Welly
Mum to ds (5) and dd (1m)
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Hi Ladies
I am in a complete quandry,and would love to hear your views,if you don't mind. It's a bit of a long story but i'll try to keep it brief....
My cousin fell pregnant several years ago after being with her boyfriend for 4 weeks. She claimed to be 4 weeks pregnant. This is fine,and all adds up! However, she had been with her fiance for 5 years and split with him the day before she slept with this new boyfriend.
She went into labour and claimed the baby was born 4 weeks early, he was not in SCBU he was 8lb something,had fully formed nails,no vernix or anything. So things started to seem a bit odd!
The baby got to about 2 and was the spitting image of her ex-fiance, no denying it. The entire family (including her brothers) believe that the father of the baby if her ex-fiance. Ex-fiance was blonde, boyfriend was dark brown hair. Plus ex-fiance had some very distinguishing features which her son has! I have tried talking to her about it but she is adamant her boyfriend is the father.
Shortly after the little boys 2nd birthday the boyfriend (her husband by then) walked out on her. She was devastated. She had to move back with her Mum and Dad. They got divorced. She is now engaged to someone else. The little boy is now 6.
So....
My quandry is because the ex-husband is paying over £500 a month in child support, he believes the child is his. I really want to contact him and get him to check the paternity of the child, but can't risk him telling my cousin it was me.
I understand my cousin wanting to hurt him,but this isn't fair. This is wrong for the child,the ex-husband, and also for the ex-fiance who has a child who doesn't know about! God, it sounds like something off the Jeremy Kyle show
If you were in my position what would you do? Would you stay out of it, would you send an anonymous email or something? Iknow it doesn'thave anything to do with me, but I feel my cousin is taking the mick!
Thanks xxx
I am in a complete quandry,and would love to hear your views,if you don't mind. It's a bit of a long story but i'll try to keep it brief....
My cousin fell pregnant several years ago after being with her boyfriend for 4 weeks. She claimed to be 4 weeks pregnant. This is fine,and all adds up! However, she had been with her fiance for 5 years and split with him the day before she slept with this new boyfriend.
She went into labour and claimed the baby was born 4 weeks early, he was not in SCBU he was 8lb something,had fully formed nails,no vernix or anything. So things started to seem a bit odd!
The baby got to about 2 and was the spitting image of her ex-fiance, no denying it. The entire family (including her brothers) believe that the father of the baby if her ex-fiance. Ex-fiance was blonde, boyfriend was dark brown hair. Plus ex-fiance had some very distinguishing features which her son has! I have tried talking to her about it but she is adamant her boyfriend is the father.
Shortly after the little boys 2nd birthday the boyfriend (her husband by then) walked out on her. She was devastated. She had to move back with her Mum and Dad. They got divorced. She is now engaged to someone else. The little boy is now 6.
So....
My quandry is because the ex-husband is paying over £500 a month in child support, he believes the child is his. I really want to contact him and get him to check the paternity of the child, but can't risk him telling my cousin it was me.
I understand my cousin wanting to hurt him,but this isn't fair. This is wrong for the child,the ex-husband, and also for the ex-fiance who has a child who doesn't know about! God, it sounds like something off the Jeremy Kyle show
If you were in my position what would you do? Would you stay out of it, would you send an anonymous email or something? Iknow it doesn'thave anything to do with me, but I feel my cousin is taking the mick!
Thanks xxx