right.

I just couldn't.I decided to have it,honestly,I know it sounds vague but I just felt it and wanted it.
Now,my situation is very good even though I'm not with the baby's dad.

To tell the truth,I never wanted kids at all but now I'm happy that she'll be in my life in a few months...I just feel good about it,I can't explain.

 

[mBLACK]

Listen to your heart.
I'm 15 and pregnant with my first baby, my son, and trust me I was in your state of mind not too long ago. You might feel like you will have to stop your life where you are if you decide to keep him/her, but in reality it's not that you can't follow your dreams, they just get put on hold for a couple of years. The truth about this situation, though, is yes; you do have to grow up. Once you have a child your life is about that child and s/he is top priority, above ANYTHING else in the world. You need to decide if growing up now is the right thing for you to do.. Deciding to keep this child was the best decision I've ever made, I know I never could have lived with myself if I got an abortion or gave my son up for adoption, everybody's different. Either way, you can't go back on your decision. Make sure you are 300% sure with what you decide; the only thing worse than making the wrong decision is regretting it.
to you, and good luck!

 

[ella170]

hey x im 17 and pregnant too and 3 months gone. i still havent told my mum or dad- im absolutly shittin it!! i couldn't have an abortion, just because its not something i believe in and i knew that if i did it i would feel guilty after. we're all different though and its ur decision to make. u can still have fun! people go on like once you've had a baby, ur life is over. well u can still go out to clubs if u have someone to look after ur lil one and still do normal things. its really up to u though- good luck with ur decision x

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Hi girls, im new to babyandbump. I'm 17 and just recently found out im pregnant.
I knew there was no way i could tell my mum and straight away booked an abortion. But on saturday i really felt it was right to tell her and i did, she was angry as hell at first and then cried and said she'd support me whatever i decide to do.
And now i'm so confused on what to do!! There is part of me that really wants it, i could live next to my mum (we own a farmhouse with lets) and i could have the end let which is lovely and big. My boyfriends still with me and not going anywhere soon, he wanted it at first and now is really confused too.
Is there anyone else who is or was 17 and pregnant?! If you decided to keep the baby, why was that? and if u decided for an abortion, why was that?
Im just woried i wont be able to live my life and enjoy being young, thats all thats stopping me. I have till friday till my consultation so i really have to decide soon. I think im about 3 months gone already. Please help i really dont know what to do!!

Heya, I'm Rachel an i'm 16 an 30 weeks + 5 days pregnant. i decided to keep my baby after a long two weeks of changing my mind an thinkin of all the possibilities. My first reaction of course was abortion, an i even booked an appointment an sittin in that waitin room for them to shout my name while other girls (young an old) walked out holdin there stomachs cryin lookin so lost, thats what it took me to change my mind. Yeh i had some major growin up to do, i had to think everythink through so carefully.

You say your about 3 months gone yeh?
Well do you think you will be strong enough to have to give birth to that baby/get it sucked out of you, now it is a boy or a girl.

Dont rush this decision as it will be the biggest one of your entire life! i honestly know how you feel but i think you + your partner should sit down an talk EVERYTHING through an work out together what is right for you two (especially you!)

were all here for you if you need to talk an never forgetthat what ever decision you make xx

 

[xarlenex]

Its a decision you do have to make for yourself. I was 17 when I feel pregnant, im now 18 with a beautiful boy. But you have to do whats right for yourself. Weigh it all up...are you able to bring up this child financially comfortable..things like that. Its not really something you can decide on overnight. Good luck in whatever you decide xx

 

[leeanne]

I believe all the wonderful ladies have posted my thoughts.

I do hope that whatever you decide will make you happy in the long run. I can't imagine what it would have been like to be pregnant at an earlier age and I am not even sure what I would have done back then.

Best wishes to you!

