What is going on with him? :(

[Babydustx3]

My husband and I took a 2 month break after my last blood results because my thyroid levels were still pretty high and we had friends staying with us from out of town for 2 weeks so we just tried to enjoy ourselves.
Well, I reenrolled in school and will be starting in August and it's a 9 month program so we are holding off, yet again, until August or later that way a pregnancy wouldn't interfere with school.

But, here's the problem... we have been ttc for over 1.5 years and we're finally getting close and my husband is now bringing up all of these things like they're a burden... for example, he wants to switch insurance all of a sudden out of nowhere, he doesn't wanna try until August because of my school and suddenly wants to use condoms (we never even used them when we were teenagers!!! we've been together since we were 15), he's just being very distant and different and I have asked him about it but he just says he's fine. I don't buy it for a second.


I honestly have no idea what's going on but I'm so hurt because I feel like maybe he's having doubts...




What do you think is going on? Maybe I'm just really stressed out so everything is just getting to me...

 

[No Doubt]

Honestly hun it could be a little a everything. You may be really stressed and everything is getting to you and he could be having doubts and feel for the most part ok. If he's trying to wait till August by using condoms, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. You guys did agree to wait. Maybe he thinks you guys are getting really close to and just doesn't want to chance it before then. He could be a little scared about getting back in the swing of things, or he could just really be enjoying the break and reduced stress that comes along with actively ttc...I can say that one first hand. I was supposed to only take 2 months off and I've decided to take an extra three from the meds and docs. I think as long as he's back into it full swing in August like you guys agreed then there really isn't a problem and you two can move forward as planned. But him saying he's fine, that's just hiw men are. He really could be fine.

 

[CanadianMaple]

Do you think you could see an infertility counselor? They may be able to help you sort it all out. I, personally, would want to get to the bottom of it. There is a lot of emotion involved, and I really worry about how there is a sudden change.

 

[tamithomas]

It could be as simple as since you wanna go back to school he doesn't wanna put your education is jeopardy until you're done your schooling hense the sudden feel for condoms. Personally that's the reason I dumped my ex was because he had the nerve to tell me when I would be ready to conceive, that smelled too strong of a smell of a future controller so I broke it off but that's a whole other story. It could be many factors, the only way to find out is try and get him to open up because no matter what we say, we don't know what's going through his mind. As suggested above, maybe some sort of counselling could help? Keeping my fingers FX for you, GL

 

[Babydustx3]

Hey ladies, thank you all for lending an ear (or eyes lol).

I laid silent in bed last night for a while, while he watched tv next to me and I finally felt the urge to confront him so I rolled over onto my side facing him, and pretty much said: "Hey babe, I don't know if you've noticed any of this but with all the talk about condoms and insurance, I feel like maybe you're having doubts about all of this."

And without hesitation he was like: "Baby no I didn't mean to make all of this sound like that at all. The only reason I brought up condoms was because I found one in my drawer and I wanted to see what it was like (lol) and all the insurance talk was because my mom brought it up the other day." (he works for his dad and they were discussing different health plans)


Right after all of that he held me in his arms and one thing led to another and we lol. Sorry if that's TMI, but he knows I'm fertile right now and didn't care so it was me just taking things personally I feel.


love him.

 

[No Doubt]

See...nothing to worry about. Glad it all worked out! And maybe that spontaneous bd did the trick! I think you can handle a couple of months as a student and a mommy...lol.

 

[Babydustx3]

Omg I hope you're right! I hopped onto FF about 2 hours ago and I haven't gotten off. I hope that did the trick. My mom said to me the other day that she thinks I'll be pregnant in a few months (and she doesn't even know we're trying! lol) I told DH that I'm going to buy him and our son (if we have a boy) matching outfits and he got excited. Lol I'm on because yesterday I was so upset but last night definitely reassured me

 

[No Doubt]

I know...men can be hard to figure out. I can't tell you how many times I've assumed this way or that about my hubbs and I finally learned to just leave him alone sometimes. The more I did that the more he opened up to me, and the more I realized that he really was just "fine" most of the time like he said. But we're emotional and get caught up. Everything means something...lol.

I hope your mom is right, talk about a prediction! I wish I could get my hubbs to do matching outfits. I've just tried matching our colors when are going somewhere and he thinks it's so stupid. So I just wait for him to get dressed and them put on the same colors as him...lol! Yes, I'm a dork. But watch my hubbs will probably come home with matching outfits all excited showing me what he bought like a little kid that got a smiley face sticker at school...lol. We want a boy too. Hubbs used to want a girl...until he worked with some tween girls, not anymore. Girls and their hormones...lol. But fingers crossed in a couple of weeks you'll be reporting on your bump to be!

 

[Babydustx3]

That's too funny! DH and I somehow always manage to match and it's really weird because most of his clothes are blue/teal and black and mine are pink/yellow/black... I don't know how we do it, but we do lol!

And yep I want a little boy first because boys are just so much fun! Girls are too but I want to post-pone dealing with hormones as long as possible. (obviously we'll love and welcome a baby girl just as much but us ladies are trying for so long so we think all these things through)


I'm not sure when I ovulate because my chart is confusing me at the moment, but if it's correct we may have missed it this month, but that just means we're closer to trying next month!