What should I do??

[VanWest]

I just got back from my doctors appointment. Everytime I go there and I see one of the "doctors" I feel like shit. I feel so uncomfortable around both of them. I feel like they "hate" me. I feel like Im making a mistake having them as my OBGYN. They told me I gained 15 lbs in 4 weeks, OKay I know and Im depressed about it, but HELP me, They never told me what to eat I feel so f***in lost with this pregnancy. I had my 20 week scan. Did they mention it to me? NO glad I f**king work where I had them done or else I would have no clue if my baby was okay. So what do I DO? Should I try to switch to a midwife but will anyone see me at 24 weeks . Im so depressed, crying everything. Doesnt help my husband has been working down south for 1 month. Sigh. I just feel so alone. My gut says Im making a mistake having them as a doctor but Im scared. I wish I would of done what I wanted and traveled down the home birth plan....but NO My mother and husband said it was to dangerous... thats nice but I feel like Im going through this all by myself sometimes. Looks like I might be "husband free" intill Feb. Maybe thats why Im freaking out.
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[PitBullMommy]

First of all . If your doc is making you feel awful like that I would definietly switch. NOONE has the right to make you feel like that, let alone your doctor!

 

[AquaDementia]

I'd say find someone who is more caring and sympathetic. Maybe a midwife is a good way to go.

 

[VanWest]

Do you think a midwife will take my case now at 24 weeks?

 

[AquaDementia]

no idea because i am only with my regular physician for now. i get referred to an obgyn later on when i am 25 weeks.

call around and ask.

 

[Samantha675]

You should find someone else. I am using a midwife, and I am so much happier than I know I would have been with an OB. My midwife is a bit of a nut, but she is very caring, and I totally trust her with my body and my baby. Each appointment is at least an hour, and she looks after my total health, physical, mental and emotional. My advice would be to call around and speak to any midwives or birthing centers in your area.

 

[goldlion]

Aww, Van.. so sorry to hear that your doctor's are dipsticks! Definitely switch, girl. Nobody should make you feel bad about who you are and nobody should ever make you feel as though they "hate" you. Look into the midwife thing, you may still be able to find one-- I don't see why you wouldn't be able to. I'm not all too familiar with midwives though as they don't have them in my region. If not, just switch doctors, there's nothing wrong with that.

Keep your chin up girl.. don't let idiots get you down! Hope your husband won't be gone too long

 

[Jenny]

I would call around and see if you can find someone, those doctors sound very unhelpful. I hope you find someone!

 

[Jamie]

I would call around and find someone else. You should always be comfy with your dr!

 

[Holldoll]

I would think if you are not high risk, someone would pick you up. You have to be comfortable with your doctor. This is the person you have to deal with when you are the most vulnerable and in the hardest position.

 

[JamieX]

I'm sorry you had to go through all the stress, especially now we are very prone to depressions with all the hormonal changes and stuffs...
I was once very depressed and crying myself to sleep almost every night. I could even cry at work.

Like the other ladies said, change another dr or to a midwife, and if they are more caring and kind to you, I'm sure you would feel so much better. You need to feel better soon, hun....(hugs)

 

[luckyme225]

Sorry you doctor is such a loser I would try and switch to someone else for sure!

 

[VanWest]

Im going to think about it more while at work today. Another issue is I paid them 500 dollars already, and now I dont think they will give it back to me if I leave, and my husband just started working after being out of a job for almost 3 months. IE we can't afford to pay anyone else. Sometimes I just wanna SCREAM!! LMAO

 

[goldlion]

Oh! I forgot you had to pay down there! Come to Canada lol

 

[honeybunch2k7]

Do what you want to do!!! I'm sure there is a midwife who will help you.

 

[Mango]

Aww VanWest I'm sorry you have to go through this. Your doctor/midwife should be very comforting and informative!! You should be looking forward to your appointments NOT dreading them hun!

Pregnancy is a very special experience and you should be enjoying every bit of it. If your doc is causing you to feel otherwise I would switch. And I'm pretty certain that 24wks is NOT to late to switch at all!

 

[VanWest]

My co-workers has contacted his sister who works for a big group who everyone seems to LOVE. She is going to talk to the doc to see if they will accept me as a patient *fingers crossed*

 

[luckyme225]

good luck!!

 

[Holldoll]

Why did you pay them $500? For the care for the entire pregnancy? They can't charge you for work they haven't performed. Do you have insurance?

 

[goldlion]

Good luck, Van! I hope these people will take you on, I'm not sure why they wouldn't. Fingers crossed for you girlie!!!