When did the fear subside?

[buddabun]

I'm 15w and I'm still not able to relax completely. I know my body has done it once before, we've had 4 scans already and everything has progressed normally... I don't know, I just can't help being afraid I guess. I've been so lucky to have one uncomplicated pregnancy and to have actually been able to get pregnant again when I never really thought I'd ever have even one baby is just so overwhelming. I am so happy to be pregnant again, but I just can't help having my little meltdowns every now and again...

I suppose it's only natural after losses and this LO is due 2 years (almost to the day) after our first LO would have been due so things have kind of come full circle really, but I really want to just stop being so paranoid

When did you stop worrying?

 

[Pippin]

I'm not sure we do Hun until lo is safely here. Even with my son I had my guard up most of the time and that was before my mmc. I'm feeling better now than I was a few weeks ago and I have my scan Tuesday so I'm hoping to feel even better then. We'll worry about them until the day we die I reckon because we all love and care so much

 

[buddabun]

I remember it easing off through late 2nd/early 3rd tri but coming back again as I neared my EDD as I felt she was 'safer out than in' and worried something would go wrong right at the end.

I dunno, maybe I'm expecting to lose another 2 before I get my take home baby like last time...

I wish miscarriages didn't play on your mind this much. I thought I'd moved past them all but apparently not

 

[hb1]

I think the 20 week scan was a big help but then had a bit of stress over amniotic fluid till 24 weeks - after 24 weeks I felt a lot better I think - still the odd wobble but loads more positive.

Now a little worried again but I think that's normal coming up to the birth - just want him here safely and to know he's ok.

hx

 

[buddabun]

I was just the same. I think it's only natural to want them there in your arms in case anything goes wrong, no matter how miniscule the chances. Not long for you hb1!!!

 

[Loui1001]

I'm the same huni, we've had 5 scans so far and all fine but I can only seem to relax for about an hour then I#m back to stressing

Hoping the next few months are healthy and happy ones for you xx

 

[buddabun]

Thanks Loui. I'm not quite that bad any more and just flat out forcing thoughts out of my mind does help but they always catch up with you don't they? And then you have an even bigger wobble

I guess there's nothing to be done but trust to luck that things will all work out

 

[meow951]

I've found i've relaxed a lot more since i've hit 24 weeks.

I still get the odd wobble that something might happen to bubs but i feel a lot better. My 20 week scan really helped put my mind at ease as well.

I think it's normal to worry until bubs is safely here, and then to carry on worrying about them when they are here

I find the best thing is to come on here and rant! Makes you feel 100x better

 

[goddess25]

I don't think you do stop being scared until baby is safely here. Your worries just change the whole time.

 

[buddabun]

But the worries when they are here are so different and I somehow feel more in control of those.

I know that mcs are rarely ever the mother's 'fault' but I can't help feeling like while s/he's inside of me s/he's at the mercy of my screwy body iykwim. Whereas once s/he's here I can be more proactive and practical about protecting him/her.

Don't get me wrong, with Claudia, up until I think her 1st birthday I was still checking her at least once a night to check she was breathing Stupid but there you are, every parent will worry, it's just somehow easier to deal with when you have some sort of semblance of control over the outcome.


Thanks again ladies, I really appreciate these replies. It's nice (well not 'nice' as I wouldn't wish anyone in this situation but you know what I mean) to know that others are feeling a bit wobbly now and again too. Thank you xxx