flamingpanda
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My eldest brother has just told me his wedding plans. It's 2 years away and abroad. The room will be £1500 and flights £350 each. I was very honest and told him we really don't earn enough to be able to afford such an event. He said he'd asked Mum & Dad to help us out which honestly I found a bit annoying. First of all, I wouldn't take that money because Mum and Dad don't earn much beyond what we do and my brother is absolutely loaded (his salary is 2x what we earn combined). I think he has a cheek telling them to help us out.
So I told him realistically we won't be going.
But I feel dreadful. Like I don't want to miss my brothers big day. The problem is we don't have much spare each month as it is, whilst if we scrimped we probably could afford it but we would have to make a lot of sacrifices. With an 8 month old I feel that's really unfair to my little family.
We had lots of plans over the next few years, like clearing our debts and hopefully saving towards a deposit for our own home. I know that "no" is the sensible answer but I just feel terribly stressed about it all.
Has anyone ever missed a close family wedding because of cost? Should I just bite the bullet and put our lives on hold again until this wedding is over and done? What would you do?
So I told him realistically we won't be going.
But I feel dreadful. Like I don't want to miss my brothers big day. The problem is we don't have much spare each month as it is, whilst if we scrimped we probably could afford it but we would have to make a lot of sacrifices. With an 8 month old I feel that's really unfair to my little family.
We had lots of plans over the next few years, like clearing our debts and hopefully saving towards a deposit for our own home. I know that "no" is the sensible answer but I just feel terribly stressed about it all.
Has anyone ever missed a close family wedding because of cost? Should I just bite the bullet and put our lives on hold again until this wedding is over and done? What would you do?