mlyn26
Mummy to Isaac & Jasmine
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Hi all 
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I began TTC in October 2008 and 15 months later (but only 6 cycles later - my time on YASMIN seriously messed up by cycles) got a BFP this February. I sadly miscarried in March but fell pregnant again on my second cycle in June. Sadly that pregnancy was not to be and on the 22nd June i discovered the pregnancy was ectopic and underwent surgery that same day to remove baby and my left tube. I never thought firstly it would take so long to fall and then secondly that i'd have 2 losses in just 3 months.
Anyway, the docs advised i wait for 3 cycles or 2 months (whichever is sooner) to TTC again. I had a heavy period 2 days after my op on 22nd June and have just come on today so period 2. Will be due on again early sep (my cycles are about 37/38 days) which will then bring me to just over 3 months and 3 periods before i ovulate in late sept/early oct.
I HATE my job working for probation and really want out. I have applied for new jobs (have interview for one on thurs) and hopefully i will be offered a new job in next few weeks/months.
So...........the question is,
what do i do about TTC and getting a new job. Even if i get a new job, due to nature of jobs i go for will have to await a CRB check (roughly 4 weeks) BEFORE i can hand in my 4 weeks notice. So around 8 weeks between being successful and starting new job. Then IF i get new job, to be eligible for employers MAT pay i have t be in job for around 6 months before conception i think.
Now my left tube has been removed so this will mean it takes longer to get pregnant and the thought of waiting over 6 months before i even start trying again is, well devastating!
So my options are;
1. stay where i am and be miserable, hope to fall pregnant real soon but have mounds of stress which i fear contributed to my miscarriage in March, BUT if successful pregnancy get MAT pay.
2. Just continue TTC when i can - so October. If new job comes and starts then will miss out on MAT pay (and they will probably hate me as wont know circs) BUT we can JUST afford it now DH has got into london fire service. This will then mean i dont have to return to work after the year maternity leave (unless i want to) as wont need to pay MAT money back or work any notice to avoid paying it back.
3. Wait to TTC until i get new job and have worked period to make me eligible, so could be about a whole 8 months when i do feel pretty desperate for baby. However, 6-8 month wait could give me time to lose weight and feel better emotionally and physically. Also if i LOVE the new job i might want to return and so would be gutted to miss out on employers MAT leave when i have worked damn hard for years!
So firstly, what would YOU do, and
secondly, what do you THINK I should do?
,I began TTC in October 2008 and 15 months later (but only 6 cycles later - my time on YASMIN seriously messed up by cycles) got a BFP this February. I sadly miscarried in March but fell pregnant again on my second cycle in June. Sadly that pregnancy was not to be and on the 22nd June i discovered the pregnancy was ectopic and underwent surgery that same day to remove baby and my left tube. I never thought firstly it would take so long to fall and then secondly that i'd have 2 losses in just 3 months.
Anyway, the docs advised i wait for 3 cycles or 2 months (whichever is sooner) to TTC again. I had a heavy period 2 days after my op on 22nd June and have just come on today so period 2. Will be due on again early sep (my cycles are about 37/38 days) which will then bring me to just over 3 months and 3 periods before i ovulate in late sept/early oct.
I HATE my job working for probation and really want out. I have applied for new jobs (have interview for one on thurs) and hopefully i will be offered a new job in next few weeks/months.
So...........the question is,
what do i do about TTC and getting a new job. Even if i get a new job, due to nature of jobs i go for will have to await a CRB check (roughly 4 weeks) BEFORE i can hand in my 4 weeks notice. So around 8 weeks between being successful and starting new job. Then IF i get new job, to be eligible for employers MAT pay i have t be in job for around 6 months before conception i think.
Now my left tube has been removed so this will mean it takes longer to get pregnant and the thought of waiting over 6 months before i even start trying again is, well devastating!
So my options are;
1. stay where i am and be miserable, hope to fall pregnant real soon but have mounds of stress which i fear contributed to my miscarriage in March, BUT if successful pregnancy get MAT pay.
2. Just continue TTC when i can - so October. If new job comes and starts then will miss out on MAT pay (and they will probably hate me as wont know circs) BUT we can JUST afford it now DH has got into london fire service. This will then mean i dont have to return to work after the year maternity leave (unless i want to) as wont need to pay MAT money back or work any notice to avoid paying it back.
3. Wait to TTC until i get new job and have worked period to make me eligible, so could be about a whole 8 months when i do feel pretty desperate for baby. However, 6-8 month wait could give me time to lose weight and feel better emotionally and physically. Also if i LOVE the new job i might want to return and so would be gutted to miss out on employers MAT leave when i have worked damn hard for years!
So firstly, what would YOU do, and
secondly, what do you THINK I should do?
