What do you find hard about being a single parent?

[Mummy2aStar]

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[Jade--x]

I agree with all the small things. Like the small things to other people are a huge task for us. I also find the lack of sleep hard - I'm getting up all night and then up for the day at 4am this morning with them - I've had an hours sleep - and now I'm up cleaning (well I'm taking a break after going dizzy) and looking after the boys - I don't have anyone to have them for me to catch up on sleep so that to me is probably the hardest. But if I did have someone here I'd probably moan about how they make me have to do twice the work because they do everything wrong so I think I prefer single parenting and I'd take exhaustion over frustration anyday x

 

[Mummy2aStar]

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[MumToBe2012]

Not being able to experience raising her with someone else x

 

[Kate&Lucas]

Being ill. Last time I was ill Lucas had diarrhea at the same time, it was hellish.
Socialising. Just little things, like everyone is going the pictures this weekend and I automatically said I'd come too before my sister pointed out that I can't because Lucas can't come.
Dating. I hate it in general but as a parent it's so much worse. Coupled with the fact that I don't want Lucas to have to live with a man who isn't his Dad, I rarely bother.
It sticks in my throat that FOB doesn't have either of these issues. If he's ill, he doesn't pick Lucas up, he moved on to someone else before I even left, and he schedules visits around his plans so he gets the best of both worlds.
I love being a single parent, I do, but I feckin hate it too

EDIT: I forgot to add! Being judged on my parenting abilities by people who have NO idea what it's like to be a single parent, and are too damn arrogant to consider it is actually a lot harder than parenting as a couple. It's made especially hard by the fact that I have no-one to back me up

 

[Nic1107]

Always having to ask someone for help if I need it (like needing a baby-sitter, or someone to entertain C if I have something important to do, etc.) and knowing there's is possibly that no one might say yes and I'll have to skip a night out or whatever. Having a partner around was great in that there was someone else to rock C to sleep or watch her while I was at work. Financially it's also incredibly hard, and finding a job is a nightmare since I need to work out childcare and can only work day times now.

 

[teal]

For me I think the hardest thing is knowing that one day my son will know that his father didn't want him.

 

[jaytee146]

I think I wavier between seeing a real "parenting team" and I wish my lo had that, I also wavier between the smallest task like fixing myself a sandwhich and trying to eat alone without getting messy.

 

[KayBea]

for me at the moment its financially...

while ex OH is on the tenancy i cant claim anything & hes claiming everything he can & not paying a single penny!!!

 

[mememe84]

The thing I find the hardest are the lonely nights when she's in bed that's when it really gets me down x

 

[Mummy2aStar]

For me I think the hardest thing is knowing that one day my son will know that his father didn't want him.

Hugs hun thats hard, for both of you x

 

[linley]

Finding time to myself. My ex takes LO away 2 days a week but I use that time to catch up on washing/cleaning/dog walking and I very rarely have time to just sit and read my book or listen to music and just chill out.
Another thing, asking for help. I'm too independant and stubborn for my own good, I'll struggle ahead on my own rather than ask his dad or my family for help, be it financial or just someone to hold LO while I run his bath.
It hurts me that LO won't have his "proper" family. When we broke up, we agreed that nothing would change in the way we raised him, we would both be present near-enough everyday and we'd do things as a family, but we've just distanced ourselves to the point where we can't go back and he only sees his dad 2 days a week.

 

[miasmum2012]

Me and FOB had a very bad split so its the constant fear that he will go to a solicitor and get access (i don't want him to because he is a very bad role model with a criminal record and hes very rough with her too) I'm just waiting for the day I get a solicitors letter through the post because I know its gonna end up going to court

Also the never having time for myself, my daughter is getting really clingy to me now as FOB was here for the first four months of her life and now he has just vanished :/

The nights are lonely too

 

[Mummy2aStar]

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[Mummy2aStar]

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[KayBea]

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[KayBea]

for me at the moment its financially...

while ex OH is on the tenancy i cant claim anything & hes claiming everything he can & not paying a single penny!!!

Im feeling this... doing this with out any financial help! X

im struggling badly
my poor parents must have lent me almost £1000!! theres no way i can pay them back in the circumstances im in, i feel
so guilty & awful about borrowing money too :,( xx

 

[Natsku]

For me its cooperating with FOB over custody arrangements. He's really bad at sticking to agreements and pretty much every week we argue over it. And the fact that I keep missing things that she does when she's at her dad's, like weeing in the potty for the time time, and saying new words.

 

[Laura2919]

Trying to sort my personal life around my girls.. It is so hard so he comes round once my girls are in bed and asleep and then my mum will have them overnight if he stays.

 

[jenfirstbaby]

I've only recently split with oh (like days ago!) so far im fine but reading these comments has worried me a little

It was me who left the relationship, and he says he wants to see LO as often as possible.... But I wonder how long that will last.

Also im starting to worry how il feel when he starts a new relationship I know I shouldn't coz I ended it, but im scared il regret it once he meets someone x