What would I do about FOB visits?

[Kte]

Okay so my OH and I are on the rocks, well its a shipwreck upon the rocks. Things may work out or they may not and I'm trying to figure out what I will do if they don't.

He is a serious head case at the moment, so I suggested contact centre visits. He went mental but I figure if he wants to see his LO then its better than nothing right?

Anyway, he works shifts, he wants to see her weekends at the house if we break up - but he gets Thursday and Friday off as essentially his weekend whereas I get the weekend - I work full time. I want to be able to have a life, not have to think about visits every weekend and I want time with my daughter too.

What can I do? I'm right in saying its not rite he gets every weekend aren't i?!?

 

[Laura2919]

My ex's work is a bit funny to not shifts but he dont have a set day off.

He will have two days in the week and work a saturday or he will have one day in the week and a saturday off!

I agreed that the ex would see the girls twice a week and that gives me a break also! But i work part time so I see them in the afternoons and I have the weekends off too.. I would say that the weekends are for you so he could have her thursday and friday which are his days off!
As long as your giving him contact then he cant grumble or he should take you to court. He'd lose out cos your being more than fair

 

[littlekitten8]

I agree hun. He should have Chloe on his days off. The weekends should be girly time for you and her. FOB won't be having James on weekends if he ever bothers asking. Thats my time with James. Massive

 

[Linz88]

1 day on his day off and 1 day on the weekend that way its fair

 

[scottishgal89]

if he has thursday and friday off then thats a reasonable suggestion by you. so is the contact centre if he is being quite angry/ agressive about it all.
you should have time with lo too.
hes obviously just trying to be difficult and cause problems.
dont know why guys have to be so selfish

 

[suzanne108]

What are his reasons for wanting to see her at a weekend? Is it a problem for him to spend his Thurs & Fri with LO?

If it went to a contact centre he would probably only get a few hours a week.

Good luck xx