What if I missed my chance?

[MightyMom]

Hello.

Not sure where the hell to post this.

I have had three consecutive m/cs. My doctor could give two craps. I am the one researching all the possible reasons for my sudden infertility. And I think I have landed on PCOS. All the symptoms fit. Just need hormone tests to confirm.

Anyway, I am feeling immensely sad today. What if I missed my chance? What if I am now too old to conceive or PCOS has damaged my ovaries and they don't work anymore? I was on BC for years to regulate my cycles. Got off it, found DH, got married, had a baby. It was simple. I was oblivious. Then we TTC straight away, and it took 14 months just to get pregnant again. And then m/c after m/c. What if this is it?

What would you do if you found out that you just weren't ever going to have a baby?? What am I supposed to do?

 

[hopingforit]

How old are you? Even 50+ year olds can have babies thanks to modern medicine. Can you find a new doctor? If you are in the UK, I'm pretty sure they have to help you after 3 miscarriages. In the US, they should help after 2 or after 1 year TTC. So, I don't see why your Dr isn't worried. Have you had any bloodwork done to find out what is going on? What you have is secondary infertility. There is a board on here for this. But even with problems from PCOS or ovulation, there are so many things they can do like giving Clomid, injectables, IUI, IVF. Don't give up hope yet. If you can, find a new Dr who will take you seriously. One who isn't concerned after 3 miscarriages shouldn't be taken seriously.

Hopefully you can figure out what is going on. I'm so sorry for your losses.

 

[No Doubt]

What are your symptoms for you to feel like you have pcos? Also has your doctor bothered to have any tests done...whether you requested them or they thought of them? If they don't take you seriously, and I think hoping is right...they should help after three...I would definately find another doctor. I don't think you need help Oing or anything like that because you've fallen pregnant 3 times in the past six months, but it could be something after you've fallen pregnant, like your lining not being think enough, or low progesterone, maybe you need more folic acid. Sometimes people develope an illness that will interfere will conception and maintaing a pregnancy. One women on here a while back had recurrent miscarriages...I mean in the double digits and she found out she had graves disease. Once she found that out and what she had to do to maintain a pregnancy, she was able to carry to term.

I don't think it's too late for you. I say demand you doctor run some tests and if not find one that will and move on from there.

 

[MightyMom]

I am only 30 but I am paranoid that my eggs are all nuked or something. I have no problem getting pregnant, it is staying pregnant past 8 weeks. So clomid, IUI, and IVF can't really help. I asked my doctor for a referral to a FS since he just keeps chalking it up to "bad luck" and I don't trust his judgement. I had a D&C two weeks ago and I had hoped to get results by now. I think he forgot about me. Not that it matters, I won't be TTC for a long time now. But I do want to see a FS so at least I can know *why* I have been m/cing. To at least know "Hey, sorry, don't bother trying again" or "Yeah, it isn't too bad." Not knowing is killing me. And I feel simply awful in the meantime!

 

[hopingforit]

I am only 30 but I am paranoid that my eggs are all nuked or something. I have no problem getting pregnant, it is staying pregnant past 8 weeks. So clomid, IUI, and IVF can't really help. I asked my doctor for a referral to a FS since he just keeps chalking it up to "bad luck" and I don't trust his judgement. I had a D&C two weeks ago and I had hoped to get results by now. I think he forgot about me. Not that it matters, I won't be TTC for a long time now. But I do want to see a FS so at least I can know *why* I have been m/cing. To at least know "Hey, sorry, don't bother trying again" or "Yeah, it isn't too bad." Not knowing is killing me. And I feel simply awful in the meantime!

30 really isn't too old. If you haven't, you need to have an FSH test done. That will tell you if your ovarian reserve is low. Still, even if it is low, that has nothing to do with the quality of your eggs. My Dr explained it to me this way - I'm 20. My FSH is borderline high at 10.2. For a 35-40 year old, this would be worrisome as the quality of the eggs that are left are probably not the greatest. The younger you are, the better chance of having a good egg come even with a diminished ovarian reserve. Also, there are tests that they can do to check why you are having recurrent miscarriages. Low progesterone can do this but there are also some other things that they can test for. I know my brother's ex fiance kept having miscarriages. She ended up getting remarried and did some testing where she found out a problem (I'm not sure what it was) which she was prescribed medicine for. She now has 2 healthy boys. Don't think that you can't get pregnant. There are so many treatable things that can cause problems in getting/staying pregnant. Regular Gyns don't know much about fertility. Going to a FS is a great idea. My RE (although I haven't always agreed with what he did - like not putting me on Clomid right away) has been very helpful. I was able to find out exactly what is going on to cause us trouble. Hopefully you can get into a FS who can help.

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[Emmyjean]

MightyMom, I would be frustrated too - I just got diagnosed with a blighted ovum and am waiting for my body to figure it out and get the job done. That's only ONE and I'm frustrated, so I can't imagine how fed up you must be!

I would definitely seek out a new doctor. 30 is YOUNG...I'm 31 and my doctor has no concern whatsoever about my age. Your doctor should be more proactive on trying to find the problem - if you were 45 that would be one thing, but at 30?? There's got to be some explanation.