what is your view??

[janinio87uk]

Im curious to see what your view is regarding giving an 8 week oldf baby lactulose without Drs knowledge/input???

All opinions welcome ladies as Im not sure I agree with it but my mother seems to think its ok to give my son it without my knowledge or consent.
She works in a pharmacy and says its ok to give from 2months.

She told me today that she had given him some Yesterday! She seemed to think he was in pain when passing a stool when she was looking after him overnight Sat night/Sun morning. Although I wasnt there my LO does tend to grunt when having a bowel movement but is not in pain as he has had it when I first changed his milks and did cry in pain at that point but has not had any problems since and water helps him alot so I didnt see any reason for her to give him lactulose.

Im really quite pissed off to be honest.

 

[sjminimac]

i'd be fuming x

 

[bathbabe]

personally i wouldnt without a dr/hv input. And as for giving it without your permission id be pissed too x

 

[bump_wanted]

i had it when i was pregnant and it does say babys can have it but i probably wouldnt have given ollie it without speaking to the doctor and id be angry with anyone who gave my child any medicine without my knowledge your mum should've made contact with you first xx

 

[fluffpuffin]

babies can even have it from birth according to the Children's BNF. I gave my LO a dose when she was very badly constipated from infant gaviscon, but I first checked the dose was appropriate for her age. I didn't consult a doc forst as my hubby is a pharmacist and knows more about drugs than gp's would anyway

 

[janinio87uk]

yea I thought others would think the same.

stupid thing is literally saturday evening before I left him with her I told her about one of the ladies on here mothers or MIL cutting her LO's hair without her permission...
and as my mother is enclined to do something like that I made her aware that this would be unacceptable, she told me word for word ' I would not do anything to Kai or give him anything with your knowing so, except feed him and change his nappy'.
And then this!

 

[shamrockerjo]

I'm pissed off for you! I don't know anything about lactulose but certainly wouldn't give any kind of medicine to a baby without consulting a GP first. You're the mum, she should have asked you first and it's totally out of order that she gave it to your son behind your back. Plus if your son actually is constipated the first thing to do would be to give a little bit of cooled boiled water, not some specific medicine as it's rarely necessary. But just grunting doesn't mean they are constipated, Maya allllways grunts when she's pooing.

 

[fluffpuffin]

Edit: Even though I think you can give your own baby medication if you know the dose and when it is appropriate without advice of a doctor, I don't think it's right for anyone except the parent to do so, especially without consent of the parents

 

[janinio87uk]

babies can even have it from birth according to the Children's BNF. I gave my LO a dose when she was very badly constipated from infant gaviscon, but I first checked the dose was appropriate for her age. I didn't consult a doc forst as my hubby is a pharmacist and knows more about drugs than gp's would anyway

Thanks for ur input hun.
However my mum is not a pharmacist she is one of the tech's, so I kno she has some knowledge of medication too.
Thing is I do not believe my LO had constipation, his stools are quite 'formed' and have been for a while but they are not firm or contain any blood.

Ive just txt her tellin her Im not happy about it due to her not consulting me and she sent me a message saying 'im sorry i forget you're all grown up now and dont need my help.' Not sure whether thats ment to be sarcastic or not.

 

[fluffpuffin]

babies can even have it from birth according to the Children's BNF. I gave my LO a dose when she was very badly constipated from infant gaviscon, but I first checked the dose was appropriate for her age. I didn't consult a doc forst as my hubby is a pharmacist and knows more about drugs than gp's would anyway

Thanks for ur input hun.
However my mum is not a pharmacist she is one of the tech's, so I kno she has some knowledge of medication too.
Thing is I do not believe my LO had constipation, his stools are quite 'formed' and have been for a while but they are not firm or contain any blood.

Ive just txt her tellin her Im not happy about it due to her not consulting me and she sent me a message saying 'im sorry i forget you're all grown up now and dont need my help.' Not sure whether thats ment to be sarcastic or not.

that's so uncalled for by her. unbelievable. It's one thing helping and giving advice when asked, but another just acting without consulting the parent

 

[aliss]

I don't know what that is but it is never okay to give a baby anything without mom's permission, let alone an 8 week old.

 

[Foogirl]

Lactulose is so safe and so unlikely to cause any problems I'd certainly use it without input from a health professional.

However, if someone else - ANYONE else made that decision they would get a slap. Totally not on.

 

[curlykate]

I would be absolutely livid if someone gave my LO medication without consulting me first.
MIL is a nurse and knows all about meds, but I would hope she wouldn't give LO anything.
If she really felt your LO needed it that badly, she should have given you a call first. You could have informed her that grunting is normal for your LO.

 

[08marchbean]

i would be foaming if anyone gave my LO any type of medication without my knowledge/consent. and the txt she sent back to u is totally uncalled for, help would be offing advice not just doing it without telling you!! your baby your entitled to be unhappy about anything to do with his care!

to your original question i have given lactulose without GP's say so but i did go to the pharmacy and they recommened it. she had been constipated for a week, and we have ongoing bowl issues anyway but by the sounds of it your LO didnt really need it.

 

[Emzywemzy]

I would be furious!!!! Holly had lactulose once and now I'd give it to her without consulting a doc, but that's not the point! If my mum gave her something (especially something she hadn't had before) without me knowing I'd be absolutely furious! It's not for her to decide, you are the mum so you decide! Gosh what are mums like lol x

 

[xemmax]

i'd be livid, even if it was done with the right intentions. i don't think it's anything to fall out about if it's only happened the one time and she apologises and understands that she should have consulted you, but i can understand how angry it would make you!

 

[janinio87uk]

Thanks for all ur input girls,
I am aware lactulose is nothing to worry about but at the end of the day she should have consulted me first regardless.
She knows that he grunts when he passes a stool so Im not sure why she seems to think it means he's uncomfortable.

I think my main worry is if I dont say something about it what is she going to be like in the future??
What if, for example, he has a fever and I give him calpol and I need her to babysit for some reason and she decides its time to give him calpol as well and he gets overdosed? I kno this is unlikely but she never seems to believe me when I tell her he's been fed and she takes it upon herself to feed him every time he makes the slightest noise or whinge regardless of what I have said, so whats going to stop her feedin him meds??

Also another thing that frightens me is if for some reason he becomes unwell after she's looked after him and we rush him to hospital and docs ask if he's had any meds i.e. calpol and I say no because my mum would have told me wudnt she???? and then they give him paracetomal ontop thus causing overdose???

Really makes me feel like she thinks I'm not lookin after him properly when I kno I am!
She frustrates me so much Im sick of her! Its really gonna cause a rift if she doesnt stop taking over. Sorry for such a rant.

 

[Mrs A]

I dont think she meant to take over, she was probs just trying to help, although i would be FUMING to say the least and i would feel exactly the same, never mind trhat it was only lactulose, but the fact that you hadnt been consulted on care for your own child, you maybe need to sit down with her and explain that you are his mother and under no circumstances must she not consult you, with anything regards his care, and that if it happens again then maybe youll need to rethink the babysitting.
Jaiden has never been looked after by anyone but me or his father simply because i dont trust anyone else to care for him in the same way, you dont wanna end up feeling like that, and explain this to her.
Hope you get it sorted Janine, good luck.
Love Clare
xxxxx

 

[maisiemoo]

I too would be really cross. In this situation I would have a quiet word - it sounds like your mum was being a little defensive and I wouldnt read into the text any further. I think it takes time for parents to learn the boundaries and recognise their offspring as parents themselves, which is why I thinks it important your mum understands why you're upset x

 

[aob1013]

Firstly, how dare she.

Secondly, yes seek some medical advice.