What kind of Parent WOULD you have been...

[Foogirl]

Just looking at your siggy what does corrected aged mean? is that what they were meant to be? my due date was yesterday so would rosalies corrected age be 1 day?!

xx

Yep, corrected age is the age they would have been if they went full term. So Rosalie is indeed 1 day old.

All developmental milestones etc should be measured from corrected age rather than the actual age.


That's if you pay attention to such things

 

[_Vicky_]

Well just to add my two pence worth lol - I have twins one Fynn was in NICU for nearly three weeks and Sam who wasnt in at all. I am MORE protective over Fynn and get scared every time he is sick (he had a food intolerance due to immature bowel) I believe I bonded better with Fynn straight away. Sam is robust and laid back whereas Fynn is sensitive and appears to be more fragile in body and spirit - its very very early days as Fynn has only been home a few weeks but I think my feelings towards my boys are more due to their individual characters than the NICU experience. xxx

 

[premmiemum123]

Not really sure to be honest...I might not have been as relaxed as I am now. Having seen what a premmie babies goes through when Emily cries we don't rush to her as we know she is ok, whereas if she was full term I might have rushed to her every whimper, who knows.
Also I had the best coaching for looking after a baby so felt I was really prepared for her coming home. If she had been full term I might have been all fingers and thumbs and bit of reck trying to work it all out.
Great question and has made me think about this.

 

[Fiestagal]

I think I would have been less relaxed had Connor been my first, but as a 2nd time mum I don't worry as much.

Our bonding wasn't affected but he did bf from early on and I did practically live in. I think I gloss over the scbu stay and he never gave us any scares once he was out and I saw much more fragile babies (albeit bigger than Connor). He was in a incubator for 3 days and due to my section I only saw him for 10 minutes on that first day and then had to wait 20 hours before I could get to see him again. I did get annoyed reading a post on another forum were the mum is having terrible trouble getting over the fact that she didn't get her skin to skin for 1 hour after her child's birth (full termer, none scbu stay), but I suppose she has a right to feel that way and I'm being mean.

 

[Foogirl]

I did get annoyed reading a post on another forum were the mum is having terrible trouble getting over the fact that she didn't get her skin to skin for 1 hour after her child's birth (full termer, none scbu stay), but I suppose she has a right to feel that way and I'm being mean.

It's natural to get annoyed with these things. I think full term mums just don't understand. I'm sure it felt terrible for her, but it is nothing compared to not seeing your LO for 24 hours - which was how long it took before I saw Abby. I wouldn't say you were being mean at all.