What if he finds someone prettier?

[JHsmom]

I know it might sound silly but I'd be really sad if my FOB were to date a girl prettier than myself. I think it's because that would make me feel inadequate. I used to be fairly confident about my looks but after gaining so much weight with my pregnancy and never having time or money to put toward myself since my guy has been born I have developed a serious self esteem issue. Shouldn't I want him to be happy? Am I being ridiculous?

 

[Jade--x]

I don't think you're being ridiculous at all. Its so normal after having a LO to not be happy with your body and it to cause low self esteem and body issues. I have them really bad but where my exs were concerned I was never too bothered about who they got with afterwards because what happened after us was none of his business nor mine in his. I've stayed friends with my ex and I was unbelievably in love with him and he cheated with his ex..He's started seeing some new girl and I honestly thought it would bother me but..I wished him all the happiness in the world and felt sorry for the girl x

 

[Dezireey]

It only concerns you because you feel a bit low, not because there is any truth in it or value to it. If a man wishes to find someone prettier, taller, younger etc then good for them if they look like Brad Pitt and have pots of cash and a flash car etc. My FOB has a real thing for younger women ( I know this from before I met him and some posts and women he has friended on facebook) but he's 38, no money, has no clue how to take a woman out and romance her, doesn't look like Brad Pitt either sooo good luck to him finding someone prettier, slimmer and younger ( giggle!)

Just work on making yourself feel better and never, ever worry about what a man who's left you is up to, you have better things to do with your precious time hugs xx

 

[teal]

You're not being ridiculous if it's something that bothers you I hope you feel better.

I don't wish any happiness on my ex!! xx

 

[Ceejay123]

Sooner or later you'll realise he's missing out by leaving you and your LO. You'll pity him rather than resent him. You have the only person that counts - No matter who he moves on to. One day you'll move on - And I'm sure he'll feel like a jackass. x

 

[Shezza84uk]

Sooner or later you'll realise he's missing out by leaving you and your LO. You'll pity him rather than resent him. You have the only person that counts - No matter who he moves on to. One day you'll move on - And I'm sure he'll feel like a jackass. x

Agree with this, they always think the grass is greener if they were rich the new GF will take them for all their worth. If they had no money the new GF will probably leave them like sitting ducks and upgrade to someone with more money lol

Prettier isn't better they are just blinded by the exterior and kicks themselves when they find out the hard way!

 

[JHsmom]

I don't think you're being ridiculous at all. Its so normal after having a LO to not be happy with your body and it to cause low self esteem and body issues. I have them really bad but where my exs were concerned I was never too bothered about who they got with afterwards because what happened after us was none of his business nor mine in his. I've stayed friends with my ex and I was unbelievably in love with him and he cheated with his ex..He's started seeing some new girl and I honestly thought it would bother me but..I wished him all the happiness in the world and felt sorry for the girl x

thanks. I hope I can be friends with him, be happy for him, and support what he wants one day the way you seem to be with your ex. I can't help but think that when I finally find a new guy I will feel better about the situation, pretty hypocritical really

I really wanted to have the nuclear family...

 

[JHsmom]

thank you all so much! I feel empowered now.
I know that things will work themselves out in the end but I'm not looking forward to missing him. I just want to skip the pain and get straight to the friendship and acceptance! Any tips?

 

[Ceejay123]

Hope it works out for you honey! It might be difficult, but hang in there. Friendship is the way to go, it'll be best for your LO. Hope things work out for you x

 

[Jade--x]

I don't think you're being ridiculous at all. Its so normal after having a LO to not be happy with your body and it to cause low self esteem and body issues. I have them really bad but where my exs were concerned I was never too bothered about who they got with afterwards because what happened after us was none of his business nor mine in his. I've stayed friends with my ex and I was unbelievably in love with him and he cheated with his ex..He's started seeing some new girl and I honestly thought it would bother me but..I wished him all the happiness in the world and felt sorry for the girl x

thanks. I hope I can be friends with him, be happy for him, and support what he wants one day the way you seem to be with your ex. I can't help but think that when I finally find a new guy I will feel better about the situation, pretty hypocritical really

I really wanted to have the nuclear family...

I'm sure you will it just takes some time to hate them for a bit first but once I got over my feelings of hatred (which weirdly was only a few weeks I can't hold onto bad feelings unless they're there for a really bad reason) being friends just seemed to happen naturally because we were literally best friends before everything happened. And you will feel so much better about it its not hypocritical at all lol and you'll be the one finding someone more attractive than him x

 

[jaytee146]

You're not by yourself

 

[ZombieQueen]

I feel the same way.. but I'm using it as motivation to get myself into shape and feel good about myself again.