 

[aSh_x0x]

i wish you the best in what ever you decide to do. Its really completely up to you, talk to your family and your boyfriend and make sure you have their support, without it, it will be hard to bring a baby into the world without any support. Most of the women in here all decide to keep there babies..hence the reason they joined this forum, but there is just as many women out there who choice to abort...so dont feel bad if you choose that option. My friend whose 18 just had an abortion at 11 weeks...this was the best option for her and shes happy about her decision. Make sure you make a decision soon though, im not sure where you live..but in Australia, or at least in Victoria prior to 12 weeks you can have the normal abortion procedure, but once you pass 12 weeks to abort the baby you supposedly have to actually give birth to it like you would at 40 weeks...its a harder process, so id suggest you make your mind up soon. If you choose to keep the baby remember its a lifetime commitment, you cant just pick up and leave when things get tough, are you mature enough? responsible enough for yourself and for someone else? are you financially stable? consider all these options. but whatever you decide to do, best wishes, hope you make the right decsion, bringing a baby in the world i think is the most rewarding thing, but also can be the hardest thing. So think hard
best of luck
xxx

 

[nikky0907]

The thing is,quite interesting that I was talking via MSN with a girl I met on this forum.We found out we are both pregnant at the same time.She is 19,I'm 18.
And she had all these complications with it.She thought she miscarried but it turned out she didn't and she's be around 15 weeks now actually...But it could be a new pregnancy so she isn't sure and has to have a dating scan...

And last night she told me that she's gonna get an abortion probably.Circumstanes,she feels it's for the best...So thats her decision,I guess everyone has their own pros and cons and you just have to know and feel your decision...

 

[polo_princess]

All i can do is stress the other things the girls have already said.

But its a decision you alone must make sweetie

 

[Jodie__x]

Hi girls, im new to babyandbump. I'm 17 and just recently found out im pregnant.
I knew there was no way i could tell my mum and straight away booked an abortion. But on saturday i really felt it was right to tell her and i did, she was angry as hell at first and then cried and said she'd support me whatever i decide to do.
And now i'm so confused on what to do!! There is part of me that really wants it, i could live next to my mum (we own a farmhouse with lets) and i could have the end let which is lovely and big. My boyfriends still with me and not going anywhere soon, he wanted it at first and now is really confused too.
Is there anyone else who is or was 17 and pregnant?! If you decided to keep the baby, why was that? and if u decided for an abortion, why was that?
Im just woried i wont be able to live my life and enjoy being young, thats all thats stopping me. I have till friday till my consultation so i really have to decide soon. I think im about 3 months gone already. Please help i really dont know what to do!!

Hiya Flower . im 17 and 12 weeks pregnant . i did exactly the same as you when i found out . but after my first appointment to arrange the abortion i changed my mind for deffo !
i know its going to be hard and my life will have to go on hold for a long time but i cant wait till ive had the baby and i know it will all be worth it ! im still with my boyfriend and i know even if things didnt work out with us he will always be there for his child . but at the end of the day its your decisition. and it will be the hardest of your life . do what you feel is the best option for you . but your going to have to think it through long and hard


good luck sweet xxxxxxx
PM me whenever u like if u wnna talk x

 

[tone]

Hi girls,
Thank you all SO much for your lovely comments. I really dont know what i would have done without all the advice you've given me. Just seeing how so many of you were in my position at one point and decided on keeping the little one has shown me that i too can do it. I know now, after reading so many things on this forum and researching on the internet that i couldnt go through with an abortion. I know if i did i'd regret it for the rest of my life, but you can never regret bringing a child into the world.
I told my mum about my decison, and she said she will support me but she really isnt happy. She keeps telling me i'm too young and ruining my life. I just wish she was as happy as i was. My OH is telling his parents today and i'm terrified!! I think i must have spoken to his dad once, and his mum..never! They have never wanted (or tried) to get to know me and hes always here at my house, so im so worried about what they will say. It would be amazing if they were ok with it, because his family are quite (ahem) rich and would help so much finacially with the baby. I just hope everybody comes round to the idea and is eventually happy for me!! Im so excited!! Im going to be a mummy!!

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

CONGRATULATIONS

Don't worry your family + his will come round to the idea in the end, they haven't got a choice because this isnt goin away. Ul make a great mummy xx

 

[Faerie]

Congratulations on your pregnancy and good luck!! Both sets of parents will come round and be just as happy and excited as you will be. I've not been in your situation but have a couple of friends who fell pregnant at 18 and yes, their lives did change dramatically, but it didn't mean they've given up on their dreams.

 

[alice&bump]

Aaw congrats hun!! im sure when you hold that little bundle in your arms all the doubts you ever had will just fizzle away into the background!! good luck xxx

 

[kookie]

good on you for keeping bubs good luck xx

 

[aSh_x0x]

congradulations!
im happy that you feel content with your decision. i hope your pregnancy goes wonderful! best wishes.
xxx

 

[Blob]

Good Luck, is so exiting. I had doubts to begin with, i still worry about it all sometimes but i really cant wait!! Both sets of parents will come around.